***Beauty And The Beast?***Could You?***

United States
January 10, 2010 3:15pm CST
I was just watching a movie, not the cartoon, of Beauty and the Beast, and was just wondering, hmmmmmmm. The movie is about a girl who ended up living happily ever after with this lion-like looking guy with bushy hair. When she first met him, was totally disenchanted because of the way he looked physically, and could barely look at him because his appearance scared her, so basically, she was turned off. But he was very kind to her, and eventually, his kindness overwhelmed her, and she fell in love. That's a really short version, haha. Could you or did you fall in love with someone that you were not PHYSICALLY attracted to at first? Are you still together? Did you end up getting married? Do you think you could ever fall in love with someone like that, or do you need some sort of physical attraction? Just curious so have fun with this.
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@bunnybon7 (40300)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Jan 10
oh most certainly. that used to be one of my favorite stories. and the funny thing is, my last hubby was like that. not very good looking but a wonderful man. i'd been so abused by others that his kindness changed my life. i didnt think he was good looking at all when we met, but fell for him and married him and started thinking he looked pretty good. if he hadnt passed away i know we'd still be very happy together.
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@bunnybon7 (40300)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Jan 10
btw, that really does prove that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"!!
• United States
15 Jan 10
Awww, I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you had some happiness for a while. And yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but most people don't realize that. It's nice to hear of someone who feels that way and has lived through that experience.
• United States
20 Jan 10
I never was attracted to a man who was physically unattractive so I guess that's an answer. However, I did want to share what one woman told me. She said she married an ugly man and thought at the time that he must have a beautiful soul. She then said, "Boy, was I wrong! He was just as ugly inside as he was outside."
• United States
20 Jan 10
Wow, what a statement that was! I bet she was surprised to find out he wasn't what she thought. Sometimes though, the better looking one's are the worst to deal with. I guess you just never know today, it's a gamble, haha.
@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
13 Jan 10
I have seen the Film and I loved it I always say look deeper do not always look at the outside as it can be very deceiving Beauty comes from the inside not the outside
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• United States
13 Jan 10
That's so true gabs! Such a world we live in though, with so many people just looking on the outside, and not even noticing what that person has to offer. I think alot of people have made big mistakes by going for the looks of a person with just a physical attraction, instead of the beautiful attributes they have to offer coming straight from the heart.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Truly this proves that beauty is in the eye of the beholder...for me it's usually something that attracts me...personality etc...and then they grow on me....I haven't ever just fell in love with someone regardless of the looks...but the more you like them the better looking they get. It's strange that you started this discussion....my oldest sister's daughter just moved from Minnesota to Tennessee with a guy she hasn't known for that long. My niece is college educated, never married....tall and skinny and very attractive...her new beau is short,chunky....been married two times...is not attractive to most people....and my sister says...I don't get it! Well my younger sister and I agree.....that he must have some magic...like treating her with respect and giving her the things she needs emotionally......so to my sister he is a beast....to my neice...he is her knight in shining armour!
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• United States
12 Jan 10
I've heard those words so many times, that's what got me to thinking about this. I hope your niece lives happily ever after and maybe in time your sister will come around to seeing how he treats her. Great story. And you're right, the more you get to know someone, the more attractive they are in the eye of the beholder.
• United States
10 Jan 10
It definitely could happen but it would take time. Physical attraction is something that is immediate when you meet someone. Getting to know someone and have genuine feelings for someone takes time. When you have that connection with someone your perception of attraction can rapidly change. So yeah it can easily happen but it would take developing a close relationship to do it.
• United States
10 Jan 10
I agree with you when you say "your perception of attraction can rapidly change" but most people turn away from it. I just thought it was an interesting question as everyone is so concerned today with looking beautiful or handsome, they forget to look deeper, and probably miss out on what could be a very happy relationship.
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
10 Jan 10
I think that you can be with a partner that it`s not goodlooking , but he/she need to compensate in other domains verry well, even if all other domains are just fine, maybe you will not be with that partner for ever, and that, maybe because of your friends, or simply because of mean people that are talking on the street, when they pass you and say bad things, like " how can you stay with that wale" ? or something that will make you think once again if he/she really deserve to be with you , or you deserve to stay with your partner.
• United States
10 Jan 10
I've heard many people say things like that...how could she be married to him?, or how could he be married to her? And it's only because one of them isn't as good looking as the other one, or one is overweight. But if you truly love this person for what they are, and not for what they look like, whatever anyone says shouldn't make a bit of difference.
@Hatley (164338)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jan 10
kashmeresmycat hi there I was attracted to my mate so guess that lets me out,but had he been less attractive physically it wou ld never have minded as I loved him for the person inside him, the fun loving optimist that was congenitally positive about each day, and had a wide wonderful sense of humor. had he been homely it would not have made a bit of difference to me.
• United States
10 Jan 10
Oh but see Hatley, you said you were "attracted to him" in the first place. If he was homely right off the bat, would you have been interested in him, or ended up just being friends? It's kind of a hard question for people, because you know the type of person he is now and love him more for it. But, I'm curious if you would have never given this a chance if you weren't attracted to him, haha. Am I confusing everyone yet? I'm happy that you have found your life's mate, that's just awesome, and I love hearing stuff like that.