Common sense is not so common after all

@kalav56 (11464)
India
January 27, 2010 4:23am CST
We often hear people say things and put it down to 'sheer common sense'. My husband is such a person and would observe and say things which I wonder at.Some things may not have struck me for some reason or the other.I may have looked at it in another perspective or it would have skipped my notice. He says it is sheer common sense.But is this 'common sense' really common?Personally, I do not find it always common.Please share your thoughts .
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
28 Jan 10
You really pointed that out! People are truly unique even in the information that is stored in our individual brains. My BF also taught me once how to drive a motorbike. He's been driving since highschool so I guess he has developed the skill and the "common sense" when it comes to driving. What I mean to say is, he knows when to step on the clutch, when to hit the brakes, when to turn , how to stop. When he taught me, he expected me to already have keen sense of judgement as to what to do in a certain situation. He threw me that line, "common sense" and it kind of scared me. Not annoyed. Scared. Driving terrifies me at this point and there's balancing, and coordination that I am still trying to learn and he already expects me to be an expert. What if I encounter something and the controls just get mixed up in my brain, add to that the fact that I don't have the "common sense" for it. I might just end up crashing onto an electric post! Scary thought.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jan 10
Theresaaaisa ! Let me assure you that you have enough common sense and that is why you are wary of the whole thing.Tell yourboyfriend thta you have enough common sense but you have a different "road" sense which you have used only for walking so far.When you start learning driving at a slighlty adult age[above 24 or so] there tends to be a bit of fear and hesitation.Your boyfriend knows to drive and so he thinks it is common.Now, if you can bake a cake wonderfully well or prepare an exclusive dish can you call it common sense and thta he should know it?
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Jan 10
That is very comforting to note. However, I also don't bake. Or at least I've had many disastrous attempts. But yeah, I do have skills that he doesn't but I do not shag at his face the "common sense" stuff. Kinda unfair, huh? I still can't drive.
• Australia
27 Jan 10
Is common sense common? Well, the definition of common is shared by all. While we all have "sense" some people don't use it the way it should be used. Rather, they use their own (often very illogical) thinking and mistakenly think it is common sense. Maybe we should call it "logical sense"? But then, what is logical to some is plainly not logical to others, so that won't work either. Maybe we just have to accept that we are different. We think in different ways and see things differently. Since common sense will never be common to all, let's just hope that we all keep an open mind, always able to at least consider another person's views.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jan 10
Absolutely right.Just now I was writing out my comment to theresaaisa saying the same thing.We must have an open mind, accept that people are different and learn to respect another person's views.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
28 Jan 10
Men are from Mars and women are from Venus? I have noticed that what seems logical to one person may be quite different from what is logical to another, and also that husbands tend to call the woman's reasoning illogical because it differs from their own. That is a put-down. But what is meant by common sense is reasoning that, while it may not be all that common, is derived from our experience rather than from a formula or someone else's directives. It is like when we say someone cannot see the forest for the trees. The common sense solution is the one that is right in front of our eyes. Sometimes we look so far away that we do not see what is near. A common sense solution is one that is close at hand and uses what we have.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jan 10
Yes drannh! Each one views things from a different angle.My husband says that I do not walk on the ground and would say things in avery idealistic manner.These are the times when he makes some very downtoearth remarks.I tend to believe what people say than use my discretion.At other times I would be absolutely correct in my intuitive assessment.Thanks for the wonderful response.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
29 Jan 10
I had one of those situations just today when what a person was telling me made sense, but then I got an uneasy feeling and later it came to me that the person was lying and then I wondered why, so I called a mutual acquaintance and asked if she had heard from this person lately. Boy did I get an earful. It turned out that the first person was indeed lying and up to no good.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I consider myself a common sense thinker but I do realize that not every person thinks this way, in fact a lot of people dont use there common sense the part of there brain that tells them certain basics in life, so I think your right in a way because a lot of people just have a different way of viewing things so common sense isent so common after all, but it can also depend on what your interpretation of what common sense is.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jan 10
What you say is right.We must have an open mind, accept that people are different and learn to respect another person's views.THe interpretation , as someone had pointed out should be to basic things in life.THanks for the resposne.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
27 Jan 10
Hi kala Recently I am observing that common sense is becoming common in well educated people itself. The way they do the way they talk makes me think like that. As a matter of fact, I too lack common sense at times. In a hurry I will take certain decisions for which I will repent later on proving the adage that haste makes waste
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
27 Jan 10
You mean it is uncommon in educated folks itself? When you take decisions in a hurry we tend to overlook something Vathsala; don't feel bad about it.I am sure you yourself would have slowed down .It comes naturally as we grow older isn't it?"Padharadha Kaariyam Sidharadhu"---Proverbs are always profound.
• India
27 Jan 10
May be you are right, I suppose kala
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Yah your right. Common sense is not common because some are just so stupid not to use it, they simply dont have, or they do have but pretending not to have it. Pitty are those who does not have it, my appreciation goes to those normal persons who have and uses it well.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
27 Jan 10
NO;I is not thta people do not have it.They just think in a different way and in their hurry or desire for something they overlook things and do what they ought not to be doing.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
27 Jan 10
Hi kala, It is true that ‘common sense’ is ‘uncommon’ in people. Many intelligent people are failing to apply their common sense when in need. It may be simple but need observation which is not simple for all. So it is saying that ‘common sense is not common for all’.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
27 Jan 10
Hi Sree!Nice to see your response first.What you say is true Sree. Many intelligent people and people with a lot of academic degrees and qualififcation sometimes would not exhibit this common sense.Basically, it is only a lack of application at times. Thanks for the response.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
27 Jan 10
There are certain things that people take for granted that everyone should know. That is what is referred to as common sense. But what is common for one person may not be for another. Things that are truly common sense would have to be universal, like if you touch something hot, you will get burned. Other things, like facts that are specific to a certain topic, like computers, are not common sense. But people who know those things sometimes take for granted that everyone does. Even truly common sense things seem to be lacking these days in a lot of people. I see people doing things when they really should know better.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
27 Jan 10
What a great response! Sometimes what is common for one is not common for another.On the other hand, basic facts are common an dsometimes we just overlook what is staring at our faces.You have put it very succinctly.THanks for the great response.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
I think common sense is really common because all people have it. The only difference is that some people use it and some don't. I believe that I often use it, but sometimes I forget to. I think what is needed is for us to train ourselves to use our common sense.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
28 Jan 10
I think we say common sense when we expect the thing that is done maximum people. So it's common. But somethings are really uncommon but we expect . It's natural.