At What Age

When u are self dependent and are matured enough to handle every kinda situation...and the most imp thing is that u hav gr8 mutual undestanding with your wife

I feel that it depends on the people who want to become parents. I know that at the age of 34 I am ready to become a mother, but because of the bad economy I feel that it would be unfair to bring a child into this world with the economy being bad and the fact that my husband and I do not make that much money. My husband and I are struggling as it is and we sometimes argue because we never seem to have enough money and I think it would be more stressful to birng a baby into this world and think how can we raise a child and take care of ourselves at the same time. I know that having a baby is expensive and raising a child is also expensive. I know that my sister has four kids and raises them on her own because her deadbeat husband left her. My sister was 21 years old when she had her first child and 24 when she had the triplets. It has been hard on her to work nights and have my parents or brother babysit while she works, but she has no choice. She was ready to have kids, but her husband really was not ready.

oh my. im not sure theres a good age. i think it depends on the person. how mature they are, if they really want kids, and if they have enough love in them to strive to be as good as they can be for the kids. I had all that and still was not perfect. so i think its not good if you dont have any of this no matter how old you are. i had 3 kids between the ages of when i was 16 to 19, then one at 26, then at 32 yrsthe first 3 say they feel sorry for the last 2 because i was older and didnt play with them. the younger 2 says they feel sorry for the older ones cause i didnt spoil them the same and the youngest had more materail things so that said i guess i dont know the best age just the best attitude

I think as long as you are a mature person with a good job, younger would be better. I think anywhere from 22 to 28 Then you can grow and have fun with your kids. If you have them when you get older you have less energy and you can have more problems during the pregnancy. I had my girls one at almost 22 years old and the other at 25. It was good for me. Now they are 29 and 31 and I'm 53 and a young grandma for the past 3 1/2 years. I feel its also a better chance to see my granddaughter when she is grown. If I had waited later then the chances of seeing my granddaughter grown would be slim to none.

We became parents in our mid/late 30's even though we knew each other since we were 18 - that was the right choice for us. We both got to graduate college, dive into careers, travel a bit, have all kinds of friendships, did a lot of stuff together as well as doing our own things in our own interests. We lived our youth pretty much the fullest. So by the time we decided to become parents, we were very ready to put our all into family life. We were mentally ready. Now, I said that was the right choice for us - and luckily it all worked out the way we wanted it - us having 2 healthy children. I know some couples who have decided to have children later on like us - but they are having problems conceiving their first child - not sure that it is necessarily age that is the problem - but certainly the medical world recommends women to have children earlier than my age bracket. And then there's that issue of s higher chance of birth defects . . . so "physically" speaking, being older may not be ideal.

Oh that is a very good discussion my friend.I am still single and doesn't have any partners at all. But base on what I've studied, people who marries at younger age have the opportunity to become like just a friend of their children. While people who marries when they are old enough are well-organized in all matters and aspects of married life. Scientifically speaking, the ideal age for a woman to marry is at the age of 25 to 35-that is the time that her body can still respond very well to pregnancy. But for me, I think it depends upon the person. People who marry unexpectedly always end up wasting up their lives with the person they thought are wrong to marry. Though some people who ends up with the real love of their lives, can really live good life and make a good family. And with that, they can be a good parent coz those people can show their children the right ways of living and give them the right amount of discipline.

Mentally, financially and emotionally its better to have it when you feel ready for it. It all depends on the person, some people are ready younger, some people are ready older some in the middle. Physically you can be ready when you're about 15-17 since it was like that in the past. The younger the mother, the healthier the baby would be. Now with today's sciences we can wait a little longer. But of course we can't always wait too long to have it done naturally. You are already getting physically too old when you reach your late 30's according to doctors. The risk for your own life increases the older you get. So ideally when you're younger it's better. Now that's the weather you can have a baby, it's something different for when you should have a baby. Like I said, everyone is different everyone feels the pressures are different times. Ideally, I feel mid 20's is a good age depending on where you are in life. My friends have started to have kids, I was the first among them getting pregnant a year after graduating. Then my other friend gave birth after graduating college. and now my other friend is pregnant in her mid 20's with her first child. so it all depends on the person and the situation.

in my opinion, neither age nor financial stability will be the basis in order to become an ideal parent. its on how well you are aware of the responsibilities of becoming a parent and on how you will become a responsible parent as well. some young parents end up leaving their family coz they're not prepared for it yet, but there are also older parents who leave their family for being unsupportive and other issues. my grandparents were doing well when they started their family. on their 10th year, my grandpa had an affair that end up to separation. i have a friend who got married when he was 15. he didnt even finished high school but he decided to work abroad just to give all his best to support his family. he was able to buy a house and lot and a car for them. they still live together until now.

I dont really think age really matter much, at least in my views. I think you should be able to afford the things a baby will need as well as to be able to have a stable roof over their head. Being a young mom, I wasnt ready to have a child. I didnt get to finish High school. I wasnt terriably young, I had my oldest 2 months before turning 18. I think my husband and I did a beautiful job rasing her and now her younger sisters and older brother. They have always have had a roof over their heads as well as food on the table. If I had to "choose" a good age for a person to become a parent I would have to say between 25-30. To me, I think being a young parent makes it so much easier. I am able to run around with my children and keep up with them. I'm not saying, a parent aged 35 with a 5 year old has no energy, I just think it's easier. I will be able to relate to alot of things as they get older and probably enjoy the same things as them. Also I can be a young grandma and keep up with my grandbabies too. I am just hoping that day is faaar away.

