mylot users!!!please give your advice!!!
By devmitra
@devmitra (274)
India
January 26, 2010 5:58am CST
Hello to all the mylot users.I have been suffering from a dilemma recently.I had never dated anyone from the last three years after a bitter breakup.I considered dating,loving,relationships, a sheer waste of time and emotions.Recently,I met a guy who has totally changed my belief system.He is innocent,honest and extremely caring.He does whatever I say,and believes in my words without any condition.He demands nothing in return,except that of being loved.He has never behaved indecently with me;he even feels shy to sit beside me,lest I may feel uncomfortable.He even pierced his ears,only because I told him that he would look great with a goatee and pierced ears.He cares too much or me and my words.
Now,the problem is he is three years younger to me.Is it allright if I date him,or fall in love with him.Ours is a country that would create problems later on for both of us.Iam really in need of some good advice.Do reply.Lots of love.
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16 responses
@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
that's so sweet of him :) you can rarely find a guy like him. after all i still believe that age does not matter and the gap between your ages is just a little. if you like him then go. fight for what you want! don't care if other people might think bad about you. do what's right and eventually i believe you will find your happiness and contentment :)
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@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Thank you so much for the support Kyle.All I needed now,was some positive support,and Iam happy to get that.Yeah,you are right.He is a rare piece.With all the encouragement I have got,I won't step back.THANKS A LOT DEAR!!!!KEEP SMILING AND STAY HAPPY.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
what that guy sounds like me har har har. that is how i was when i met my wife now for 7 years. and my wife is four years older than me. but we dont care. problems of couples occurs even you are at the same age.... that applies to any relationship. there is always ups and downs. the important part is you have understanding and trust and you always have an open communication. you are just starting to date him.... why are you thinking that there will be problems later on. know him better and enjoy. if ever you have problems in the future just hold hands and solve it together. goodluck
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
sometimes thinking about what others will say makes us worry more when there is really nothing to worry about. my family does not like my wife. they want me to marry somebody else. do you know what kind of problem was that? but i still fought for our love and married her. we are already married for 7 years and my father and a few of my relatives still dont like the idea. but i dont care. i am happy indeed. goodluck.
@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Thank You Se7enthbird.You are yet another example apart from Sinotruck that has filled me with more confidence on the issue.I can't thank you all enough for the positive responses.I feel so secured.I thank Mylot to have created such a problem solving,social networking site.Sir,you have opened out the knots so well.Your response is so clarified and well reasoned.Thank You once again for it.I wish everybody start thinking like you.The world would have been a better place to live in.God Bless You.
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Devmitra, what is the problem you had said about in your country regarding dating younger guys? I think if you really have the feelings for him, you have to let him know, so that both of you will be happy. If you want start dating him first, little by little as the days goes by you will discover his true self. It can change your mind to no, do not have a relationship with him or to yes, continue having relationship with him. Wait until you are really sure of what you feel. its hard to decide now, because in your decision at present depends your future.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Oh now I know, people look down on you. Here in our country it is just normal. If they love each other and happy with each other people close to them will understand, but if the age gap is more than 30 years , that is the criticism will come out. 3 years age gap is just normal here.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
27 Jan 10
Hey greychunny.Its great to interact with you after such a long time.Iam doing exactly what you have mentioned.Iam dating him,unofficialy,that is I just meet him as a friend.In my country,and in the city where I live,its a big taboo to date someone.That can still be managed though,but,if it is dating someone who is younger to you,people look down upon you as mean and desperate.That is why I was hesitant;but the guy looks elder to me,and he has the most beautiful heart that I have ever known yet.I have been trying to know him,and I will try to know him more first before I say an official,'yes'.But now Iam confident to move on with him by my side.God Bless You dear.
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
26 Jan 10
Why should the world tell you it's okay to fall in love? No one can tell you, much less stop you from loving someone. How will they know (it's only 3 years) unless you tell them or they know you both personally. I say GO for it~ :)
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@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Thanks for the response dear.All the responses above have pulled me out of that clog of negativism about the issue,I was jammed in.I couldn't even talk about it to anyone here.All you and your responses are so special to me,each and everyone of it;and dear Rachel,thanks agin for that last sentence of yours.Your words are realy inspiring.Lots of love.God bless you.
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@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
26 Jan 10
I'm glad for you! I love to hear love stories. I've been single for about 5 years now..sometimes when I feel like giving up-all it takes is a story like this to remind me that it's out there. I personally tend to go for older guys..usually 10 or so years older-I find the younger ones around here are pretty immature. People have judged me for that but who cares what they think :-P
I hope it stays that way forever and my best wishes to you!
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Hi devmitra! It is nice to know that you are dating again after three long years... Now I can say that you have finally moved on with that biiter break up...
Are you also attracted to this guy already? Well, you know devmitra, three (3) years age gap is not that big... Age is just nuumber... what matter most is his sincerity and love for you. If you see him as a responsible and matured man-- then there is no problem at all... Go and give yourself a chance. Be happy! You deserve it!
@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Helo Lovelyn.Thanks a lot for your response.The first time I saw this guy,I admired his innocence and simplicity.I must accept,that he is not that mature yet,but he says me always,"I will do whatever you will say(which he does,without a question),and I know you will help me to develop myself in all dimensions.I will be a perfect gentleman."With all the responses I have received,I just feel comfortable and at ease to give this a try.Thanks a lot for the response again.God Bless You dear.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Hi devmitra! God bless you too and I hope he will stays that way forever! He is somehow too good to be true, but I wished that he is really like that really... And is very in love with you. When its like that, then you will be the luckies woman on earth...
Man like him is somehow hard to find now a day.... Good luck and keep on testing his character and personality in a nice way.
Man like him is somehow hard to find now a day.... Good luck and keep on testing his character and personality in a nice way. 
