When someone cries over a broken heart, how do you feel about it?
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
January 19, 2010 1:12am CST
With all the stress on life, financial problems, family problems and relationship struggles, have you become numb to the fact that life is pretty petty?
I have had my share of pains today with me and my partner having tensions in our relationship. I can't help but feel it's the end, but I'm too tired of feeling or thinking about it. I didn't cry as much as I would have a few years back, I didn't insist on him speaking to me as much as I would have done a few years before. Does this mean I'm not in love with him anymore? I certainly hope not.
Or am I experiencing the numbness of feeling such a pain and others caused by circumstances where I am having a delayed reaction or perhaps the feeling of numbness?
I should be crying, but I'm not. I feel I no longer have tears to shed. I feel that I'm stuck with the pain somewhere but it seems it cannot go out.
Am I still human?
9 responses
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
I had a friend who was crying over a recent painful,confusing heartache problem.I am single,and am very thankful that I don't have a bf right now.I don't want to deal with that kind of problem.I think money and career problems are much better than love problems.for me,I don't think my heart will love again.I do feel my friend's pain,but I am very thankful because it's been a few years since my last heartache.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
It has been three years since your response and I thank you for sharing. However, since the topic is not recent anymore, I would like to ask how your friend has been and how you have been? Are you still single?
Anyhow, heartaches has many forms and I do agree with you that perhaps the most difficult type would be that of a romantic heartache. But amidst the heartaches that I have gone through, I think I would still prefer to have loved and felt loved. I don't know, perhaps it's just addicting to be treated that way, nobody treats you the same way as a lover does - even if you have many friends.
Again, how are you? Thanks for responding, Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
My friend's ok now.She has already moved on.I'm still single now.I'm very much happy, thank you very much.Hope all is well with you.
@cheryltippett (231)
• United States
19 Jan 10
You are very much human , but it is not healthy to keep all your feelings bottled up inside . Find someone to talk to or start a journal. A journal is a good place to get those emotions going in a healthy way . Right in your journal everday , but don't read what you wrote today, tomorrow, etc . Wait a week from day to day that you write in it before you read it (if you write in it Monday , Dont read it again till next Monday etc etc . Gives you time to get the emotions down on paper and then when you read it back it helps you to get the emotions out of you. Write all that is on your mind whether it be anger, hatred , happiness etc . It is good to cleanse the body and mind of all things toxic , and holding in our emotions can be one of the most toxic things for us .
Hope you feel better real soon.............
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
Wow! This has been over three years ago and I could remember the feeling. But I am proud to say that we gone over it and we're better now. Anyhow, you're right, it's not healthy to keep all feelings bottled-up and I have tried to release it - though sometimes I think I released my tensions wrongly, I tended to share my bitterness with other people and I don't think it's good to do that as well - else your friend(s) would feel bad after talking to you. hehehee..
You're right about the journal stuff, I did try those too. But anyhow, I appreciate your thoughts and I thank you for responding. I do apologize for responding too late! Anyhow, thanks and I hope you'll have a great MyLot experience today as well! God Bless!
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Hello,
I heard you... and i know how you feel right now as well. I used to felt that before with my husband. I fell in love with my husband since the first day we met, and I told myself that no matter what I will die to live with this man... and I did.
Now, we are still married and a few year back... he hurt me just like put me in jail and punished me everyday. I cried over the same thing over and over again... and he never realized how much I got. My tears almost turned out to be blood... then one day, when he called police on me ... even he made the problem. I didn't get a rest cuz i didn't made the problem... So, then I learned to control myself, cut down the love and think about myself first and move on without him. I started to ignore what he did and just be selfish to him as much as I can. after a while, he started to learn that I hate him and don't care about him anymore. He started to learn how to take care of me and my kid. Even now, I will not changing my mind yet... cuz I hate to go back the to pain. I still with him, and I dont care about whatever now... he can do anything so do I? lolz...
Now, he loves me more than ever and I do still love him but I can't let him know about it cuz of the past. if it is the end then you have to move on without looking back cuz enough is enough. when your tears didn't come out cuz you have enough pain and it is totally over... So, now you dont have to deal with the pain for the whole time. Good for you. javascript:__doPostBack('ctl00$cphMainContent$lbStart','')
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Yes, you are still human. I have gone through something similar. I think it comes from life experience and maturity. I would have been a wreck years ago, but now I know what is best for me. Although I'm still sad, I know that I can't allow things to upset me as much or affect my life to the point I can't function.
@healthbeauty (483)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Yes you are a human. You need someone to talk to, to share all the pain that you are feeling for you to release it.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Its only natural to cry over a broken heart.Afterall you gave your heart to someone, shared a ton of special moments. Shoot you wouldnt be normal if you didnt. You are very normal my dear. I have been through the same. Every now and then its up to you or your man to spice things up. Dont let this end. FIGHT FOR IT! Only be sure you want it. When I was going thru it, before I said anything to him, I thought really hard about whether or not this is what I really wanted. I couldnt image living any where else. We have been through so much. After I realized this is what I want, I sat down and talked to him. At times it got ugly. I thought at one point it was over because of the things he was saying than he said the most important thing. He told me He loved me and had never felt this way before and he began to cry. I wanted to die.I felt so bad for doubting him but you know what he gave me reason to doubt him. Now we fight but we never ever let it get that bad. Think good and hard Laydee! If you need to talk Send me a message I will be glad to. You know in your heart what you need to do. If it happens that it needs to be over than dont end it ugly or at least try not to. Im here for you chica! dl
@meena_artisan (39)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
hey, I'm sorry about what happened.....well, Things like that happens...I think you just got used to the feeling that makes you think "Oh here it goes again." that makes you feel numb. It's like being routinized, the more you feel it the satisfaction and the happy feeling you get is lowered.. there's no excitement with it already.. And also I think the way you solve the problem is the same thing as what you did in the past that kept going on and on...If so then maybe you need to change it a bit or entirely if you want to.. That's one step moving out of the box..^^...try something different sometimes... I hope you get better soon.
@rcdiez (1)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Yes you are human, it is normal and a lot have experienced that as well too.
I was once terrified by the thought that my husband has another woman. I cried and cried as I felt it was the end of our marriage. I prayed hard to God Almighty and he answered my prayer. Today, we are happy with our new found new life with God.