It depends on what the person wants/is ready for. I'll take myself for example. I was ready to become a parent when I was young - 18, or even younger. The reason I say 18 is because I didn't graduate until I was 18. Unfortunately I didn't know anybody worthy of longterm boyfriend status, much LESS husband status, which seriously put a wrench in the plans to become a parent. Also there is that little matter of both emotional and financial stability, which isn't super stable when someone is young. Being a single parent wasn't something I was unwilling to do, but I knew that was a last resort, it would be hard to take care of a child without someone else - what would I do with a baby while I was at school and work? My feelings come from the desire I have always had to be a parent. I AM one now but I was older when my daughter was born - 29. I am 35 now and she will be 6 on Wednesday. It is funny to my husband and I sometimes when we are at the school with other parents because he was making comments about how some of the parents are dressed or the fact that they have a dozen piercings or tattoos. I had to remind him that our kids are in kindergarten - these are five year olds - and some of the parents are only 22 or 23. In fact, many of them are mid-twenties - WE are the old ones. I can say it is certainly EASIER to be established and stable before having children - we could shop for baby things and not worry about it in advance. I didn't have a baby shower, we just got what we wanted ourselves. I have always been able to be home, I haven't had to work two jobs on top of his in order to not lose an apartment, a car, or have our utilities shut off. We have never had to depend on either of our parents for our needs. I have never had to put my daughter in daycare. We have a home, property, retirement. I am sure if I had been 18 I wouldn't have had any of those things and it would have been tough. I wouldn't have changed it - not knowing what I know now - but it certainly would not be the life we have today. The nice thing about being young is that you have more energy and remember more about preteen and teen years when your child is that age, because I'd still be less than 30 when my daughter was 11 - if she'd been born when I was 17 or 18. You are also still fairly young when they graduate from high school and go to college, and after college - you may still not be retired. You have time to focus on you and still be active and healthy, etc. YOu get an opportunity to be a young grandparent . The nice thing about being older is like I said - stability in many ways. You also may have had several years or even a decade of time with your spouse just the two of you. You are probably knowing EXACTLY what you get into when you decide to have children, and have planned well in advance for it when it happens. I actually didn't get that extra time, I had an instant family, but that was a good thing for me. I am not sure what is better, it seems to me that it depends what your priorities are. There are benefits and drawbacks either way you go, and it just comes down to which ones are true deal breakers for you as well as the circumstances in your life at the time. As many people plan children, just as many are surprised by parenthood, so that often causes lives to go haywire. I would advise people to try and be READY for children before doing anything that leads down the path - because there is no going back. When you become a parent, you are a parent for eternity, whether or not you step up and take the responsibility.

I had my first child the day after I turned 17. Those first few years of his life were pretty much hell! I was far too young, and still very selfish. He did not have any sort of stability or a routine. We'd go to my friend's houses all day, not coming home until 11pm, then I'd stay up and watch movies all night and he'd sit right there watching them with me, never having a normal bed time or anything. When I was 21 I met my husband and moved in with him, finally settling into a routine. A year later my twins were born. I'm not sure if it was my age, or the fact that it was a set of twins along with a 5 year old, but I could not handle the situation! I had a mental break down, I just was not prepared for so much stress. My life turned around completely. Before the twins I still had a social life and it was easy to find someone to watch my son so I could go out and do things alone or with just my hubby. Once the twins came along I had to stop working and we could never find a soul to babysit for us. I was pretty angry over having to give up my life. My 4th child was born when I was 26 and it was a totally different experience. I bonded with him so much easier. Although I wasn't at all thrilled about becoming pregnant with him, the moment he was born I felt like my life was complete. I never got as stressed or as frustrated with him at any stage. I always figured my patience with him was due to my age, and that's probably about the point I should have started having kids. My youngest child was born when I was 28, and although he's more difficult than my other kids, I still have a lot more patience with him than I did with the first 3.

I think,it's right up to twenty years old.The important to be parent is having parenting education.We can looking for many information and lern how to be good parent.I really concern about this because everyone would like to marry and having baby but they are not concern about preparing to be parent.

I doubt there is a formula to calculate a "ideal age to become parent". Simply because becoming a parent have nothing to do with phisycal age .. The decision to give birth and raise a child is something require tons of maturity and time/finnances/knowledge planning, ahead. I mean both of potential future parents to be ready for what will come. Else, all will become just an attempt .. failed one, usualy ..

I was 23, my wife 17. Looking back we were to young, but it did make up grow up fast. Parenting is a life changer to some folks. I knew a real risk taker who was always jumping off something or racing someone, who I met 4-5 years later and had a child and he was now the most down to earth person. I don't think age is the first factor to look at. I feel its the maturity, and ability of the person involved that would be a deciding factor.

hi dorannmwin well really I guess any age, but from what the doctor told me when I was pregnant the first time, its better to do this before thirty, I was thirty the first time, and almost thirty one the second time, the first baby was fine, the second was brain damaged,not because of my age but because the doctor did not stop normal delivery and do a caesarean when it became very evident she was about to quit breathing,she was born not breathing and in t he half hour it took to get her to breathe her brain was damaged from lack of oxygen. I would say mid twenties is the safetest time to become a parent but obviously those who marry late also want to have children. Also I would tell anyone pregnant in their thirties to make it a rule to have a caesarean if the babys breathing slows as otherwise you run the risk of have a baby with brain damage.insist the doctor do this before ever going into labor.