So do you put your self first?

United States
January 26, 2010 3:18pm CST
I was reading flat belly diet and it says to put your self first. I don't see how anyone with kids or a family can always put them self first I know I put my kids first and if comes to me going with out something or them going with out I know I will be the one going with out cuz they are more important to me then I am. So do you always put yourself first?
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batcountry72
@batcountry72 (219)
• United States
27 Jan 10
I think it's necessary to cut yourself some slack, and do nice things for you. It's o.k. to be a little selfish as long as you have your priorities straight. If you have kids I'm sure they always come first. That's part of being a good parent. I had to make a very important decision for myself a while ago. It was my decision to not have children. I work long hours, I travel often, and my time is sacrosanct. It was critical for me to realize that I may just be too selfish to have children. I have strong family ties, and that includes my friends. I'm incredibly loyal. My choice doesn't make me shallow. I cut myself some slack. That being said, I do give pause to the occasional,"What if?".
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Margajoe
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
27 Jan 10
Reading this tells me you are a very honest person. I think you made a wise decision. You were not thinking of yourself, you were thinking of the unborn child. What would happen? You were honest to yourself. That makes you an intelligent person. Sure, you ask yourself what if... I think to have children is a big responsibility. I have two grown children, and they are well off. But, it was a lot of work. It has it's advantages to be a mother. But it also has advantages not to be a mother. Who knows maybe someday... After all you never really now what the future brings. Take care.
brekeley
@brekeley (18)
• China
27 Jan 10
Hah! Putting your self first, you will not be called "mother" or "father"! Though i am only a twenty years' boy,no wife ,even if girlfirend, but i can accurately feel your feelings! I think you are a good familial member!Come on
Margajoe
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
27 Jan 10
No, not always. But now that the kids are grown up, I am starting to think about myself more often. I feel that I can think about what I want for a change. Not always do what everyone else wants. I was like you, and I don't regret it. But, I believe I too have a right to my own op-pion at times. And I can put my self first sometimes. Take care, have a nice day.
maezee
@maezee (41997)
• United States
26 Jan 10
I don't think you really CAN put yourself first when you have kids and a family and all kinds of responsibilities. Who has time for this? It's like when my professors would try to tell me that "studying comes first" even though I also have two part-time jobs and somehow manage to work 40 hours a week AND go to school (working has to come first, per all the bills that are stacked up needing to be paid.. lol.) But I DO think it's important to try to take SOME time for yourself each day, even just 10 minutes - while the kids are sleeping and the dishes are done, or whatever. I would go insane if I didn't have a little "me" time every day!