How do you cope up with changes?

I usually go to have a trip. I believe every unfortunate will be the past.

I handle change very badly, especially if the change puts my dogs at risk. Recently I was forced with a decision to give up my dogs and I couldn't do it. So the change I tried to do, to live with blew up in my face. Everything went back the way it was. Which is really bad for me.

Hey careguarden! As you have said sometimes life just throws some unexpected curves and changes our way that we have no idea how to deal with and it is hard to predict ahead of time how we would react! A loss of a loved one, a loss of a job, a loss of a pet! Those are all very tragic and difficult circumstances to deal with and sometimes they are life changing! I have dealt with all of them and each one requires a different reaction each time! In life you just have to go with whatever is thrown your way and it isn't always easy! I am an avid pet fanatic and losing my pets was worse than losing some family members because they were my family! Losing a job can be a horrific experience! You just have to take each loss the best way you know how and call upon whatever inner strength you can. You need time to mourn each loss as best as you can and then time to re-group and try to get yourself back on track. But, as with any loss it isn't easy! Try to talk to friends whoever you feel comfortable talking to. Do whatever works best for you~

Well, I have been asking myself the same thing. Because of the abrupt changes that turned my life upside down. They say I have to take things positively and appreciate the changes in my life. They say I have to move on. I guess I'll do what they say because I really don't know what else to do. But I guess the best thing to do is pray and ask for God's guidance.

hi careguarden, Well,everyone will face uncertainty and unfortunate changes in life in part of our life.It may be a good thing to experience or unfortunate events to go through.Whenever i have some good happening ,i thanks God above for being kind to me but if i'm facing an unfortunate event,i take it as a test from the sky above. For instance,if i got stuck in a traffic jam or late for work/appointment,i just imagined it's a test of my patience.If going through an unfortunate event,it'll a test of my perseverence and courage.Life is but a test.

Hi careguarden, the best way to cope with change is to just accept it, and then move on. Yes, like what you said, nothing stays the same, and changes do occur at every moment of our lives. Some changes are welcomed, while others are not. So, learn to anticipate changes and prepare yourself. No use fretting over it anyway.

Nobody could really say how quickly or slowly one could 'cope' with the changes. I think it has something to do with our attachment of something. If we're attached to our best friend too much to the point of getting disappointed that he/she no longer cannot give the same attention as they could during their single-days, perhaps coping would not be easy. On the other hand, if you see your parents fighting all the time, and you've never seen them happy together, then you'd probably have already foreseen them divorcing. Therefore, them divorcing would not be something you'd be shocked about therefore you'd even be happy or could adjust easily once the news or the deed has been carried out. Therefore, I think it depends on what about and how attached you are to the situation. Too much attachment would cause you not to cope well but if you're not that attached then you won't have problems adjusting or coping quickly. Nice topic by the way. Happy Mylotting!

Hi,careguarden,life is full of changes and uncertainity.And I 'm ready to accept it,bcz it is fate and what I can do is face it,accept it.Some changes may take a long period for me to accept,some changes hurt me and take me years to relieve the pain.But I have to go on and on.Best wishes to u and ur family.Happy mylotting.

i just follow the flow since is the only things which is permanent always change and constant all the time that anyone have no control over it but instead to follow every courses.

I don't do it very well. It depends on what it is, but usually I handle change reletively well unless its something bad. If its bad, then I don't deal with it well and I end up having panic attacks or have to live with George freaking out. So neaither one is fun.

I cope with changes in several different ways. Sometimes I am very silent and do nothing about the change and learn to accept it. There is a saying. god grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Ring that in your head a couple hundred times with your having an issue with change and I can tell you, learning to live with change will come easier.

careguarden, The name itself you got care! Please don't get panic. Find your own personal higher power. I'm not saying you have go join in a church or become a devote religious person. Picture a divine higher power that you can give your problems to and take over when you are worm out. You can't control every aspect of your life. This is impossible, so simply hand it your high personal power. Keep in close contact with friends and family.