how should be the parents. strict or friend?

India
January 13, 2010 9:08am CST
i just want to know your comments about this.my parents are very friendly to me .what about your parents.but my friends parents are not so friendly to them,they were very strict.
9 responses
• India
13 Jan 10
they should be strict till teenage and friendly till adulthood and a good advisor of life till the rest
• Malaysia
13 Jan 10
well, parents should be friends. since they will become friends, they will know what's the best for their children, it's like a friend who doesn't want their friend to gain nothing in lives.
• Mexico
13 Jan 10
In my opinion,the parents have to be friendly most of the time.why? because some parents believe that if they beat their children or treat them with bad words they will be doing something good for they.But I donĀ“t think so,If you want your children to understand and love you just treat them with love...and my mom is very friendly with me
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
I am not a parent yet but I want to be a friend to my future children since it will be more fun for them if I will not be too strict and authoritative.
@nautilus33 (1830)
13 Jan 10
Hi! I think parents should be both. They must be strict with their kids and in the same time they must be their friends. If the kids have as like friends then they will share with us everything, so that we can help them!
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
For me, I think it would be better for parents to have both of these characteristics. A parent that is too strict may cause a child to rebel. On the other hand, if a parent is over friendly to his/her child, the child may freely do whatever he/she wants to do even if it's no longer good. Being strict for sometimes can be helpful in order to discipline one's child. The child must be scared of his/her parents in order for that child to avoid committing mistakes. Being friendly sometimes is also good so that parent-child bonding will be present. Children can also have the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings regarding some issues affecting them.
@maximax8 (31136)
• United Kingdom
13 Jan 10
I watch programs like Super Nanny and Nanny 911. I know that parents have to be gentle towards a baby. Then the parents should be firm but kind in the toddler years. Household rules should be made up when the child gets to five years old. A child should respect his or her parents and the house rules. A parent should be loving but fairly strict in order to maintain control. A child should be shown how to do household tasks to help his or her parents. Then the child will grow up to be a helpful, polite and respectful teenager. Parents of children aged five to ten could have a 'naughty mat' or a 'reflection chair'. They could have a progress chart with a design that interests the child. A parent should be different to a friend. Strictness with fairness is wise. I don't think that hitting a child does anything but teach violence. It is far better to develop good language skills.
@megamatt (14304)
• United States
13 Jan 10
A happy medium between the two is the best way to do things. Be too soft on your kids and they misbehave. Be too strict, and that could lead to an entirely different problem with them. There is a time and a place for both styles of parenting I think. There will be different situations that will require different levels of discipline. Kids should not fear their parents but at the same time they should not be able to get away with everything. There is always a happy medium to be found in these situations.
@tap0991 (2766)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I think a parent should know when to have fun and when to be serious.Because too much of anything is bad.My dad parents arent too strict but they can be strict and at the same time they are very friendly and fun loving at the right times. I have also been to friends houses and their parents were ultra strict and when I was over there I pretty much wanted to revolt for them at something their parents said to them.