Am I selfish?
January 14, 2010 10:58am CST
Earlier afternoon I chat with my husband, he works out of the country, so were using web cam for us to see each other on screen. Then I open up with him about the vacation that he had promised me last year, He'd promised that me and my baby can have a vacation to my hometown by this year,so earlier while chatting I open up with him, but instead he got very angry, and he was saying why is that I am to exited to have a vacation ? he said that I am selfish,because I do not consider him in making decisions. I said that he had promised me and I did promised to my mom that we will have our vacation by this year, my mom wants to see and bond with my son, its been more than 2 years since we left my hometown. And beside he's working far from us, me and my son are staying with his parents for more than 2 years with out him. aren't he is the selfish?..what is your opinion mylotters...should I go on vacation even my partner didn't allow me? or just do as what he told to avoid arguments?
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16 Jan 10
selfish, we are are. In fact, its just what we all do when we go to school, get better chances, but then its worse when you always insit on what suits you not factoring the other players in the equation. I think this is what your husband meant, yes its good to go on vacation, but put it in the wider context between u and him and the baby.. is it all win for both of you?
16 Jan 10
hello masay7 thanks for responding. No,Not yet, he didn't call since yesterday, that means he's really angry.. I wish things will be better soon. thanks.
14 Jan 10
I have to admit I'm rather confused by your husband's attitude. He expects you to happily stay with his family even though he's not staying with you yet he expects you not to miss or want to visit your own family. Getting married does NOT mean you have to give up your own parents/family. It should mean you gain additional family, i.e. your in-laws. I think your husband must be suffering from work stress or something for him to have snapped at you in this way. I definitely do not think you are being selfish. Your parents also have a right to see you and get to know their grandchild, good luck, hope you get to see them soon :)
14 Jan 10
he's making things hard for me.I myself do not understand him either, i am confused.. I want to make my decisions but still considering him as my husband. anyway, thanks for your response It's appreciated.