Are you becoming your mother?
By trisha2121s
@trisha2121s (3)
United States
January 20, 2010 2:59pm CST
I have two daughters under the age 3 and I find myself doing the things my mother used to do with me. My toddler is becoming independent as I was with my mother, and it makes me happy and sad at the same time. I don't want to let her go, but at the same time I am relieved she is growing and doing things for herself. Are you becoming your mother?
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@fairytale123 (334)
• China
24 Jan 10
No,I am 20, but I admire you.I hope your baby healthy ,happy.I love little baby too.stay with them is the most happist thing in the world.Best wishes too you
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
20 Jan 10
I would certainly hope that all moms would in some little way become their mother. Especially if their mother was a good mom to them. Immitation is the greatest form of flattery in this case. I know that with my two step son, I am very much like my mom was with me. I don't mind them going out but I expect them to be home when they tell me they will and if not there will be a price to pay. It is funny because I remember growing up that was mom's biggest rule and now it is mine.
@kaka135 (14970)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 10
I have a baby boy who is going to be 11 months old soon, and so far I haven't find myself becoming my mother. I do understand what you meant, and I keep reminding myself not to be my mother before I started to have my baby. 
It's not that my mother is not good, it's just she worries too much and she disallowed me to do a lot of things when I was young. I always thought myself lacking of freedom, and I don't want my kids to think the same. That's why I always remind myself not to do something I didn't like to my kids. I understand the parents do worry about the kids, and they want them to be safe and healthy, I suppose we can always explain it to our kids, discuss over some issues with them, but not forcing them not to do certain things.
It's for sure our kids will sooner grow up and leave us too. I suppose it's life, and we really need to learn how to let go. I always try to bring up my son the way he is, but not the way I want him to be.
It's not that my mother is not good, it's just she worries too much and she disallowed me to do a lot of things when I was young. I always thought myself lacking of freedom, and I don't want my kids to think the same. That's why I always remind myself not to do something I didn't like to my kids. I understand the parents do worry about the kids, and they want them to be safe and healthy, I suppose we can always explain it to our kids, discuss over some issues with them, but not forcing them not to do certain things.
It's for sure our kids will sooner grow up and leave us too. I suppose it's life, and we really need to learn how to let go. I always try to bring up my son the way he is, but not the way I want him to be. 