boring people....

@acie_21 (5640)
Philippines
February 1, 2010 5:35am CST
hi mylotters...have you encountered people that talks or share topics that are long and doesn't sound even interesting?? who makes jokes that are not even funny at all??? how about,if his/shes your friend.. how will you deal with these situation??? how will you tell them...not to make them feel offended??? will you try to talk about this to him/her?? or will you just sacrifice in listening to the person even though he/she bores you already...just because she's / he's your friend and don't want to hurt his/her feelings.... what will you do...??? or just simply avoid him/her??? keep chatting! cheers!
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12 responses
@megamatt (14326)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I have encountered those people before. Unfortunately, they tend to be the people who talk a lot. They go on about a variety of topics, very few, if any are interesting to me. When they approach me, I roll my eyes and think "here we go again". Then they talk my ear off and let's just say I can feel like aging. Even casual encounters with these people can seem like a chore, as they just keep talking and rambling on and on. Avoiding these people can be hard, without stepping on any toes as well. I do not really have any friends like this, only casual encounters. If I can get in a word edgewise, I try and make an excuse about why I need to go. Try and get away with them, without seeming like the bad guy. If I can avoid them, I can, but unfortunately, my luck is that these people seek me out. Such is life, I guess.
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@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
h there!megamatt.. yeah!your right!...and the most hardest part..if its someone who is closed to you.. maybe what ill do is..i will always be the one to start a topic... and if he/she doesn't go with the flow..and start making his/her discussions again.. ill tel him/her in a funny way.. like "hmm....lets talk another topic...that we both can enjoyed with"...that's so yesterday.."hahahahah! i think when this person is someone closed to me...i think he/she wouldn't mind if i tell her that his/shes making me boring.... depends on how will you say it to the person.. heheheh!yeah! its hard...but so far i don't have any boring friends..heheh! good for me..maybe same as yours..just casual encounters... thanks! have a great time..
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
haha...hey hey, who bores you? well, on my part, if they are my friends, i ill definitely listen to them no matter what. haha i can make myself interested on what they are saying... or maybe i will find something interesting on what they are saying. or maybe i can divert the conversation into something that both of us can appreciate, but what if they also get bored on the topic we are trying to start? haha how would you feel if your friend told you that you bore them & that you are talking non sense? haha well, so far, i don't get bored with my friends...
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
hahahahah!...just a topic.. anyways,if they tell me that im boring..its ok.. as long as they wont back bite me!! telling the truth and being a honest friend.. is a true friend for me.. that's all that matters most.. better than back biting me!... cheers!
@ckyera (17342)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
true, honesty is very important when it comes to friendship. well sometimes, no matter how much we try we can still offend our friends when we tell them the truth! haha but of course such feelings is just temporary...coz if you really are friends, you can accept each other the way they are... that's for true friends.
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
yes,and understanding is very important in friendship too..
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Hello again my friend acie..I met some guys who were like what you mean..in fact even some were friends of mine and it is really true. It is so frustrating, but never ever happened in my life I was able to tell them about that..yes..and I would just listen and divert his boring stories or whatever to other topic. I never remind them because I don't like them to feel embarrassed and disappointed to me from whatever I would say that would be negative to them..yeah that's it.. I would just listen, if it would be among friends then just let him talk or whatever he would do, i don't mind til his mouth runs dry and exhausted of talking boring topic... But for you, i would love to listen if you would start talking to me til morning without interrupting... Mobhomeir here..
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
hahah!hey! there mobhomeir boy or would i say "man".. i know you already... anyways,having a lot of friends are good but we cannot say all those friends of our's are being true to us..right??? good that they have you..who listen and respect them.. thanks for posting.. cheers!
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
ohhh its unfair..you know me but i never know you yet...
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
grrrrrrrrrrrrrr..!hmmm! dont tell a lie...
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
2 Feb 10
YEah, i do have one fren who's just like that.. lol =D She's my classmate in high school back then.. I dun have any common topic with him most of the time, but he did called my house one day, to talk to me.. lol =D As he went away from the main topic, i knew i'm into deep trouble, for i'm not interested at all, and cant hang up on him.. lol =D Luckily, he's someone who likes talking, and thus keep talking.. as such, i leave the phone hanging, let him talk all he wants, while i'm doing my things.. lol =D Before i knew it, he just said bye and hang up.. lol =D
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
hahahah!..hi there kun.. thanks for sharing that was really funny.. do get to see him until now??? was there any changes?? hehehehe!cant you dare tell him the truth.. his your friend..you can tell him in a funny or joke way.. you can always make excuses..lol! thanks! chill!...
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
3 Feb 10
haha =D Ever since we left school, i have not seen him again.. lol =D
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
hahahahah!that's good for you... thanks!
