Secret! Friend Tells You a Secret..Don't Reveal it, Do You Have to Tell Someone?
By artistry
@artistry (4151)
United States
January 24, 2010 12:03am CST
Can you keep a secret? If a friend told you something in confidence, would you keep their secret? If you didn't think you could keep it a secret, would you ask them not to tell you? Is it the knowing something that no one else knows, that makes most of us want to tell someone a secret?
7 responses
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
24 Jan 10
I would say it depends on what the secret is, who was telling it and if it was something terribly illegal.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
24 Jan 10
...Hi tanniebabe78, Unstandabe, no one wants to wind up in jail. But I am referring to something benign, somnething that the person just did not want to put out at the moment. Maybe that they were going to quit their job, or they were going to adopt a baby. Would that be somethimg that would be kept until the person was ready to divulge it? Thanks for responding. Take it easy.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
24 Jan 10
Something like that is not my place to tell anyone. I always get mad when my mom tells my secrets before I am ready to say something. I just don't tell her now.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
26 Jan 10
Funny you should mention this. A couple of friends have roped me in on something that is to be kept very secret. I was ok sort of with it at first but as time has passed, I'm feeling very uncomfortable about it. I was good friends with these people and now I'm not at all happy with what they have told me, in fact I wish they were not doing what they are doing.
Usually, I'm pretty good with secrets. I let myself forget it before I will tell anyone. As for news and rumours going around our little town...it's great fun. Sometimes you hear a doozey and you can put the teller straight but other times you just never know the truth. For instance, I was told the other day that x has cancer...
Me: what makes you say that?
Other: All her hair has been shaved off.
Me: With cancer, you don't get your hair shaved off, it falls out in clumps with a certain treatment...I'd say she got annoyed with the heat and just shaved it off to be cool.
Other: Yeah, probably.
Now I have to wonder if the new version of the story will get picked up.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
27 Jan 10
....Hi down there, Interesting the last thingyou said here, you may have heard this story. A line of people were placed from one door of a room across the room to the other door. One person told the next person inthe line about a large elephant with a bow around it's neck. Each one passed it on until every one in the line across the room to the other door heard the description. The first person went to the last person in the line to compare descriptions. The elephant with the bow around it's neck had turned into a helicopter which was painted blue by the time the last person received the description. Stories have a way of being received differently as they go around, it is quite amazing. Take it easy, keep smiling. 
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
I never reveal any of my friends' secrets, even to our other friends. They entrusted me their secrets, so it is my responsibility to keep it that way as long as not divulging it doesn't cause harm to other people. Well, I had never been shared one that is of illegal nature, because there is no way I would protect or reinforce an obvious wrongdoing.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
24 Jan 10
...Hi there MimiRemo, That sounds like a movie star's name. "o). Then you probably have lots of friends, because they know that they can trust you. This is a very good thing. People need people that they can go to and share sonething that they do not want everyone within earshot to know and be able to trust the person they tell, to keep what they are sharing to themselves. That is quite important to friendship. Good for you. Thanks for your response and take care.
@StaciLyn1988 (101)
• United States
26 Jan 10
I usually have to tell someone unless its something that no one should know, if i do tell someone it will be my man who can keep secrets. I mean it depends on what it is and who is saying it.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
26 Jan 10
...Hi there StaciLynn1988, Welcome, welcome, this is a great place to hang out. I knew someone would fess up and tell me that they would have to tell.
I am laughing now, because I feel you have that mischievous little girl personality about you. The thing of it is, if you can trust your boyfriend, then you should not get in trouble. Otherwise, be careful. Thanks so much for your honesty in your response. Take care.
I am laughing now, because I feel you have that mischievous little girl personality about you. The thing of it is, if you can trust your boyfriend, then you should not get in trouble. Otherwise, be careful. Thanks so much for your honesty in your response. Take care.
@artistry (4151)
• United States
25 Jan 10
...Hi there emine08, Welcome to the ranch, enjoy. You make a good point, the person trusts you if they tell you about their secret. It is not always that we find someone that we take into our confidence and call them a friend. With that comes a responsibility in my opinion, which would include keeping anything that they tell us is a secret as a secret. Nothing destroys a friendship more than one telling others about a confidential matter. Thanks so much for your reply. Take care.
@cintoy (1011)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 10
When my friend ask me to keep a secret, then i will keep it as a secret without telling anyone. If i think that i am not able to keep the secret especially from someone that i don't really know well, then i will say it out.
It's better not to know the secret than revealing the secrets later on (and being found out!!)
Trust-worthy is important in our life.
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
26 Jan 10
.Hi there cintoy, Welcome to the ranch, it's a fun place to hang out. That would be the right attitude. Hard though, as most people want to know what the secret is, even if they don't think they can keep it a secret. So good for you to let them know, don't tell me. That way you are out if it, without having the burden of knowing and not being able to say anything about it. Trust is a very important trait. Take it easy, and thank you.
@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
24 Jan 10
hi artistry,
you can trust me,i never reveal any thing to any body if it was secret,i will keep secret of friends and relatives in my mind only,i do not expose them outside to others,only my close friends have some secrets i do not expose them any where till now,that is...have a nice day
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@artistry (4151)
• United States
24 Jan 10
..Hi there yugasini, I think that is a trait that a friend would appreciate soneone having, if they told you something very confidential. It's what each person would hope for, that their secret would not be out to everyone else that they know, at least until they would want to share it with them as well. You probably have lots of friends who trust you. Take care and thanks for your response.
