Does age really matter in a relationship?

Philippines
January 10, 2010 5:10am CST
You may not believe it, but my bf is six-year younger than me. It's a big secret I don't want to disclose. But my sister discovered it when a guy neighbor of my bf talked to her and the topic about my bf came out. It is ok that they would learn about it but I'm waiting for the right time.
14 responses
• United States
7 Feb 10
Age really doesn't matter unless it is illegal or you care what people say about you. My wife is 14 years older than me and we've been together for 25 years. I met her when I was 21 years old and she was 35, and we've had a very happy life together, because we never we're concerned what anyone's opinion was about our relationship. I'm sure that people judge us and have their own negative opinions, but it has never bothered us, and i believe thats why it works. We know that its right for us and thats really all that matters. So, I can say as for me and my wife we don't think age really matters.
@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
i agree that the 6-year gap with you and your boyfriend doesn't really matter. i have friend who got married with younger guys and they live happily. my dad was 33 when he married my mom who was then 25. i have a friend though who's married to a guy about 11 years older than her. it's about her difficulty in keeping a conversation with her husband's friends. they often talk about matters that she can't really relate to so she decides not to meet them each time. LOVE DOES MATTER more than the age.
@sender621 (14934)
• United States
11 Jan 10
We all need different things from our relationships with others. Age should never be a barrier to that. Our ffelings for someone can not be crippled by the punishment of age restrictions. We all have so much to offer. Don't let snything as trivial as age stand in your way.
• India
11 Jan 10
Meiliyeppuda Ji, To me, the age does not matter in a relationship it is the views, your thoughts, feelings, emotions which do really matter in the building of a relationship. To tell you the truth, my wife is 9 years younger than me. She is just 45 years old and still she looks younger whereas I have crossed 54 years of my life. But we are carrrying on very well. So, my conclusion is that it is not the age but similiarity of thoughts, feelings, emotions and sincerity and attraction between the two which matters.
@agaur7 (87)
• India
11 Jan 10
i think age is not big matter in any relationship if understanding is good both of you, but i think if my b/f or husband is 5 or more yonger than me so may be he is amature person. so i think age is a short matter in any relationship.
@coolcat123 (4391)
• India
11 Jan 10
i think it depends upon person to person but according to me the percentage of such people are very high. that is they do feel that age plays a very important part in relationship.
@allknowing (85634)
• India
11 Jan 10
As long as you are not a cradle snatcher it is fine. I expect both of you to be mature adults and that which has brought you together should form a base for a lasting relationship and not just infatuation.
@nautilus33 (1831)
10 Jan 10
HI! Me and my girlfriend are on the same age, but I think if the man and the woman loves each other truly, and it is not just an affair, then age has no matter in their relationship.
@dodo19 (38701)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
10 Jan 10
To be honest, I really don't think that age really matters in a relationship. I don't think that it's really important, so long as the two people love each other. I think that the important thing in a relationship is in love with each other.
@emediloy (701)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 10
i don't think its really matter at all.before married,i had relationship with my ex who is 5 years younger than me.and it is okey.i think age doesn't matter.the more important is how to keep your love,trust each other,communication,and respect.be happy!
@codris (783)
• Italy
10 Jan 10
i think yes, i thik that is important to have a similar age, not necessary teh same age, but about 3-4 years of difference. I know a girl with 16 years old, and she has a boyfriends 35 years old, i think that this boy is an idiot, you can be her father, how can you stay with her? do you like fresh meat?. i don't think that this is true love, i think that is only a teenager love.
@marguicha (129248)
• Chile
10 Jan 10
Age matter is no issue when both people are fully grownup. But if you hide his age, it means that you don´t accept him as he is. Think about it and beware. I had a bf 20 years my senior after I became a widow. I finished the relationship, but not because of his age. There were other problems that didn´t have to do with that. I would think there´s a problem though if you are in your late 20s and your bf is just entering manhood. He should be too immature for you. Take care!
@DCLehnsherr (1041)
10 Jan 10
Hi Meiliyeppuda, In my experience 6 years is almost the idea age gap in a relationship. My brother, grandparents and other people have 6 years between themselves and their partners and they are so in love it is unreal! Personally I don't see anything wrong with age gap relationships with an even greater gap between partners. My mental age is older than my physical age and so I am drawn to people nearly twice my age on occasions. I am not in a relationship with such a person, but the attraction has caused me to think a lot about age gap relationships and like the person before me I believe that it is the thoughts of the couple that are the only thoughts which matter in the end. If you and your boyfriend are happy together then try not to worry about what anyone else thinks. Your family and friends will see how in love you are and when they do they should choose to support you because they want you both to be happy All the best and I hope your relationship is long lasting Dranz
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
Six years gap in a relationship is not a big issue for me when the guy is older but when he's younger than me, I think I have to think twice. I dont want to baby sit a guy because he's immature. In your case, you will always be the one to decide if age gap really matter in your relationship. Many people will bring you down or may try to separate you but if both of you stand for your decision and mature enough not to mind those nonsense then age gap really doesnt matter.