Can you forgive a cheating partner?

Unless one goes to counseling to find the root of the problem it is possible that it may happen again.... I have seen so many times where the partner that has cheated says they are sorry and will not do it again but it is not enough.....The trust has been ruined and therefore must be acknowledged to help this situation be resolved.

I was married to such a partner. I did forgive her for a while. But she just continued and I finally gave her an ultimatum in which I stated that if it happened one more time I was leaving, leaving fast,and never coming back. She did it again. I left, divorced her, and been alone for the last 11 years. Eventually I may meet someone. That was actually the second partner that cheated on me and to tell you the truth I have a hard time trusting. So I may spent the rest of this life alone. But then again, I am 1hopefulman, so maybe not.

hello careguarden, Yes,why not. When we think about relationship,and for the sake of long years living together esp if there's children involved,it is really easy to forgive our loved ones who cheated on us. But,if the cheating keeps going on after forgiving and giving him a chance...then,i guess it's nonsense anymore. I did this in my life..i had given my partner a chance for nth time(i can't remember how many times he asks forgiveness and yet,doing it again and again)until such time i realized that,it's foolishness to live with him. If he can't respect me by cheating...there is no use of living together under one roof. So,it is better of letting go,and living separate lives before we ended up hating each other and become enemy. Have a good day always

I was once cheated by my boyfriend long time ago and it really did hurt me a lot. I thought I couldn't forgive him because I was so mad at him that time. But then I forgave him because I love him and I was hoping that he has learned his lesson. Well honestly, until now, I can still remember what he did to me though it didn't happen again but I think I will always remember what he did to me before. This is the consequence of giving someone another chance after all. But I honestly never regretted to give him another chance.

This is very difficult for me, I do not expect this to happen with anyone. Depends on the occurrence of the event, if its very often, definitely I would love to separate myself with the person. I can forgive just once if I love her and feel that its last when she cheated. Definitely the reason of cheating will also decide whether I should forgive her or not. I find a reason which is justified from her point of view. Just have faith in each other. Faith is the foundation for relations to work. Be ready to give and you will definitely get :)

It is the one of the most difficult things to do and it should only be done if you know that your partner truly regrets it. You should also make sure that your partner is returning for you and only you. Not because of the children/parental pressure/social pressures, etc.

I cannot imagine being able to forgive my boyfriend if he ever cheated on me. I dont think i would ever be able to trust him, always wonder if he was going to do it again. I love my fiance but if he ever cheated on me that would be the end of the relationship.

Well, I think it depends on the thing he did. If we were together for a very long time, then he'll know about me very much. If he does thing I can accept, I would forgive him. But you know grils have a last straw. If he does too many times and won't change, then we have to say byebye.

yes, i did. but it was not easy. the pain went through the longest days and nights they could get, with many sleepless and restless nights because of disappointments and reflection. it took more than love and the good times. i think it boils down to my manhood. real man, i think, can decide to have a woman, no matter what. i think that's a sign of a man. it is easy to go away and break up. but it is a sign of cowardice of not facing the issue.

Yes, the answer is yes. However, trust has been broking and it will take years to trust your partner again. I forgave my husband when he cheated and I was pg. We were young and he was afraid and I gave him the choice. Go now and give up everything you have, free and clear or stay and love me the way I still love you.

Well that will depend on the person. If the person cheated is so kind, understanding and loving, maybe the cheater will smile as an effect. However, if otherwise, then the cheater will certainly cry for understanding and second chance. For me, I may forgive, but never will I forget. Yes, you may have my forgiveness, but never my old loving heart because I don't want to be fooled the next round.

Yes, I would forgive, but the condition is: we both want to keep the relationship. One side passion doesn't work out. Forgive the person who really appreciate my tolerance. The principle is love. If one or both want to finish, then no sense to "forgive". However, they shouldn't cheat anyway if they already have promise.

when i was younger, i thought i would never forgive that guy who will cheat on me. but these days, i have been married for 7 years, i start thinking about forgive maybe is a better way than just walk away.

You can always forgive. But here is the rub...can your forget? Or can you ever really trust your partner again. Cheating violates the entire committment and makes the wedding vows meaningless. Can you also ever respect someone who has so little regard for your marriage. Stay and let him make promises, but don't give him any rope. It;s going to eat at you everytime he's out of sight. You will bring it up in fights. Trust is so important, and without it, what exactly do you have in this relationship. And you say "cheats" indicating it is an ongoing situation. What will happen the day he brings home a little desease he picked up? You need to worry less about the sake of things and the time invested and think more about the respect you need to have for yourself and the treatment and life you deserve. You can't do anything about him, all you can do is what is best for you. The heart is not the best source for decision making. Decide what kind of life you want and go out and get it. There are people out there that actually are honorable. Find one!

Hard. but I won't forgive the one who doesn't really love me but lied that she love me.