"I LOVE U BACAUSE I NEED YOU" or "I NEED YOU BECAUSE I LOVE YOU"

Philippines
January 13, 2010 9:27am CST
For me I'd rather choose the man i need because i love him rather that u love him because u just need him...there are some situations especially in partners that they jst love their partner because u want something from him,u just love ur partner for what he/she have rather than what he/she are..ayt?
4 responses
nawanta
@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 10
If I'm not wrong, those sentences are from Erich Fromm. He's a great philosopher. Those are about the maturity of love. Childish love said that I love you because I need you. And it is a mature love that said, I need you because i love you. I think we should grow up to have a mature love.
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
yah thats true, we need to be mature enough to our feeling in entering a new chapter of our lives like mine,we gt married last year,but i can say that i grow up and confident to my feelings for my husband,,hes the only man I need.
nawanta
@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 10
I think we need all the time of our life to have mature love. Maybe untill the end of our life we won't be mature enough in love. But we may not stop trying and growing up.
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
yes its on us,,we just need to be open minded on everything..
weasel81
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
14 Jan 10
i read that in a book, can't remember the name of it thou. but it does make sense, take a step from your relationship and have a look at things and your partners attuide. i found it made more sense at that point.
weasel81
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
15 Jan 10
i have trouble describing things, and can mainly describe things from experience. i can see my partner only loves me cause he needs me. he's spoilt rotten, and doesn't apreceiate what i do for him, most blokes would be in heaven. that make sense?
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
yes u can really find it in any refernce my dear..but i was trying to imply here the real situations of every relationships rather than reading books..Atleast wen you put it in here u can really feel the feelings of others based on their experiences..
MimiRemo
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
It should be 'I need you because I love you'. I for one, don't want to be loved because I can do something for him nor because of this and that, but rather because he simply cannot be complete without me. I know my man had said something similar to me, but I also believe that it is not that easy to assert and live up to.
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
yah i agree to that, i wanted to be loved by my man for being me and not for the things i can gve..I need my husband, that why I love him..
gowsik
@gowsik (100)
• India
14 Jan 10
never fall in love it will be nice and neat at first but very bad at last
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
hahah..ya ryt but love is everywhere..its nice to be hurt and be loved..though in every situation u really encounter problems but its normal..God will never gave us trials if we don't know how to handle it..in the end u don't know its him that ur looking for..cheers:)