In pain and full of tears

Philippines
January 28, 2010 2:34am CST
I feel so sorry for my eldest sister, she's been married for 10 years and desperately wanted a baby. just last 4 months ago she went to one of the chinese temple miles away from our hometown, there's a believe that if a woman would hold the Golden buddha in that temple there will be a possibility to get pregnant., and so she tried. Last november her menstration were delayed for 3 weeks, so she bought a pregnancy kit and test it all by herself, she was so amazed when she read it positive. She told her husband immediately, but they both decided to surprise both family side and didn't tell any anybody.This coming feb.27 her husband will celebrate his 34th bday,and they'll going to celebrate and at the same time announce about them having a baby, her pregnancy.But things went wrong, I can't believe it. just earlier after lunch I received call from my mother and the bad news is my eldest sister got miscarriage., at first I really thought it was a joke, cos I didn't know she's pregnant, but I can hear my mom crying with sympathy for the couple. and now I am convinced. I feel so sorry for my sister and for her husband. Is anybody here in mylot hard to get pregnant?.or been waiting too long? how many years after marriage you got pregnant? thanks.
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12 responses
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
Sorry to hear about your sister. It's a real harsh kind of disappointment there. This case could be one of the worst. Anyway, did your sister get her regular checkups when pregnant? It's a monthly ritual supposedly, her doctor could have given a warning if something was about to go wrong or if there are problems with her... Just continue to support your sister and her husband emotionally or in any way you can as I'm sure they are going through a very difficult time right now.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I'll be including your family in my prayers tonight. . . I'm not sure if you believe in any religion, but I hope it helps.
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
yes, thank you. I know prayer is powerful
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
yes, they went prenatal checkups after knowing she's positive, my mom said the OB prescribed vitamins for pregnant woman, but still there should be another pills for the baby to keep strong and safe inside the womb. yes, my mom and her mom in-law are very supportive to the couple,comforted them. for they know what the couple going through right now.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
I'm really very sorry to hear that. I am also married and it has been months since we have been trying and trying but nothing happens but I'm not losing hope. I know it will come, I just have a very strong feeling. I was just thinking that maybe its not time yet. God is still preparing me for something big. And maybe God is also preparing your sister and his husband for something. I believe things happen for a reason. If she they were able to form an embryo then maybe they can do it again. I think there is still a great possibility. How old is you sister by the way?
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
she's 33 years old. Yes, I know God will bless them for another angel. thanks to you, and I also wish you a healthy baby soon., just continue to pray and surely God will grant your heart desires...Good luck
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I think your sister is still young. I think she can still conceive a baby. I just can tell because there are women in Korea who marries in their late 20's or early 30's and they were also able to conceive healthy babies. Just tell your sister not to lose hope. I'll pray for her and your family too. =)
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
Oh that is really bad. I am sorry to hear that, but I think right now after healing then maybe there is a ray of hope that they can really make babies. I think the second time around they should be more careful and try to consult the doctor immediately after knowing that they are positive.
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
yes, I hope so...
@deemazing (395)
• United States
29 Jan 10
That's really sad. My oldest niece (she's older than I am) has been trying with her husband for about 15 years. She's done various fertility treatments including some kind of surgery that I'm not knowledgeable about. She just recently told us she is 7 weeks pregnant, expecting in September so we are really happy for her, but considering she has had many miscarriages before she is already pretty much on bed rest. So it's scary and exciting at the same time. We don't want them to be disappointed if it doesn't work out and have to go through the emotional trauma again.
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
send my greetings to your niece. 15 years of waiting and finally God allows them to be a real family, tell her to always pray and take extra care.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
That was a very sad story. I got married in 2008 and we will celebrate our second year on May this year. We are also hoping to have a child before we celebrated our third year. We are just praying hard that we will be blessed soon with a child. I just hope your sister are now fine. I will pray for her immediate recovery.
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
yes its hard, But God knows everything. thanks and I hope that you'll have your baby soon.Good luck
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@larish (2191)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Yes, God has a reason for everything. All we have to do is to be strong and positive in handling our problems or challenges. Thanks.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
Im sorry to hear what happened to your sister. It is a usual problem for some couple and I understand there feelings. I believe that the baby will come in the right time, god really have reasons for those things that happened in your life.
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
thanks junmae yes, it will just come in God's perfect time.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
28 Jan 10
i feel so sorry for your sister... i had been married for over 4 years now and still doesn't have a baby yet as well... i am trying hard this year and i promise myself to commit to the treatment whole-heartedly this time... i will pray for your sister for a speedy recovery and hopefully God will bless her with a baby soon... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
thank you lingli Yes, I'll include you in my prayers as well, Do not loose hope, God is full of surprise.
@atleya (946)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 10
Hi, firstly, please accept my deepest sympathy to your eldest sister. I hope she strong enough to face this bad fact. Children is gift of God. Just pray and ask God, because this is a life mystery which only God know. Ask your eldest sister to be patient and believe that one day God will help and give them children. Have a good day. Best wishes,
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
Thank you atleya, your sincere sympathy is really appreciated. Yes, God is good all the time, I know he'll bless them another angel soon.
@emediloy (701)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 10
Hi myramae..i'm so sorry about your sister. i can feel how much pain is it, because it happen to me too. i have been married for 2 years but still not pregnant til now. Me and my husband decide to check to obgyn last year, and hope we can have a baby soon. but the doctor said that is something wrong with my tubas and its really hard to get pregnant soon. i'm so shocked to hear about that. i cried all day, i don't understand why its happen to me. i just want to be another woman who get pregnant naturally. but then i realized, it must be plan from God. Now we just try and pray hope someday a baby angel will come to us.
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
Yes, I'll just pray for her immediate recovery, and pray to God to comfort both of them. oh, you experienced such feelings as well.. so you can really relate with what my sister's going through now.Yes, let's pray for another angel to come, There's no impossible if we just believes In God. Happy mylotting
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
Hi Myramae! I feel for the lost of your sister. My OB told me before that It will be hard for me to bear a child. That was the reson I got so depressed after I learned that. However, my hubby and I can't believe when just after two weeks my OB told that to us we found out that I am pregnant. We were so happy and we made sure that my pregnany will have no problem. My child is now 4 months old. He is a very healthy baby boy. My aunt though never had a child. However, they adopted a cute little girl. I have a friend who was already 38 years old when she got pregnant. They have been waiting for her to have a baby and at long last it was given to her. Her baby is now 5 months old. :) Just tell your sister not to lose hope.
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
congrats to both of you, its like a miracle..God is really amazing. anyway, thanks for your sincere sympathy, I would tell my sis about all of the mylotters sympathy for her.I know they can make it again, God is good.
• China
29 Jan 10
I am sorry to hear that your sisters story.I have saw a TV play before.If you want to pregant ,you should not always thinking I want to pregant.It may cause a high pressure.and always disappointd.Be faith.I think your sister and her husband will have a lovely baby sooner or later.Best wishes for all of you.
• India
29 Jan 10
sorry to hear bot tht!!pls dont worry or lose hope..there s alway s other alternative's such as adoption and stuff!!u ll be in my prayers''...