I really down right now

United States
January 13, 2010 3:53pm CST
In June my boyfriend went to jail for DUI. And I have been having a hard time paying my bills. I can't sleep at night and feel very low. He gets out in two more months.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
27 Jan 10
Hi strawpurple, I'm sorry that you are having a hard time of things. I was once married to a man that spent time a couple of times in jail for DWI charges. We had children together. I know the feeling but at the same time...use this time to get stronger so that you are not relying on him because to be honest...he is not reliable. He is lucky he got off as easy as he did and no one got hurt. This could have been a lot worse of a situation.
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@sures77 (44)
• India
23 Jan 10
Dear friend i am very sorry to at the situation you are in. It is better to think of how it happended & take steps to avoid the situation in future. in such times it is better to keep busy & take up part time job to improve your finances. and do some charity , help the more deprived people.it will give you strenth to endure the present times.
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@1denny (34)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Hi strawpurple, I'm sorry for your troubles. Times are tough and when you toss in a few extra problems, you got a right to be depressed. That being said, if your boyfriend comes home and continues doing the same thing over again, is that going to help or hurt the situation. I'm assuming you and your boyfriend have some time together, but is it a healthy relationship? Do you dread him getting out or look forward to it? Look at the possibilities of getting some help for your depression, then take a serious look at your relationship, and last for help with the bills. So much of the time I holler about the bills being the problem, causing my stress, sleeplessness etc. when it's actually more of the underlying stuff that is eating me up. The stuff I needed to look at was in me. If a person goes to jail for DUI, there's a problem somewhere that needs to be addressed. I just have to take what is on hand that I can do something about and then move on to the next life experience. It all works out taking things a step at a time. Good luck and keep a smile on even if you don't feel like it. It helps.
@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
14 Jan 10
oh, I'm sorry to hear this. It's hard to go from two incomes to one, and to handle things when something like this has happened. I'm trying to find ways to generate extra income too, and I find it's a good way to feel like I'm doing something about my problems.
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@maezee (38846)
• United States
13 Jan 10
Wow! That sucks! I can definitely see how it might be hard to make ends meet. Possibly you could get some help (borrow money) from someone you trust until your boyfriend gets out of jail? Or pick up another job or something? Definitely look into your online opportunities though. It won't supplement your income, but it well definitely help you pay for at least a couple bills per month if you put enough effort into it!
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• United States
13 Jan 10
I don't know if this will help you. But,I am in a rut myself right now. I am looking for ways to earn extra cash. maybe you could find something yourself. It may even help you to not need him so much. Good luck to you.
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@donna22 (1120)
13 Jan 10
Im very sorry that you are going through this. This may seem personal but will you be ok to pay the bills when he comes home?
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