Do you still get attracted to other people even though you're in a relationship?
By abitcurious
@abitcurious (1422)
Philippines
January 31, 2010 9:13pm CST
So let's face it, other people are more interesting than our partners. They have better looks, they treat their girlfriends better, they seem more fun, etc. So why do we feel guilty if we're blushing not because we're with our partners, but you saw another guy (or girl, whatever your preference is) take interest in you?
Like the other day my boyfriend was looking at me oddly. He said he knows I was interested in the guy that was sitting behind him because every time I smiled my eyes would drift towards the guy. Given that I was not being subtle, what's wrong with being attracted to someone else? It's not like I was gonna stand up and leave him there to flirt with the other guy.
Don't worry he thought it was cute the whole time so we don't have issues with that. I was just wondering if that happens to a lot of people too.
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4 responses
@brymel25 (285)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi abitcurious! I do think that it's just normal however, i prefer to call it as having a crush on someone else or appreciating God's wonderful creation.lol. I have a boyfriend and he usually gets jealous whenever i have a crush with someone else and vice versa. But it's really not an issue for us. We are confident with the kind of love that we have for each other, so there's really nothing to worry.
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Good for both of you. If your really confident in your relationship there's no need to worry bout harmless crushes.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
..Hi.. yeah.. i do.. and for me, it's natural.. but maybe, attracted is not the right term.. I think it would be proper to call it "appreciation".. It's not that I am attracted but I appreciate them because I believe that attraction involves liking the person.. Sometimes, I would even tell my husband "oh, that guy is so handsome" and he would answer me like "yeah but I'm still more handsome" and we just laugh.. It would be nice to open up things and make it as a joke to avoid misunderstanding in a relationship.. Anyhow, it doesn't really matter to both of us whenever any of us would appreciate anybody we meet.. It's a natural feeling.. we have our senses and we can't appreciating what we perceive as beautiful or handsome..
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@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
appreciation, yes that would be it. I sometimes appreciate girls, too and then my boyfriend would agree with me. It's a lot of fun specially if I unknowingly pick a girl that my boyfriend thinks is attractive and he would try to deny at first because he's scared I'll get psycho on him. But now that we've known each other long we mostly laugh at our tastes with men and women.
@rsa101 (41086)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I think that cannot be avoided to be attracted to other people. That is natural body/chemical reactions that one individual feels for the other. What is hard is to control it when it happens unless the person is deeply in love with his/her partner.
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