Have you ever disliked someone for no valid reason at all?

Philippines
January 30, 2010 5:44pm CST
I can't put a finger on it, I think something with that guy is off. Or sometimes, I can't seem to like this girl, she looks at me weirdly. Have you ever experienced that? I feel guilty sometimes because I'm so distrustful. Is this normal?
5 responses
@gerald_lian (2188)
• Australia
31 Jan 10
I guess we have all been guilty of that one time or another, because I think that's just how humans are programmed. There are just people who give you a bad "aura" or vibe that even if you haven't met them before, you are bound to start disliking them for no reason when they come near. I do feel guilty of it too sometimes, but sometimes I can't help but feel it's good to feel that way because we become wary of how other people may treat or respond to us, and we try to think of ways to deal with situations when that person is around. But of course, to not trust someone because you know their character well or don't know them well enough is something very normal, so you shouldn't feel too bad about it. However, try not to be too distrustful too because that will give a bad image to yourself.....
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• Philippines
31 Jan 10
yeah, I read somewhere that it's one of our instincts, it get's triggered when we feel we might be in danger or something like that. So maybe we can also feel bad thoughts projecting towards us?
• Australia
31 Jan 10
I guess that depends on how strong our sixth sense are.....
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
I just hope that it's the kind that gives us the winning lottery numbers. Wouldn't that be great?
• India
31 Jan 10
hi dear... the question you have started is very very real. sometimes we just do not like a person. and that just has no substantial reason following. it is all about an eerie GUT FEELING that prevents us from getting in contact with that person. we simply avoid him or her..
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• Philippines
31 Jan 10
So true. But still very weird right? Although I believe in being scientific about everything. With relationships and friendships I follow my gut feeling too.
@verabear (796)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
I do think this is really something normal, and definitely instinctual. however, we must be careful too because it may be stemming from biases that we grew up acquiring. Sometimes, I've found that though in the beginning I felt negative vibes from a person, if i gave it a chance, my feelings change and I end up liking them. So let's not always allow ourselves to be led by initial reactions...
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
You're right about acquiring biases. I tend to be more careful on showing that in first meetings because I want o be open as possible. But sometimes my instincts over rides my better judgment.
@verabear (796)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Oh yes, I consider myself pretty open minded but there are really times when my gut just tells me to steer clear of a particular person. I hope it hasn't kept me from meeting some really awesome friends.
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@alfroi635 (297)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Yes I already experienced that situation several times. I don't know why I disliked that person, I just fell it deep inside that we are not going to be compatible even if we stiil not talk to each other.
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• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Not only in possible romantic relationships, you feel this with other people right? Strangers on the bus, neighbors, a friend of a friend. Well I'm relieved that I'm not the only one.
• India
1 Feb 10
I guess this is normal. Some times we see people and we instantly like them or dislike them, may it has a lot to do with the vibes or aura of a person. Sometimes I have disliked people the first time I have met them purely on the basis of the fact that they llookd like someone i didnt like. Its human nature we do make first impressions about people and the deciding factors most of the times are usually stupid or unknown even to us.
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Yes it's instincts kicking in. I usually hate the overbearing and the cocky ones. I got this alarm built in somewhere inside of me that makes me steer clear of them. I always like the shy and quiet ones. Although sometimes I'd discover that they weren't really that shy. Just like me, scared of strangers.