How much do you trust your partner?
By dhs1008
@dhs1008 (100)
January 28, 2010 7:36am CST
how much do you trust you partner?. can you sleep at night if your partner is not yet at home?.would you call him/her if ever he/she's not yet home til midnight? or keep on bothering or calling him if he hangs up your phone call even though hes up to something important? would you believe your partner if he/she tells you that he/shes doing something important at office, or in a meeting even though its late at night? would you ask him/her the details how's the party going on that he/she just attended after going home?. what should you do in order to prove to others or to your partner that you really trust him/her??
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18 responses
@rsfmkta (198)
• India
28 Jan 10
I trust my partner as much as I trust in myself. I think trust is everything for life. If you can't trust your partner then you can not be happy in life. So try to trust your partner and if you don't have then try to find a trusted partner. Happy MyLotting.
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
30 Jan 10
Trust is the most important part of any relation. I have full eyes closed closed on my partner. I love my wife and have total faith on her. She is a housewife and whenever i gets late she calls me and gets worried about me but she never complaint about my attitude and i also love her and trust her deep from my heart. Trust is the baseline of your relations. If you dont have enough trust on your partner your relation is son going to end or you are going to mentally suffer a lot.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
rockydam83, we do have same partner. she does wait for me and gets worried and calls me if i dont give a call. but she didnt complain and made it a big deal on us. sometimes she complains but in a sweet way. you could know if its in sarcastic way or she only wants to feel secured.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I never really fully trust anyone. I have had a lot of experiences in life that left me with very little trust especially with men. I really dislike most men I just feel they are all the same. My husband I never trusted just because thats how I am but then I did learn to trust him a little even though I kept finding out he was lieing to me. I shouldnt have trusted him at all because in the 6 years we were married he lied to me about everything and now that we are getting a divorce I guess he felt guilt because he let it all out all the lies he told me over the years. Its sad. I am so far from a liar I cannot imagine how people could be like that.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
shaggin, there are people whos lie that. me too i hid something to my partner, but eventually told her. i told her i never did it, i fought for the temptations and eventually won. so i hid it to her because its no big deal at all. she understands me, not fully but its fine. its the payment for hiding it to her. its the only mistake which i did not do but gets irritated when she remembers those things.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
31 Jan 10
Hi, dhs1008. I trust my husband/partner. When he goes out, I don't call him every wakening moment. I will give him his space so that he can do what he has to do. I only call him when I really need him at home or if I need him to get something for me while he is out. I trust him. There were times in our marriage that I would believe that he was cheating on me. But, the truth was, he was not. His sister tried to convince me that he was no good and that I should leave him. I don't know why she tried to do her best to break our marriage up. He did had some ways that he needed to change about him though. That was in the past and this is now. He is a faithful husband to me. And a loyal father. Since I met him 10 years ago, I have trusted him regardless, and I still trust him now. If there is no trust in a relationship then it is best to not be together.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
yep you are right about there cream97. maybe the reason why her sister wants the two of you not to be together is because shes just jealous about you. or if shes so close to her brother and now that He has a life, he doesn't have much time with her, all his attentions are into you and your children. so she gets upset and jealous. just a thought though.
@mariemanuel (86)
• India
29 Jan 10
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. After a lot of bumps with trust we have worked out a great system that keeps both of us happy and at peace.Both of us make sure that we keep the other informed of where we are , or where we are going, or what we are up to. We send each other messages of funny instances we are facing.
This way my husband does not feel bad and neither do I. We do not trouble each other trying to find out about each others movements as we are informed of it willingly by each other.
@ajaygupta (168)
• India
28 Jan 10
there shud not be a doubt at all if u r talking on ur partner and if there is a question in ur mind then he/she is not truly a partner. that is what i feel on ur question dear.
@dhs1008 (100)
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28 Jan 10
i felt that way too.i would be unfair to her if i doubt her even just for 1%. i would be a rude partner if i think other way around even if shes thinking the other way around..but im trying my best to trust her 100%. hope i could do that as soon as possible so that there would be fair and equality in our relationship.
@john_ronald (383)
• Hong Kong
29 Jan 10
i trust mine but with that circumstances maybe not, because office hours or meetings should not be done by the late midnight, if there is a party maybe 11 is too late to go home. If so you don't trust you should pick him/her at the office or w8 outside the main gate and tell that you are waiting. But still we should trust always and give love as much we can have.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
hahaha. picking up and waiting outside the venue or office is tiring. but thats a great idea. it would cost you a lot of troubles and time, but if you cant get through that, thinking why meetings are held really late then thats the best option for you.
way back, there are some executive meetings and office meetings wherein my dad usually came really late. their meetings are held early at night, but gets finished really really late, like at dawn.
