what did you have to give up when you got married?

I had to give up going out without telling someone where I'd be. Having to give up being a free spirit and being accountable to someone. Also, had to give up eating in bed.

I would say that I have gain some and lose some after I got married. Well, when I was a bachelor, I have the freedom to do anything I like - pubbing, staying out late at night, watch live soccer matches in the middle of the night, etc. However, all these have become history now, well, almost. Now, I am a father of 2. I really don't have the luxury to hang out with friends like I used to in the past. Anyway, I am still a happy man despite that, because I have 2 adorable kids who I simply adore. My wife? She has never been sweeter to me ever since I place my emphasis on the family.

I can't really think of anything that I had to give up. I never smoked, and I stopped drinking by choice, I never drank that much anyway, though my husband said I should stop altogether anyway. Other then that I can't think of anything that I've had to give up. I suppose, money could be one, but it's nothing that my husband has caused, it's more that we're giving the money for bills, lol!

I think that when you start hiding things from your partner, you are bordering on trouble. That is not to say that you have to tell everything but I do think that you have to have an agreement on what you are not telling, for example I once heard of a couple who agreed that they could spend up to $50. without discussing it beforehand. I would be concerned with why a person feels the need to hide something from their partner. If one smokes and the other does not, the smoker can always go outside, therefor being respectful of the other person and do things like brush their teeth or use a mint before kissing. The fact is we cannot change another person and do try to do so under the label of 'being married' is looking for trouble. We can only change ourselves and ask our partner to be respectful of our desires or needs. Being married is not a permission slip to rule the life of another, the fact that many think it is might be the reason the divorce rate is so high. The only thing I think a person should give up when they get married, is the idea that they can act without considering the other person or the other person being affected! Congrads on your marriage...you are still a newlywed so it is a good time to keep that spark alive! Best wishes!