Am having trust issues?

@megaplaza (1438)
Nigeria
January 21, 2010 1:06pm CST
Everyday people wants me to trust them but i hardly do. This is something am afraid of because people can be green snake in a green grass, i know sooner or later i need to start trusting. Maybe this has to do with my childhood, mentality and upbringing along with things that i have seen so far in life.
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3 responses
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
i do trust people but only into some extent initially. i give them the benefit of the doubt if i can trust them. that way i will avoid judging people that they are capable of doing such things that eventually lead to distrusting. in due time that i fully know them then i give my 100% trust that they deserved. if not they do not deserve me or my friendship and started to go away with them, its not anymore my fault if i set distance to them. i am a sincere person and i dont want to make friends with a distrustful and dishonest person. individuals really differs to each other so we should be choosy in making friends.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
23 Jan 10
when people swarm aaround you because you are successful, it becomes hard to tell why they are around you. all i see around me are people who think they are competing with me academically and yet pretending to be my smalls. hate it when people think i should lead, makes me feel insecure, all the friends i have had in my life have betrayed me except one.
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
hmm for me if u generalized all people, u will really have a hardtime to trust them. and by thinking you are different with them u are setting a distance and it is your own mind doing tricks that they cannot be trusted...so even people deserved trust and ur mind already set to distrusting people, no matter what they do or did for the good of friendship all tryings will be futile, tricks of the mind sets in...so u have to set your mind first to love and by doing that trust will follow...and there will be no more insecurity, of course it is easier than done...anyway i do know it is not an overnight job.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
24 Jan 10
thanks for ur advice, i will try to relax a bit when next ppl try to be nice.
@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 10
There several kind of People exist in this World but trusting someone is difficult,So i need to ask you that,on what matter you are seeking to trust people the most,so i may give you better advice instead of giving a details of my personal experience.but let me tell you frankly that i am also hesitant to Trust people easily.!
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
22 Jan 10
Maybe in my relationships with people, even if i can't trust people i wish there is a way i convince them that i do.
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@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 10
Get some confidence in you,point to be noted is that when you trust yourself then you will definitely be able to trust people by asking them Questions frequently the Question will solve the confusion in your mind so it will develop the consciousness for you to understand who is Trustworthy and who isn't...
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
23 Jan 10
people are selectively honest and can pretend to be true just to get what they want, so it becomes hard to get to know their intention by questioning them.
@bird123 (10541)
• United States
22 Jan 10
Are you choosing to see the good in people or the bad? Doesn't everyone deserve the opportunity to be trusted?? Some people will not even attempt to be trustworthy for the simple fact they know you don't trust them. I give everyone the opportunity to be trustworthy.Sure I might get hurt but I think it is something everyone deserves. The opportunity to be good.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
23 Jan 10
it's quite unfortunate, i see the bad side of people, i always think people are out to hurt me. it's a psychological problem am battling with for very long now.