Noisy neighbors

@Jennlk84 (4216)
United States
January 20, 2010 1:12pm CST
Do you have any problems with your neighbors? Are they noisy? Have you done anything about it? My husband and I moved into an apartment that is between two of the nosiest neighbors known to man. Seriously the guy on one side of us plays his music so loud that it hurts my ears in MY apartment! The girl on the other side has 3 little kids that are out of control - they're always screaming and banging on our walls. It's so loud that I swear someday I'm going to go crazy. Unfortunately though I'm not the confrontational type so I've never gone over and said anything to them. So have you had noise issues with your neighbors? How did you deal with it? We're moving in 6 months and it will not come soon enough......... I CAN'T WAIT!!!!!
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@Thunderll (103)
• United States
20 Jan 10
That sounds really annoying. I play music a lot, but I try to be mindful of my neighbors. I don't play it too loudly, or too late in the day. Recently, my husband and I moved into a house with some friends of his. Their next door neighbors are really annoying. They often stalk around the house and stand on our porch talking loudly just to start an argument. Starting around Wednesday of last week, we began hearing a banging from their house. It went on and on all day and into the night. Around 11:00 pm, we're understandably getting a little irked. We have to get up super early in the morning and everyone is ready to get some sleep. So, the guys walk over there to see what is up. They are polite, and simply ask what is going on and if they can keep it down. The neighbors claim there is a hole in their floor letting in all the cold air so they can't stop working until it is done. Luckily, the banging stops about half an hour later. We think everything is over, but the next day, it continues. We were all leaving for a long weekend that day, so we didn't care. Guess what? We got back last night and they are still banging around over there! What, did their entire floor fall out or something? They can't be repairing a hole over there. They are either doing it to be annoying or are doing something they shouldn't be. We're looking for another place to rent already. Good luck sticking out the 6 months!
@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Wow...so I wonder what your neighbors are really doing? lol Doesn't sound like something that should take THAT long to fix! lol
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• United States
21 Jan 10
I know! It's kind of freaky sitting here wondering what they are really up to and why they felt the need to lie.
• Canada
20 Jan 10
Hello Jennlk, Im so sorry you have to deal with them. Yes been there before and it was driving insane at first until I had an idea. Most people dont like classical music. I say "most" and Im thinking that the guy on one side doesnt and same for the people with the noisy kids. So why dont you find something thats like a military march (classical) and play it very loud (preferably when you're not home lol) I did that with my neighbors and after a week, I noticed there was less noise coming from them. As soon as they'd start again.......Id do the same with the classical music. Something else that might help you is to have your a/c on (if its summertime) the noise of the motor might drown down your neighbors'noise. The trick here is to have some noise thats louder than your neighbor or Im afraid your only option will be to move. Good Luck !!
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@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Ive done that with hard metal music before....and it killed my ears and did nothing to them! LOL I guess maybe I should try the classical!
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@CRIVAS (1818)
• Canada
20 Jan 10
Well I have to say that a few years ago, I had the same problem. My husband (boyfriend at the time) and I were renting a condo and both neighbors were horrible. They were either throwing loud parties, or letting their dog bark at all hours of the night and day. So trust me when I say that I feel your pain. It is never fun to have to spend your time in a home that is supposed to be relaxing and pleasant, but is actually anything but. I personally would talk to your landlord if you are renting, they would be able to talk to the neighbors and let them know that something needs to be done. If you aren't renting or maybe don't want to involve the landlord, I suggest calling your local bylaw inforcement building. They will be able to tell you about the noise laws and if they think that there is something that you can do. If there is a noise bylaw, they will be able to contact the people in question and resolve the problem. I know that where I live there is an excesive noise bylaw which gives us the right to complain if a neighbor is being too loud and I have had to take advantage of it. It is one hundred % confidential and the people would never even know you were the one to call. Now with the children, the same thing applies. No some people might tell me that I am being mean by suggesting that you do this but here is why I am giving you this advice: It isn't fair for you to be miserable all the time because of a few roudy children and an inconsiderate neighbor. I personally have 2 children and I own my own home, I still make certain that my children aren't screaming like holigans, it is just proper parenting. Perhaps if this women were to get a call stating that the noise was unaceptable, she might try doing something different. Besides, letting your children get away with screaming and bad behavior as children, leads to having bad teens. I think that you have every reason to want to move out, lord knows I would and like I said I have 2 children but I still wouldn't want to deal with it. Hopefully the next place that you move into is a little more to your taste. Good luck and happy mylotting.
