Relationship on net, will it work?

Indonesia
January 27, 2010 9:05am CST
Do u ever fall in love with someone u meet on internet? And he/she is from a far far away country from where u live. And then both of u agreed to make a relationship even if u never meet each other. I have a friend, and she is doing that relationship. Honestly i did this kind of relationship, but it didn't work. Because.... It's a secret :P Well, any of u have this kind of experience?? I'm not afraid with relationship on net, maybe one day i'll meet a guy on net, and we agree to make a relationship on net, and then i can practice all your response in my relationship. Please sharing with me about your experience :)
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15 responses
@ryanhac (58)
• India
28 Jan 10
Well, So far I haven't had such an experience.But I know of some people having successful relationship which started as a friendship on net.But some fail too. I feel that we should be extra careful when we enter into a relationship on net.There could be some fraudulent activities performed by people who gets close just to extract money or some benefits.Even recently I read in the newspaper of an incident in which a software engineer got close to a girl on net and he was madly in love with her.Later she started asking for money and his credit card number.He lost a lot of money in this manner.When the boy asked to meet the girl,he was told to meet her in a particular place.But when he reached there he was threatened by some people and asked never to contact again.The boy gave a complaint to the police,and later it was found out that the person who posed as the girl was a man instead. These kind of incidents occur and knowing these keeps me a little doubtful about any relationship on net.
• China
29 Jan 10
The story frightens me! But it does happen in China here."Love on the internet", we call it "??" in Chinese, it causes many crimes, such as what you've mentioned "extract money" in your story, "entice the girl to a quiet place and XX her", or even "seduce people out and kill". Although these crimes are rare nowadays, it does happen sometimes. Most of these crimes are targeted at vulnerable girls, women & adolescents as these people don't have the social experience to deal with such cases. As said above, we should be careful in handling online relationships.
@yohaneng (19)
• India
27 Jan 10
yes relations can be made im any place anytime. My 65 yr old architectural college principal fell in love with a 21 yr old student and ran from home with her....can u imagine?
• Indonesia
28 Jan 10
r u serious?? I can't imagine that. But that is love, love can be such crazy thing
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
27 Jan 10
Coincidentally, it so happened that I have a friend who got to know his girlfriend on the net. They first got to know each other through IM, then later on, they met up and soon, courtship began. That was 3 years ago. Now, they have already got married and my friend is going to be a father soon! So, it worked for my friend. Of course, there are also cases where the relationship doesn't turn out fine. Judge for yourself before you commit yourself to an online relationship.
• Indonesia
27 Jan 10
wow.. your friend is so lucky. So I think to make the relationship working, the couple should have commitment to them self, if they really want to make it true or not. If it's only one person who have big faith in their relationship, so it won't success. So they should make their mission as one, if they each other have different thought, it will be hard to make it come true. Don't you agree???
• China
29 Jan 10
Well, I never fall in love with someone on the internet because it's not that real. But if there is a chance, I'm willing to have a try. No one knows what will happen in the end, doesn't it? I think if we both think we are matching each other, we can meet and live together. For me, love is something I feel and enjoy in every activity I've been with her.
• India
28 Jan 10
try me. u will get all ur answers. :)
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
28 Jan 10
I haven't had any this kind of experience myself because i'm a person who hate chatting with others on net. However there are many sucessful cases here around me. One of my colleague she got to know her husband on net and this guy gave up his good job in another city to come to marry her at her request in her hometown. At the beginning the girls' parents have doubts about their relationship but it turns out that the guy is a good person and they live a happy life here. So who knows?
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
28 Jan 10
I never fall in love with a person whom i know from internet. And i don't want to be. In my experience i saw lot of person that they fall in love in internet but there relation is no longer. So i will not agree to fall in love in internet.
@esjosh (915)
• India
28 Jan 10
It get successful one in 100 cases. I am know to two cases of such kind personally. 1. My cousin's friend (Girl from INDIA) met with a guy of South Africa, had internet relation ship form more than a year. The guy came to INDIA and made it official, get married with her and took her to his land. Successful case. 2. My friend Jay (Gujarati) boy caught a Punjabi girl from Delhi on net, they fell in love with each other. Jay is pass in the screening test from the girls parents. Now we have problem, Jay's mother is not ready to accept the girl. We are in process to convince her (jay's mom) and I know we will do it.
@emine08 (1530)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 10
if you are sure you can do this relationship. But I think it is more real if you make relationship in the real world. because you will know more your partner. It is your choice.
• United States
28 Jan 10
Some relationships work out online, but normally only if they have sincere plans to meet each other in a set amount of time. Loyalty is hard over the internet, because it's easy to get away with, and cover up. It's not the greatest idea, but if it works, that's a miracle. Good luck to whoever does it.
@ANIME123 (2472)
• United States
28 Jan 10
No I have never fallen in love through the internet, but I do know people that they fall in love with them over the internet. It's cute how that always happen. It's pretty sad when they live far away from each other that can be heart breaking,but always have faith and you will meet that person one day. I think that it's lovely in a way because you know that someone out there is waiting for you and very eager to finally meet you. Anyway best of luck to you.
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hello luvlymee26. As for me, I have seen and heard stories from people who became successful and not successful on building relationship thru the internet. So I guess this instance; relationship on the internet, would and wouldn't work depending on the person involve and the given situation/relationship. My sister had a boyfriend from another country, they communicate on email, instant messenger, sometimes they send sms and calls using mobile phones, (it cost too much though since the airtime charge would vary from where are you sending the message/calling and to where the recipient is), web camera etc. But we can't ignore the fact that they have cultural differences, different practice and belief, habits etc since they are not physically together or regularly seeing each other, you wouldn’t know this, unless you tell the other person vice versa but of course it is still different. You need to be with that person so you can observe and tell and from there you can make the necessary adjustment for the relationship to work. So there, they have misunderstandings, miscommunications and all causing their relationship to end/ not to work. I know the guy already have plans of going here in our country to visit my sister which unfortunately didn’t happen. On the other hand, those success stories, also has flaws, but I think they gave more importance to the relationship they have built on the internet, or on the foundation made while they were still communicating online that’s why they succeeded. Or maybe they really fell in love with each other, despite of their differences... Despite of knowing or seeing that person just now. Thank you for the discussion.
@jsharriz (436)
• Ukraine
27 Jan 10
well i believe its possible to fall in luv wid sme1 u meet online ,though very small percent go on to get married... my frnd found his luv through facebook.. n he has proposed her.. girl ,as she knws him jus through net n ve spoken wid him through phne few times has asked him to give her sme time.. so he's waitin wid his fingers crossed.. he's ready to fly to her country imdly if she agrees... i wish he has gud luck..
@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
hello luvly, I had my neighbor got married last two weeks ago i guess. She met her husband thru internet. So,i could say,it's luck. Maybe,some relationship doesn't last long or never ended by marrying each other,while some were successful and even had a happy ending. No one can tell about it.It is like win or loss. Have a good day always
@delkar (1715)
• Romania
27 Jan 10
i have met a girl on the internet . To be honest , on hi5 . It`s an aplication that you can show interest in any from there . It`s called "are you interested ? " So , a girl from my country said that she`s interested and after that we talked on messenger . But it passed one year already and we didn`t met until now, and i don`t think that we will meet too soon . But we are close friends. We talked on the phone too, we saw each other on webcamera and so on . I don`t know how it`s a relationship with someone from another country , but i would like to try that . My half maybe it`s not from my contry , and i really want to move out in another country , to work there .