Should I try to work it out?

@Mia136 (28)
United States
January 19, 2010 4:22pm CST
Okay.... I've been friends with this gurl for a lil over four years now and she's tha best friend I've ever had. We've had our ups and downs but mostly its been up. I love this gurl to death she's like my sister but she gets me in trouble all tha time, I don't think she does it on purpose she's just really naive. Since I met her i've been trying to teach her so that she has more common sense and more confidence, its slowly been working. Last week I got kicked out of skool, it wasn't completely her fault but she played a big part in it. She got expelled but I get to return to skool next week. If she had listened to me we wouldn't be in this mess and this happens alot, she'll have a rough plan and i'll smooth out all tha details so we won't get in trouble, but then at tha last minute she'll ignore wat I said and she'll get both of us in trouble. My question is, should I stick with our friendship and hope she learns or should i part ways with her and let someone else deal with it?
5 responses
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
From the looks of it i'm slowly thinking that maybe she is only playing naive and its you who is naive. Keep being her friend if you think you could make a difference in her life. But please be smart enough for both of you and don't do the things she wants to do if you know it will get you into trouble. If she won't listen to you then its her choice, let her be, but don't accompany her when she is doing those bad things.
@hawwisu (63)
• Nigeria
20 Jan 10
If you really love her you should keep on adviceing her, but if she refuses to listen to you, then part ways with her and let someone else deal with her.
@sofear (42)
19 Jan 10
Just talk to her nicely and let her know how her behaviour affects you.Maybe she is not aware it does cause u harm and might think you guyz are having fun.If she is a good mate she will change for the better,if not,then just try and keep off her peer pressure.Goodluck x
• United States
19 Jan 10
Just because she is your best friend doesn't mean you have to do what she does. That is what probably got you into trouble. For example, I have a really good friend who likes to get high a lot. When she does this, I am never around her. One day she got caught and got fined $350. If I was with her, I would have gotten fined as well. So stay her friend if you think its best, but know when you should be hanging out with her. Know that if your doing something with her it might be getting you into trouble.
@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Well, its gonna be hard to leave her if you really love her. Since you said that your trying to teach her and slowly working, then question is on you, are you patient enough to wait till your friend changes?