marriage on impulse

I think you got a point and the show you've seen got a point too. Us females are the ones looking for settlement and our guys merely doesn't want to get tied up. I'm not generalizing all men but I think that's how it goes. So I think I with that impulse thing. So I really shouldn't co-habitat with my boyfriend not until we're married. :p

I have to disagree with all of the above. I personally lived with my husband for 2 years before we got married. We were happy, we knew we'd stay together forever. Actually he is the one who wanted to be married, and I kept putting it off. Not because I didn't want to marry him, just because I wasn't raised to believe that marriage is that important. To me it was just a piece of paper and a name change. Then when I got pregnant for our twins, that's when my mind changed. I wanted to be a family, not just a couple who had kids together. So 6 months after the twins were born, we made it official. That was almost 7 years ago, and we've been very happy ever since. I know another couple who've lived together for over 10 years and are a perfectly happy couple. They're not married, but not because they don't want to be. They're just like I was, they believe marriage is not important. They can be together and love each other without marriage. They also have 3 kids together, and he had 2 kids before he met her, so they're raising their 5 kids together. They're very happy with their lives.

we lived together for the best part of nine years before we got married. I don't think it's unlikely. the longer we were together the more we wanted to get married. marriage isn't about the initial "heat" as you call it. it's more about the comfort and love you have between you even after the initial phase is gone.

Co-habitat is not the best before marriage.this can lead to taking wrong decision about the relationship.

After a long courtship, the oddly matched couple - he's six foot seven inches tall and she's five foot four - have just returned from their honeymoon in the Indian resort of Goa.

I think that's true in some cases. Furthermore, it's not conditioned by culture nor social habits. I'm from Poland and, in most cases, it looks like same in here. I've left my parents house more than year ago, to move in with my girlfriend. She is quite impatient about our marriage, but I feel, that's quite important decission in life, that needs to be thinked-over. It's not like, that I don't want to get married. I even had few plans on how to porpose to her, but all failed. She feels, that the form is not important, so it doesn't have to be romantic. After this year, the 'trial period' is over, we know each one better than before and I'm still sure, that I want to marry her :)

I can agree with you the opening part that after living together(co-habitat) for some time it is unlikely to lead to the the marriage. Even I will agree with you that Every love heat will become cold after some time. But I strongly disagree with you that only females thats waiting for marriage after co- habitat and the guys will not. Its all depeds on the committment and sincereity irrespective of their gender. In a relation whether it is love, co-habitat or marriage, it is important that one should be sincere, frank and honest.Otherwise it will be mere cheating.

I kind of agree with that. I think for a lot of people marriage IS on impulse but not for everybody. Especially people that get married young or people that get married just because the girl is pregnant. Those kind of marriages usually end up bad and the boy and girl usually regret it.

for me marriage , because marriage is important to a person who have really seriously in a relationship. for me impulse is not important.