@kaylachan (57716)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Jan 10
I tend to have anxity issues and if something strays too far from the norm I tend to have a panic attack. I've adapted to George working at night, but the closer it gets to close the more anxious I get. I love him, and I trust him. He's with me everyday. But, I can't help the panic attacks. But, it preaty much stops there.
@biznesminded (41)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
I think asking questions is not a sign that your not trusting your partner, unless it really sounds distrusting the way you ask her/him. It depends on the way you say it, because if you just say it like your interested too on what he/she does, then there will be no conflict will occur. Now if she just tell me the exact detail of where, what she is doing and when she will be back home, then i would be comfortable. I believe that there's nothing wrong of saying the details of what you do to your partner because it is his/her right to know about it because obviously you are PARTNERS.
@dhs1008 (100)
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30 Jan 10
i believe so too!..your partner should be the one calling/telling you where and what he/shes doing there. not that she would wait for you to call you up. hes the one out, so he should be the one who'll consider first, let her know to let his partner be comfortable at home.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
My husband is working miles apart from me, he's been there for more than two years, And we both trust each other, I never doubt him having an affair, because I know he's not that kind of guy., and also because I trust in myself. In a relationship trust is the most important, If the trust were lost, the love will fade a little by little ,and eventually will lost. Trust your partner as the way you trust yourself. Good luck.
@dhs1008 (100)
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29 Jan 10
i do believe you also. if there's no trust in your relationship, it would soon fade away. i experienced that scenario also. with my first girlfriend, we really love each other coz shes my first and im his first. but after a few years, we separated bcoz she doesnt trust me that much. im full of her accusations. now, we had an agreement with my new partner, with the do's and dont's. to make things clear..
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
28 Jan 10
I trust my partner a lot. I don't do the things you mentioned above. I never did it even once. I am not the type of person who would like to know all and as detailed as possible what my partner did the whole day or where he has been. That is the reason sometimes he does something to make me jealous. He would even tell me sometimes that it is as if I don't care for him. I am just really not the type of person who would want to know someone else wherabouts unless we have a plan for the day and for some reason he forgot.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
these are the disadvantages of not asking some details, even just once in awhile. with me, i ask my partner but not all the time, and if i ask something not all details.now its up to her if she would tell me some. that would be great!.and if i ask her, im not asking her sarcastically to avoid any misunderstandings and commotion. i trust her, but its up to her if she would betray that trust! karma strikes back thrice! xD
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
28 Jan 10
oh I am in the same situation, my boyfriend stay in my place to sleep with me, and believe I really love him, but I hate when he snores in the middle of the night, he wakes me up and then I can't fall asleep.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
28 Jan 10
I would believe in my partner, he has show me that I am important in his life, he respect me and really love me, and in return to that I believe in him. I may be naive, but that is the way I live, I think trust is the best that you can have in a relatioship
@dhs1008 (100)
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28 Jan 10
thats great for you and your partner. i hope i can be like you, to fully trust you partner with your whole life. im trying my best to trust her with all my life, but as of now, i think im trusting her 99%. hope i could change that 1% so i could be like you and tell the world with all my life, i trust her. i do envy you.have any suggestions what should i do?
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
28 Jan 10
Well I quite frankly dont really trust anyone fully including my husband...BUT he is aware of that, knows WHY I'm like that and works with me etc...Can I sleep if he's not home at his usual time? No...I mean he always calls to let me knwo what the reason is BUT I worry about him getting home safe so I stay up and wait...As for hanging up on me..LOL HE WOULD NEVER DARE....cause that would be a VERY bad scene for him..
@dhs1008 (100)
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28 Jan 10
me too, i would never dare to hang up on my partner...sure it would be world warIII..LOL!
i would also try to call her up, just to tell her everything's fine..cause if its me on her shoes, i cant sleep also if shes still not at home. i would consider everything, him and my situation..
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
29 Jan 10
I trust my husband solely for the simple reason he had crappy relationships before me and I had a crappy marriage before him therefore we both understand the commitment and really strive to treat each other how we would want to be treated. We both had rocky relationships before and we did not want someone that was going to be mean to us so that was one of our attractions to each other. We value each others opinion and communicate. We strife to make each other happy whether it is just that coffee in the morning or the smile when we see each other.
@jenn_ley (13)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
trust will never be an issue if the partner dont make it an issue. we understand that there will always be situations when our partners needs time to be with friends. but there is nothing we can do if he/she just want to play around with other girls/guys. for those who are left at home, lying in your bed alone, torturing your mind. just get a life. that doesnt mean you will play around with other girls/man. no.1 rule, never open your partners phone. you are acting like your a looser. let him/her do what he/she wants to do. or else your just pushing him/her away...
