Will you get angry with your child's teacher?

mother and son - dissapointed mom and son
Singapore
January 11, 2010 6:54pm CST
My son, 9 years old, was chosen to play soccer for the school team. Since he loves sports, especially soccer, he was so excited to participate in one of the school match for the first time. When he got home that day, I asked him about the match. He looked dissapointed and really sad. He then told me that he was given the school jersey to wear. However, in the bus one of the coach asked him to take off the jersey. My son was embarrassed as he had to take off the jersey there and then on the bus in front of all his team mates. To make matter worse, he did not get a chance to play that day but just sit and watch the game instead. I felt bad for him but my husband was really angry. He decided to write to the school principal about the matter but I stopped him. I don't want my son to be more embarrassed than it already was. Have you ever got angry with your child's teacher? What would you do if similar thing happen to your child?
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@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
12 Jan 10
Hi there!Maybe u can ask the teacher why he did that to your kid. I know us parents really are affected especially if our kid was humiliated or something. But I hope that u will talk to the teacher in such a way that he won't take it against your kid. And then when u heard the explanation, by then u can decide what is the best thing to do. I am truly blessed because my kid's teachers are really nice and I feel really comfortable leaving her in school. Happy my lotting to u!
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• Singapore
13 Jan 10
You are very lucky!
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
12 Jan 10
try talking to the coach an find out what problem is I had to take on my daughters teacher an won my daughter had a boy in her class that liked to touch the girls this in the grade and she came home an told me that she told the teacher the boy touched her and the teacher told I didn't see him do it so oh well right well a few other girls complained about this boy I guess th teacher didnt want to deal with it cause she kept saying she didnt see anything my daughter ask me mom what if dose it again can I pop him I told her yes seeing the school didnt want to deal with it well the boy did it again an my daughter knock him on his butt guess what the teacher saw that an suspended my daughter I threaten to call the school board cause no kid should be touched where they don't want to they have viedo camera's in the school an replayed them an saw this boy has problems they let my daughter back in school an the boy is hopefully getting help
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• Singapore
13 Jan 10
I am glad that your daughter's case has been resolved. I believe school is where our children learn to be independent with condifence and if some unpleasant situation make them scared to go to school, we need to handle it fast. Thumbs up for being a brave mom.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
12 Jan 10
was chosen to play soccer for the school team.....he was given the school jersey to wear. However, in the bus one of the coach asked him to take off the jersey. okay I would have issues with this right away..if one of my kids was CHOSEN to be part of the team AND GIVEN a jersey to wear as well I would definately want to know WHY he was told to remove the jersey by the coach no less especially if none of the other kids were tld to do the same....HOWEVER I would make sure I had my facts straight..Rather than goin to the coach, teacher or principal etc and b!tch them out I'd find out EXACTLY what happened then go from there. My son was embarrassed as he had to take off the jersey there and then on the bus in front of all his team mates. Well if it turned out that he WAS in fact a team member and NO OTHER team member was asked to remove there jersey I'd want to know why AND yes I would definately let the coach know that his timing SUCKED and for someone who works with kids all day he should have better sense.. To make matter worse, he did not get a chance to play that day but just sit and watch the game instead. I wouldnt sweat this..not every player plays every game and it could just be that with him being new to the team the coach wanted him to see how things worked and wants to get him into some practices FIRST before putting him on the field for an actual game..which is logical really..
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
12 Jan 10
LOL OH and to answer your question about whether or not I would get mad at a teacher..YES when its warrented and yes I speak up, and its not just the teachers..there have been times I've spoken my mind to the principals as well..
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
I see, that you are a very upright person and gee, thanks for the concern. I don't mind if my son was not allowed to play just because of mere reason, 'handball'. According to my son the ball hit his hand by accident when he wanted to tackle it during practice. But again, to take off the jersey in the bus? I mean he could ask him to do that after match. Anyway, just yesterday my son went to his soccer training. He was reluctant at first, but after convincing him that this is part of growing up, where everyone has to grow through to be a strong person, he eventually went. My husband went with him. According to my husband, his team mates welcome him with open arms and I am glad. He got home from practised and saw him happy and vibrant. Thank GOD!
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
12 Jan 10
One of my daughter's teacher had some sort of jealousy or I do not know what it is, on my daughter. She always used to talk sarcastically to my daughter and degrade her in one way or other. Even the other girls knew about it. Once my daughter was seconded by some students for standing for the Scholl head election. This teacher said, no girl can stand for election, she cannot run around. But election was conducted and my daughter won the election. Then also she objected. She was the head mistress then. But the second in the election, a boy came and told in front of all the teachers and students that it is my daughter who won the election and she must be allowed to be the leader of the school and that he should not be taken for the post. Everybody supported it. Then there was no other go for her but to accept my daughter to be the school leader. We never interfered in these things as we thought my child has to face further problem with her and it is only one more year to go in the school.
