If your parent's becomes old, do you want them to stay in home for the aged?

@varron (453)
Philippines
January 17, 2010 11:15pm CST
I am concerned how people thinks about their parents or grandparents getting old. Some of us just takes them into homes for the ageds, where they can be taken cared by those attending caregivers,and some prefers to keep their parents at home and take good care of them. They said that it is our obligation to give care to them since we are their child, and they were able to take good care of us when we where young. What would be the best, taking care of the old parents or just leave them to the cares of others?
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15 responses
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
I don't think that it's proper for our parents to be sent to a home for the aged. I believe that it's our time now to take care of them and to provide for them same as what they did when we were still young and naive. Our parents worked hard to raise us and they don't deserve to be imprisoned in such home.
@besthope44 (12141)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well thats sad part to hear most of the grand parents are send to orphange and are least cared. This is really merciless act i could say. If we cannot take care of our parents whats the need of earning and living a great life.
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
In my case, i would say that i had parents who really took care of me during my growing up days, been there in my ups and downs when i became an adult and still there when i had a family of my own. Its just proper and right and just that i should take care of them myself when they reached that age when they cant take care of themselves anymore. Its a cycle, that will always end up at your doorstep.I mean when u grow old and weak, do u wished your children will be there for you? Or would u prefer to be with strangers? (^_^) However, its not a guarantee though..that they will be there when ur old and weak. Whatever happens, i think karma never sleeps.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
19 Jan 10
It all depends on the situation. My brothers and I took care of my mom in her final days and it was what she had always said she wanted. After having done that, I have told my girls that if I ever reach the point of care that my mother did to please put me somewhere and don't tie up your lives. I would not know as my mom would not have. In my right mind, I would not want any of my kids to take care of me. They have their lives and their families. I don't feel they owe me just because I took care of them and raised them. It was my choice to do that...not theirs. I know my girls would do whatever they could for me but I would not want them to.
@lynnemg (4538)
• United States
19 Jan 10
As long as I am physically able to care for my parents when they are old and need help, I will do my very best to take care of them and allow them to remain in their own home. If the time ever came when I was no longer capable of caring for them as they needed, my next step would be to hire an in-home nurse to help out. My very last resort would be to move my parents into a nursing home. Don't get me wrong, nursing homes can be a great place for some...especially those who are bedridden and need total 24/7 care, or those who have families who are not willing or able to care for them as needed.
• Nigeria
19 Jan 10
It is better you take care of your old parents yourself that is where there is blessing and the world would be a natural place not artificial letting other people take care of your parents.
19 Jan 10
I would hope to care for my parent/parents when they are elderly if they were in need of receiving such care. Much of course would depend on the condition of their health. If it was just old age that is relatively easy compared to being a full time carer to someone suffering from Alzheimer's Disease or similar serious illnesses. If I felt I was in a position to help I would do, but in some case it would probably be better where a parent could be in receipt of full time professional care. Whether that would be in an old peoples home would depend on circumstance.
• United States
18 Jan 10
nope.they stay right here. unless i can't provide the quality of care they need,or they become violent i see no reason to "home" them. my grandmother we had no choice though..she was very ill AND violent. she had altzheimer's and didn't recognize anyone she knew.
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
my parents are separated and i'm hoping that they'd at least get back together after i graduate college so i won't have to worry who's going to look after them. my parents especially my mum fears that she's going to be left alone when it's time for all of us to grow up and move out, but i just had keep reassure her that she won't be, and that taking her to wherever she doesn't want to be taken will never be an option. :)
• United States
18 Jan 10
My mother is 79 years old and lives in her own home. There is no way we (me and my 5 siblings) would send her off to a "old folks" home. She does very well right now on her own and when and if it gets the point to where she can't take care of herself one or all will be wiling to take care of her. She took very good care of us and still does! We owe her that much! Too many things go wrong in those places! Don't get me wrong, I know some people that work as care givers. And they are wonderful. But there is always someone you can't trust!
@stand87 (666)
• Bulgaria
18 Jan 10
When my parents go old I'll wish them only one thing - to do what they want. I'll try to help them and make them happy. I'll try to give them everything they need to be calm and to relax. I'm not sure what exactly will be the best for them. Time will show me!
@calai618 (1779)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
That is never an option for us. We would rather have our parents live with our future families than send them to homes for the aged. that idea isn't really that acceptable here in my country because most people in the home for the aged are usually abandoned and those that were rescued etc. we feel that it is lack of love and respect to let your parents live in such institution,. i know other countries have that as a norm but here in our country, we love having extended family members around the house and it's not really that huge of a problem. our parents took care of us all our lives and it's about time for us to take care of them when they need us the most. Happy mylotting to you! :D
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
No! when my parents become old, I don't want them to stay inside the nursing home facilities.As what you have said, "It is our obligation for care them." I have received more than care from them and I believe taking care of them is just but right to show how much I appreciate their care and love when I was still a kid. Nursing home won't make it easy because in the end you might find yourself getting the same treatment from your sons and daughters too. So, sow right and you will reap right.
@benny128 (3621)
18 Jan 10
well if my parents ever got to the point where they were old and couldn't look after themselves then I would ask my parents what they wanted to do no point in doing something if they want something else. Though I would prefer to look after them myself as they are my parents and they have looked after me all my life, also going into a home the carer's are really only doing a job, so the best care and love will be from the family not strangers.
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
18 Jan 10
Hello varron. My aged parents are living healthily and happily in their own home. I think that it is of great value and a wonderful blessing for us sons and daughters that our parents live healthily and happily. I think that it is our duty to take good care of our aged parents if one day they cannot take care of themselves. I prefer to take care of them by my own family without leaving them to the care of others.