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@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Thank you for the great advice! We were trying to just "stick it out" becuase the landlord is friends with both of our neighbors - so we look like the bad guys!
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• Philippines
20 Jan 10
Oh it looks like so irritating. Hmmm every weekend specially sunday our neighborhood singing (video-ok) so loud they will start 6pm-1am so I and my brothers who have a class for tommorrow can't sleep. So one time I confront them and told them that my brothers can't sleep because of your voice it is very loud and it is late night for you to sing so please if you can't stop singing please lower down your voice and the sound. And then they said sorry because I have the right. And you also have the right to tell them that you are being disturbed.
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@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
20 Jan 10
Did they stay quiet then? I definitely have the right, I'm just not a very confrontational person, so it's hard for me to confront them about it.
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@Janey1966 (24135)
• Carlisle, England
20 Jan 10
We've had poor neighbours on one side of our house. Generally speaking, the other side has been OK on a row of terraced houses, so if someone makes a noise you generally hear it lol. At No.49 (the house we had problems with) it is a Housing Association property, so, basically, anyone can be placed there...and don't we know it! For a time we had a woman with her baby being nice and quiet...but then she just HAD to find another boyfriend didn't she and that's when we had the problems. Not just their lovemaking at all hours of the day (once they did it in broad daylight, in the front bedroom with the window WIDE open so passers-by could hear them)but the boyfriend had what can only be described as "bongo drums" and these were also played at all hours of the day...sometimes in the middle of the night when they "partied" on occasions. I remember one time going round, distraught because I couldn't sleep, and rang the doorbell (nothing), banged on the door (again, nothing), then resorted to shouting at the top of my lungs (yet again, nothing). I was so incensed (and upset) that I rang the Police. Then they shut up once Plod appeared! I was then told off the following day by the boyfriend telling me that I didn't have to get the Police round as it "was upsetting my girlfriend!" Haha! They moved out (thank God) about a year ago and a lovely lady and her two boys are now in the house. The place was virtually gutted beforehand because the troublemaker practically wrecked the place and the Housing Association didn't know where she'd gone as "she's wanted a council house for ages." Good riddance I say! We did involve the Council as well as they deal with Noise Pollution...but that night I just had to get the Police round, it was the only way they'd shut up. I'm not surprised you can't wait until you move, I'd feel exactly the same. Good luck!
• United States
20 Jan 10
My neighbors are yelling at the kids all the time. i hear them word for word as well. I want to go to the office and complain. But,I sort of feel sorry for the woman she has 4 kids in that small three bedroom apt. her husband is always yelling at the older boy to watch the baby. He is screaming at the top of his lungs all the time. I like them for not being nosey people as well. They also don't play any music either so I take my blessing where I can. Now my other neighbors I have to call security on them all the time. They are 5 apartments from me and I can feel there music. It is so loud I can't here my tv. So I get on the phone and report them quick. I have a neighbor three doors from me who has her company in the hall way. They stand right in front of my door talking ,eating etc. I know all of them from the area so I just say excuse me,hello and goodbye. I have another neighbor three doors to the left who we*d travels all the way into my apartment. I have reported this already. So I truly understand you.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I live in a house and not an apartment, so I guess it is a little different for me. My neighbors on either side are very quiet. Across the street is pretty quiet too except for the person who feels they need to lay on the horn every time they pick up one of my neighbors across the street.
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
21 Jan 10
Because you live in an apartment it probably has thin walls and yes you do hear everything. You should go and see your neighbours and talk to them about it. Tell them that it is disturbing you and it is really irritating. If it continues talk to the landlord. I know with the girl with the 3 kids it's gonna be quite difficult for her but she needs to start having control over her kids before they get too out of control. Thank god we have no neighbours. We crank our stereo and don't have to worry about anyone coming over and telling us to turn it down. However when I am at my parents house in the city our neighbours don't say nothing cause 11pm rolls around and the sound goes down.