• Singapore
12 Jan 10
Like you, I really don't like to intefere. I hope my children can grow up confidently and independently.
@youless (112097)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Jan 10
I am not very satisfied with my son's present teacher. My son studies in the kindergarten. Perhaps this teacher has not been a mom yet, so she doesn't have a parent's feelings. Her attitude is not good and she often speaks/yells to the children very loudly. Some children will have a start because of her sudden loud voice. Children think she is serious and don't like her. My son doesn't care about her very much. However, I can't complain about it to the headmaster because of these "little" things. I don't want the children will have a harder experience because this teacher is supposed to teach them until they go to the primary school. Perhaps this is why I can understand you stopped your husband writing the letter to the school principal. If the things can not be solved, the complain will just have a worse result. I love China
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• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Yes, eventually he has to see the teacher every training.
• United States
12 Jan 10
Was there a reason the coach did this, or was it simply an un-needed act of stupidity? I would talk to the principal firstly, and ask him or her to call the coach in. I would discuss it maturely, but if I found that his actions were uncalled for, or were for a random, small reason, I would ask that action be taken. When these things happen to children, it's important for them to stand up in the right way for themselves. However in this situation I would step in, as your son couldn't defy an adult within the school. I personally would be angry, but would try to be the bigger one. Your son needs to understand if he did something wrong, but if he hadn't done anything wrong then he would need to understand that it wasn't his fault, and that sometimes these things just happen. I hope you get it worked out, because I would be so upset if my son couldn't do something he really wanted to all because of the uncalled for actions of an adult with 'power'.
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• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Thanks for the concern. My son told me the reason for him not to play was because of a handball during the practice. Not sure what that means because I am not a soccer fan. According to my son the ball just hit his hand by accident when trying to tackle it. Even so, I am not happy. I mean the coach can just let my son sit on the bench without asking to take off the jersey in front of the team mates. He could do that after the match.
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
12 Jan 10
I actually have had this happen. Not soccer but Peewee Football. The coach cut my child from the team on his first game. The reason stated for the cut was because he was unruley. I don't think a bunch of 1st graders are really capable of sitting on the sidelines and not playing, but being perfectly still during the game. Had I noticed any "unruley" activity I would have said something to my child. But honestly there were 4 or 5 kids just playing around on the sidelines, and my kid got cut. I went to the coach about it and it escalated to slightly raised voices, but not much further. I just found another place for my child to play that had more understanding coaches.
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
That's great. Your son can enjoy the game without stressed.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Hi sarina, Yes there have been times when my kids were growing up that I got upset at how a teacher handled certain things. I would calm down and then go up and ask for the teacher's side of the story. The key is to remain calm. Sometimes the teacher has an excellent explanation for what happened and other times not. In your situation I can not imagine why your son was forced to take off his shirt in front of everyone like that. I would without a doubt be up at that school and having a little chat with that teacher.
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Thanks for the concern.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jan 10
hi sainahahmad you should have had your husband go to the co ach man to man and tell him you did not appreciate his humiliating your son like that. if the coach erred and then r ealized it doing it on the bus was so wrong, so mean it well it makes me mad and I am not his parent. no that coach needs to be talked to and if he does not apologize to your son, take it to the principal of the school. that is not correct behavior for any coach.
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jan 10
I'm mad already. Geez, it was the coaches right not to play you son, but to make him take off the jersey like that? Just hurtful. I think you would be right to complain in this situation.
@MrKennedy (1978)
12 Jan 10
I would be very, very mad if this were my child. The teacher has publically humiliated him and treated your kid terribly. If I were in your shoes, I would immediately march into the school and demand an apology.
• India
12 Jan 10
if he/she [child's teacher is doing well or doing for the beterment of our child then why to angry with him mor her.. teacher must be treated as our family member..and must be respected if he is doing some punishment to our child for his best future ..
• Singapore
13 Jan 10
Yes, I agree but to take off the jersey in front of his team mates? He could do that after the match.
@matre0 (3)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
12 Jan 10
Well if you ask me, you can not expect for your son to play a match first few weeks.He has to work hard for a lot of time and then when his coach notices his effort he will definetely put him to play. About taking off the jersey infrount the whole team,I am sure that the coach did not mean anything wrong but if your child feels embarased you should go to coach and discuse it so it does not happen again.