Does gender matters to you in making friends? Have you been discriminated?
By ghieptc
@ghieptc (2522)
Philippines
January 13, 2010 9:22pm CST
When you have friends or somebody would like to make friends with you, do you consider gender or does gender matters to you? I mean there are some people that they only prefer to go with boys if they were guys or just go with girls if they were ladies or mix for some. We also know that there are other genders like lesbians and gays that for some of them they prefer to go with the same gender because they feel more comfortable and welcome. Is it also important to you or it doesn't matter as long as your friends are fun to be with, you feel comfortable, happy, belong and their good to you then everybody's welcome? Have you experienced being discriminated because of this factor? or do you discriminate others?
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7 responses
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I'll admit that most of my friends are single women. But that's because for some reason many married woman are afraid that their husbands will wander - heck, if I wanted a husband, I'd've gotten one when I was young and pretty! Also, many married women and men also have families and they do things with friends with kids about the same ages as their own kids.
For some reason, I only currently have one guy friend - and while I might want him to be a bit more than a friend, I think he has issues he's not prepared to deal with -
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
16 Jan 10
but how do you meet other guys - I don't drink - so I don't want a drinking fellow, I don't game, so I don't want a gamer (that's a role playing game sort of gamer) I don't even play things like world of warcraft - where I hear some people meet others
I craft, I read, I write, I mylot, and I'm not young and pretty any more... I don't even go to science fiction conventions anymore - too broke!
@simonelee (2715)
• China
17 Jan 10
Hello. There are ways in meeting other men. you can meet them through your interest/hobbies. I guess there are men who are also love to craft, love to write and etc.
If the a person intention is clean i guess looks/appearance is not important. What matter most you both like each other and share the same interest.
If the a person intention is clean i guess looks/appearance is not important. What matter most you both like each other and share the same interest.1 person likes this
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
Well, it's good you have a guy friend there and I hope he would be able to settle whatever issues he has right now so that you'll have chance to settle your issues with him too...to be more than a friend. But I suggest you expand your friendship with other men too and not just focusing into him. We may never know so don't expect too much too.
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@cindy27 (130)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
no, as long as you enjoy being together and the person is good or kind to me i don't care about their gender etc.. i make friends with people who wants me to be their friend as well.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I have always felt more comfortable hanging out with the guys. I love sports and I love talking to the guys about it . But here I have two great friends who love hockey just as much as I do and they are women!So it really doesn't matter to me anymore.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
19 Jan 10
it dont matter when it comes to making friends with me, as long they are respectful and honest its all good. i have many different friends from all walks of life. i even got two female friends that i am very close too, and they are close with my wife as well.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 10
in social, gender is not prohibitive factor for friends. Male or female does not matter to me ... but for those who include transgender, maybe I should think twice
@tarapot (144)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
Yes. I want to be friends with everyone and I don't prefer any gender. But because our country is very conservative, they don't prefer us to be close friends with opposite gender which discriminates other. We should not choose who to be friends with as long as we know how to deal with their differences with us and communicate our thoughts with them and share our knowledge.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
I think that is right. It's so sad to hear that others feel discriminated because of culture and with this how we would be able to expand our friendship if we are not allowed to get along with them? How are we going to help them in ways that we know we could if we discriminate them? I think this is something we should learn breaking the barriers between two different cultures so that we may start helping each other in many ways as we could in progress of everyone.
@spice_r_do (37)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
No I am not considering the gender when making friends with other people.. What is more important to me is the overall characteristic of a person... I admit there are some people who discriminate me especially when I am making friends with gays.. I am a straight guy so for other people they sometimes criticize me for staying clothes with gays.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
I agree with you. We cannot judge individuals by just looking at them. Ofcourse, we need to know their overall personality first and it's up to us to decide if we would still keep their friendship. We shouldn't discriminate others too because it wasn't their fault why they're like that and we might be prejudging them without knowing what they've been through to be who they are.