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@dorannmwin (36659)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I can honestly think of only a couple of people that I have encountered that are this way. They are my mother in law and my mother's best friend. I will typically suffer through their talking and add a little bit of input here and there but I also know that I am not fully paying attention to them. Whenever either of them calls on the phone, I also find something else to do during that time to help me keep myself occupied.
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
hi dorannmwin are you closed with your mother in law?? lol!that's true,sometimes when i feel that im quite bored and cant relate to what they are talking about..i just stare blankly... hehehe!..i rather do other important things than to waste my time in talking.. thanks! friend..
• Malaysia
2 Feb 10
i dont have much friends like that , but when i am with my husband n his friens i do feel 'bored' as what they discuss, talk or joke seem to be really not of my interest .. worst of all is when talking with my mother in law ~ she talks of all in her life ... n repeat on what she has done .. cheers
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
hi sanjana... yeah!thats true about mother in laws...maybe some are not.. but mostly... cause they think they knew or has more experienced than us.. and they expect us to be come like one of them... hehehe!..your not closed with your mother in law right??heheheh! i beat so..lol! thanks for sharing friend!
@MimiRemo (420)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
It's a good thing that I and my friends aren't like that. We always talk about things that interest us, and we usually get bored with a place or certain function. Well, there are really some boring people who are just so corny and talks like from out of this world. I can bear listening to them, but when it's my turn to open my mouth, I shift to a more interesting topic but with little relevance to what she was saying.
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
hi there mimiremo.. thanks for posting!.. its really great to have friends were you can enjoy with.. having true friends are really hard to find!.. take care!
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi acie, it is very hard to avoid someone like this often, so try to for a break up with him/her as soon as possible because someone said that "Friendship with a fool is hassle of your routine."
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
hi vishalkgupata!.. hahahahahah!nice one.... cheers! how will you break up with this type of person??? so harsh...heheheheh!
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi acie_21 ;) Interesting discussion. Anyway, I know some "boring" people if that's your definition of boring, and they remain my friends until now. I don't believe there are boring people at all because people can be interesting in some ways ;-) Maybe you find them boring because you haven't known them yet, or they just don't jive with your interests so you find them boring. I have been associated with these people even for years now, and I'm glad that they also accepted me for who I am in return. So anyway, if I encounter these people maybe the best thing I can do is to explore them more.. because it can probably be because we just don't fit in terms of interests.. but if it still won't work, maybe that's just the way it is.... you just can't please everyone and i'll move on with my life.. I wouldn't want to just confront anyone for a shallow basis like this. Sorry to say but I find it not enough reason to dislike a person. Maybe if that person did something bad against me that's when i'll confront him. take care and God bless :D
@acie_21 (5640)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
hi cecillecarmela.. yes your right..we are all unique... and yes,it bores us talking to people whom we really don't know yet.. or whom we don't really cared at all.. it really depends on you..how will you see them. if the person is interested to make friends.. then they make an effort to get to know each other.. making friends..is easy as long as your an open minded person.. so there's no such thing as boring people...??? maybe..i guess so.. and i don't dislike boring people... its just i find them boring... thanks! take care! friend...
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@trebliw0 (148)
• Philippines
1 Mar 10
well for one thing, avoiding is a bad option since it's going to hurt your friend even more..the good way to do it is to divert the topic to a something more interesting where both of you would really enjoy..:D
@mymelodake (1339)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
I have encountered somebody who comes off as really boring to me. We're not really friends, but I deal with him doing designs for their business. He just comes off as really bland to me and it seems like he doesn't have much of an opinion on things and there is nothing interesting about him. I don't know, maybe I'm just prejudging him as I don't really know him that well, but that is the vibe I get from him. I don't think I can talk to him about it as well since like I mentioned, we're not really close. But a friend of mine who knows him better also has the same opinion.
@Cheiyen (317)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
hello, acie_21. allow me to call people who keep repeating the same stories again and again as "broken records". they've got stories that you can tell by yourself when they can't finish them, just like a song, you know? LOL there are people who try hard to make other people laugh at their jokes even when they aren't funny. i have observed that these kinds of people exist around me and they happen to be my friends or friends of friends or thir relatives. some can even be called as "know-it-alls". i may say that i have a polite way of telling them something like, "oh yeah, i remember you telling me that and then.... (narrate her story)" then he/she stops. sometimes, i base my reaction through the person's background say he/she has a cool personality or an emo type or something. it's very important to keep good realtionships with friends but not all the time that we should give in to them specially when it doesn't help them grow and improve. i'm not a psychologist or a psychiatrist but i try to do my best to spread my diplomacy to others. but is worse comes to worse, i may gracefully excuse myself or plug music to my ears. if we care for our friends enough, we should tell them which one is good and which one isn't. however we need to be cautious and know our limitations. of course, our friends need freedom of expression but if this freedom is starting to invade other people's silence or bother them, it's time to speak out. speaking politely is always better than giving a violent or implusive reaction. now, who's boring? LOL! keep a good company.