Things Are Happening Fast Now

United States
January 13, 2010 8:56pm CST
I just want to let you know that things are starting to happen pretty fast now. My head is spinning from it all. Soon my two sons will be heading to prison. I don't know for how long or if they will be in the same prison. My daughter was released last week. As far as I know she will not serve time. But, I still worry about them all. It is a mother's right to worry. I try not to let it consume me. There are moments when I break down and have a cry. Then I rise again to face another day. My prayers are still for my children and their recovery and hopes that their sentences will not be overly harsh. Thank you all for being there for me during this difficult time in my life. Your kind words and prayers have given me strength to go on. I want you to know that although I don't often comment on your responses to my discussion I do read every one of the responses. They have gotten me through some very hard moments. Often I read them over and over. As for Best Responses, you all deserve to be awarded best. I cannot award this to just one person when all of you brought my spirits higher. Big Huggers to you all.
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@PastorP (1173)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Hi ElusiveButterfly . Will be praying for you and your children. However, to help me remember, please respond briefly to my post so I get a notice in my email. I flag things that need prayer and keep them in my mylot folder. When I see the flag, it reminds me to pray.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
14 Jan 10
With not coming on mylot as often as I used too I had to go through all your discussions to try and work out what on earth had been happening to you. I now have a vague outline of it all and I am so sorry to hear of all the hard times you and your children are facing. Being a parent to small children is hard sometimes, I am a parent to three young children and it can be overwhelming at times. But I also think that being a parent to older children can be even harder, I have a son of 18 who is currently in the RAF and so not always at home anymore and I think I worry more about him now than I ever did as a little one. He has a couple of issues that I do not agree with and that makes me worry more than ever it is so hard to have to take a back seat and let them get on with their lives even though they might be taking the wrong path. I hope that things work out for your children and that they learn from this time in their lives and I am sure that knowing you are there to support them as much as you can will lighten their hearts. xx
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• United States
27 Jan 10
what a horrible ordeal. It is more than one person should ever have to bare. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time for your family.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I'm afraid my word won't be as adequate as I am sure many other's have been. I just hope that you will cope with two of your children being in prison and that you will be able to visit them as often as you'd like. I'm not sure what is or isn't allowed in a prison, but if you could maybe make a care package for them.
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
17 Jan 10
As a mother my heart goes out to you because I cannot pretend to even imagine what you are experiencing right now. I will continue to pray for you and your family. I do hope that only good will come of this and that your sons, as well as your daughter have learnt their lessons and will be willing to put in the hard work to recover and get their lives back. Do not concern yourself in regards to commenting back to us, I am certain that everybody here understands. Please keep us posted and I assure you that you can count on any support I can give you from beyond the seas all the way in Australia…I will welcome your PMs if you ever need a long distance chat. Take care and good luck for now...Be strong...
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
15 Jan 10
Elusive no matter what a Mother will always worry and love their Children, I also hope they will learn from this and that the sentence is not to tough on them My thoughts are with you Sending love and strong Hugs
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
15 Jan 10
I think u are the bravest person i have ever seen on here. I admire u sooo much for holding it together like u have. I really don't think i could have done as well as u have. I am so sorry for your troubles. If i have said anything that has made u feel better, i'm thankful. Us mylotters have to stick together. Take care of yourself.
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
15 Jan 10
Hello friend. It is really upset that family members would have to head to prison for some reason, but anyhow, I wish your two sons would be lucky enough not to head to it. Let's hope for the best, friend.
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@jennybianca (12913)
• Australia
15 Jan 10
I must be out of date with your discussions and news, probably when I was not doing My Lot. Im so sorry things have turned out this way for you. With you daughter nearly in jail, and both your sons going to jail, this must be terribly distressing for you. I hope they are not too long in jail. Will you be able to visit?
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@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
15 Jan 10
"And this too shall pass......." Just remember that you need to keep taking care of yourself and putting YOU first. They put themselves where they are and need your love but you need to take care of you more than anything else.
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
14 Jan 10
Keep the faith girl and things will work out the way they are supposed to! And we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers!
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@writersedge (22577)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I'm sorry, I so hoped things would work out better. It seems your daughter will not served time. That's one positive. I hope your sons do alright. Yes, as a Mother, you have a right to worry. But if the situation were reversed, would you want them to worry all the time? I know you've said you're trying not to let it consume you. So please find some friends to hang out with and some things to do to take your mind off everything once in awhile. Our prayers and with you and them.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Jan 10
Of course you worry... I just hope that they come out of it OK and that they get the help that they need so they can get back on their feet.
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
14 Jan 10
I am happy that your daughter has been released - this is good news. I pray that their sentences will not be overly harsh and that you 'll have the strength to get through this as a family. God bless you all. Is there any way that you can receive any kind of counselling to assist you right now? sometimes a church will offer free counselling. Take whatever help you can get. Many blessings
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@BarBaraPrz (25304)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
14 Jan 10
I don't know the back story to this (it sounds like it'd make a good TV movie), but my thoughts are with you.
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• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Being a mother myself , i fully understand and feel the pain that's rules your life now. I have a son who has been giving me headaches for the past years , although i can say he has simmered a little nowadays. I know u cry tears of blood. Be stronger. We wanted the best for our children, if they choose the wrong path,its because we don't have control over their willpower when they grow up.It's a bad thing in a way. Just be confident to know that u have done your very best.
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@shylade (3135)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
madamme, its sad to hear that. but i admire your strength and courage. not all mother can be as brave and strong as you. you must keep on going as your children are taking their strength from you. remember that God does not give us problem bigger than us. He has his purpose and you will see that soon. take care of yourself and don't lose hope.. may God be with you always.
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@joetag (63)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
You didn't mention the reasons why your two sons will be heading prison soon, and also with your daughter. Anyway, I am sorry for the plight that your family is into right now. I really felt sad about the whole thing. I just want you to know that at this very moment I have started to include you and your children in my prayers. By the way, you didn't mention also about your husband. Where is he? O yes, mothers really worry for their children, that's normal and that's their right. It's good you share your feelings and thoughts, just let it flow and cry if you want to. Don't pretend that nothing is wrong and nothing to worry about. But, don't lose hope. There is always sunrise after every sundown. Challenges in life will make you strong and a better person. Keep on the battle and hold on. I know for sure that you will be the victor in your fight against life's challenges. Keep on praying, too. Like what you've said things happen so fast. Before you know it, your problems will pass by so fast.
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@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I am so sorry for you. Don't worry about making comments back to us, we understand. Thank God your daughter was relesed. I hope and pray that this is a wake up call to her, lets hope that after this she turns her life around for the better. I also hope and pray that your sons don't have a harsh sentence, also they that can be together and not too far away so you can visit. Take care and big huggers back at you.
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
14 Jan 10
You sure have been through it and we are here for you. I can only imagine what you are going through. Like I said before, my daughter, I am afraid is heading in the wrong direction, but you cannot make them change their ways. I hope it all goes as smooth as possible and things start looking up. I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this, and wish I was closer to lend you a shoulder when you need it, but I can lend an ear. It is sometimes nice to talk to someone that has nothing in the situation.
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• United States
14 Jan 10
Hello Elusive, I am sorry to hear that you are going through all of this right now. My head would be spinning too. I guess that only good thing to look at is at least your daughter has been released for the time so you can have one child to lean on in this rough time. My thoughts will be with and your family.
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