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• Hong Kong
21 Jan 10
i hate that noisy your neighbors has, though you can not do anything with that but the idea to cancel the sounds that your neighbors created is to do a sound proof room to prevent the entering of sound to your rooms.. like sealing the small holes of your room all no one left behind, you can easily have that by using styro foams or search for any objects in the internet that can prevent noise.. gudluck
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@Java09 (3080)
• United States
21 Jan 10
Thankfully,my mother lives upstairs from me,and I dont have to worry about the old neighbors.Before the old neighbors moved out,this place was noisy!They banged and bumped and made all these diffrent noises,because,they lived upstairs.I remember seeing them all the sudden pack up and put stuff in there truck,I was thinking,wow are they moving.So when they moved my mother and her boyfriend,moved in! Next door to me,there is this biker looking guy who always is hosing his drive way and cars spotless almost everyday.He keeps to himself though,so he is not really annoying. I have another neighbor in the house next to me,that always shouts at his dog to get over here!he is so noisy and loud.He dont even put it on a leash,and it wonders in the road and you can hear him shouting get over here for miles.I try to ignore him.That guy has a very extremly LOUD voice and shouts when he talks to people.He'll be taking to someone in his yard,standing right next to the person hes talking to,but yet it sounds like hes standing next to me.He is a very loud speaker!I am planning on moving oneday,when I save up to move to a better neighborhood. In my old place,there was a guy that played heavy metal music through the walls,you can hear him talking to!LOUD!!! I lived in ALOT of houses that had terrible noisy rude neighbors.
@kathy714 (129)
• China
21 Jan 10
Well. My
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Hello jennlk we are living in a peaceful subdivision where sometime it could not be avoided there would be a times when our neighbors does noisy activities that could reach sometimes at the middle of the night...but this is not often times and it would be considerable for since there were times we happened it also in our home due to some friends that you seldom see..so far in our place it is a kind of considerable situation... in your place i guess it is really a big problem for you especially if you want to rest early or you're not feeling well and you need silence..i am sorry for that my friend..i guess you have to look for another pad if you're just renting the place...but not until of course you consume what you've paid in advance if there was....just cool down my friend use your "stick to the wall" patience... Cheers.. Mobhomeir here...
@KRC31028 (39)
• United States
23 Jan 10
OH YES! I also live in an apartment. I live downstairs and the people that live above me are unreal. They have like three dogs that are always running around and barking at all times of the day and night. They themselves make so much noise they sound like they are coming through my ceiling. It is so annoying. They wake myself and two small children up with their loudness. People have no respect for anyone else.
@dawn43 (16)
• United States
21 Jan 10
You shouldn't have to confront them. Have you thought about reporting them to management? If the office isn't open, call the answering service and report it. They will pass it on to management the next day. I don't know if you are aware, but in most complexes, people who receive more than 3 complaints are asked to move. I am in an apartment complex where several people like to play their music loud. Sometimes they are playing it in their apartment. Sometimes they are out in the parking lot with their car stereo on and the car doors open. They have the right to listen to music as long as it doesn't disturb neighbors. Yes, I've gained a reputation for being a complainer. But I would prefer to listen to my own music not theirs. And I have never received a complaint for disturbing neighbors. I must say, things have gotten much quieter since I have been following this procedure.
@kathy714 (129)
• China
21 Jan 10
I lived here for several years and we know each other very well and we enjoy a good relationship with each other. The only problem with me is the couple live upstairs. They quarrel in some evenings. I was once wakened up by the scream and cry of the women at about 2 o'clock. But I thought they will feel shameful if I go upstairs and ask them to be quiet. So I pretended not to hear and just lay in bed, waiting them to calm down. Fortunately they do not quarrel so often, so I don't think I have big problem with my neighbors.
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
We have a neighbor in the neighboring apartment who is very annoyingly irritatingly noisy. How so? She nags all the time at her small children who also retaliates in tantrums for hours. The next door neighbor of hers have complained alot but to no avail. The next door on the left side have built a high fence so they cant see her. Unfortunately, we at home have our side to this back of the neighbor so we can always hear whatever noise coming from there. I have not done anything about it because lots have been done by her neighbors but still nothing.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
i do have a very noisy neighbor but i could not complain for them because my mother in law is also like them making disturbances to the neighbors especially when they have a fight with her husband and we could not lower their voice. I always wish to be away to my in laws just to have a peaceful living because my kids are suffering from the environment.