@myetheresa (5)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
that type of guy is what everybody dreams of...love his style but just be careful, most guys nowadays do everything just to get what they want to...sometimes they show the real them when years had passed and if they were pretty sure that they already hook the girl to them..it's good to love but mostly girls do love soo much that made us forget to love ourselves somtimes..just be careful and take it slow honey..anyways, the road still long to travel with them..the longer you enjoy each company, the better you'll know him...
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@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Thank you for the reply dear.You are so different from others in your reply,and yet your response has made a special imprint on my mind.Yes,I have been testing him anytime I can.After the breakup,I have tried to use my head more than my heart to choose my man.This guy has shown positive streaks yet now.Lets see what happens in future.I hope things go well.But,thanks again for a sisterly advice.Thank you so much dear.God Bless You.Keep smiling.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I agree myetheresa it's what most of the girls dream of... 
But very true, most of the men are doing everything to please the girl and eventually they will get tired of doing so when they see how much you love them already... Like they become relax and very confident... Enjoy while it last...
But very true, most of the men are doing everything to please the girl and eventually they will get tired of doing so when they see how much you love them already... Like they become relax and very confident... Enjoy while it last...1 person likes this
@wildcatsthree (289)
• United States
26 Jan 10
If you enjoy being together, I say go for it. My husband is 2 years younger than me and it hasn't created any problems. If things work out well in the future for you, you will have a life companion. In the future if you face life's problems, he will be there for you to lean on, while the people who criticize you now may not be.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
26 Jan 10
Yes,I love being with him.I feel fresh and forget my worries.We never meet alone..its always with friends..but still I enjoy his company.He forgets his family worries and life tensions,when he is with me.I must say Miss,your last statement,is just amazingly inspiring.I hope things go well in future.Thanks a lot for your response dear.May god bless you.
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@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Go for it! Love knows no boundaries and I'm sure you'll be happy for the longest time of your life or maybe forever
Don't mind what others would say just as long as your happy and you're not hurting anyone
Don't mind what others would say just as long as your happy and you're not hurting anyone
@chikahdorah (269)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
OHHHH.... how sweet. i think you found your real happiness.
Hey, 3 years gap is not that big. I don't think it will be a hindrance. It depends on one's maturity. Sometimes maturity doesn't go with age. lol
I think you got your heart back now. You lost your heart before. And someone found it for you again...
Good luck with your love life.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
27 Jan 10
Helo Chikadorah.Yes buddy,I find myself happier nowadays.Life seems better and easier when he is around.I do feel like,he is giving me all the happiness I have always been dreaming for.With all the encouragement I have received,Iam confident enough to go for it mow.God Bless You dear.Take care.
@kathy714 (128)
• China
27 Jan 10
If I were you, I would fall in love with him and of course date him. It is hard to find someone who cares you so much as you descriped nowadays. People are too snobish. You should cherish what you have. Otherwise, you will feel regretted for missing such a good guy.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
27 Jan 10
Helo Kathy.Thank you so much for the valuable piece of advice.Yes dear,thats one thing that turns my heart crazy about him,that he is a piece of emerald,by heart.He is a rarity.He is too polite and knows his manners so well(not only before me,but before everybody else).I was reluctant earlier only for the age factor,but Iam pretty confident now.Thank you so much for the encouragement dear.God Bless You and have a gread day.
@monojdhole (200)
• India
26 Jan 10
Please go ahead. Such opportunity will not come again. Don't about anything else. If you are clear from your mind that he is the guy you want in life, go and get him.
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@devmitra (274)
• India
27 Jan 10
Helo Monojdhole.Thank you so much for the advice dear.Your words do giveme confidence to go on with the issue.He is the kind of guy,who hopefully,would keep me happy always.I was a bit hesitant earlier,but now Iam totally confident to move on with him.Thanks again for the encouragement dear.God Bless You.
@enieweiz (97)
•
27 Jan 10
i think it doesn't matter what age he is. i have dated guys younger than me, sadly they didn't end well. but i enjoyed my time with them at the very least. what is important is you remain happy. if you're in live with him, then go for it. it's your life after all. what people think of you is just a test you have to pass.
@devmitra (274)
• India
27 Jan 10
Helo eniweiz.Thank you so much for the response.Yes,I enjoy every moment with him.I feel good,fresh and just relaxed.Its that,I was just a little hesitant at first.With all the responses I have received,that hesitation has flown out of the window.Thanks again for the response dear.God bless you.
@ryanretener (9)
• Poland
27 Jan 10
I may say that love is unconditional, you don't need to be loved back as long as you feel that you are doing what you're heart trully desire. Don't be afraid to be loved too much, may be it is the right person given to you by God. Remember that you waste 3 yrs of your life and do not waste another. In connection with your age gap, do not hesitate to fall in love just because you are older. In psychology, I learned that women mature faster than man in terms of thinking, that's why it is better to have a relationship with younger person. Even if your country do not like such set up, do not mind them, do what will make you happy, because at the end of the day you are the one who will regret if you do not push through
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@tessgalia (2)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
age doesn't matter! As long as you loved him and enjoy life life with him and there is understanding both of you... its a great pleasure spending your life him.
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@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hmmm. I don't think that age should be an issue, specially if you are talking about love. I mean, love is beyond the physical things, like height, weight, appearances and age. It shouldn't deter you to be happy with someone that you love and that you feel can change your life.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
hi devmitra
It seemed you already move on and overcome the bitter break-up of yours last 3 years ago, and I would be happy for you if you could be with the guy that truly loves, care, respect and believes in your every word.. so I would say go ahead girl, both of you deserves to be happy.3 years of a gap is not that much.be happy together and grow in love. Good luck.
Happy mylotting.
