What should a woman do if she doesn't like her husband anymore?

@ElsaElsa (327)
United States
February 1, 2010 9:24pm CST
So, really what should a woman do if she doesn't like her husband anymore?
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6 responses
@visalusha (132)
• Australia
2 Feb 10
Actually I feel women should start analysing the reason why they don't like their husband and try to change themselves atleast a little. It is very much necessary that we have to adjust a lot so that we lead a happy life. Divorce is not a result for this issue.Divorce have started increasing to a great extent. All fingers don't look alike. Every one will not have same thoughts, so we should not expect that they should only change. We women should also think and change a little. Give and take policy is the best.
@DOLLYBABY (2534)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I totally agree with you...divorce it not an option..if they also have kids together they both should consider working out there problems to get things back the way it was...happy and in love.it's not just only about changing herself..changing the littles things but to try new and exciting things together to rekindle the love.
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
2 Feb 10
You are so right! Divorce is on the high just because of this very reason that people don't want to solve their problems rather look for a quick fix. Divorce seems to be one of these quick fixes but in the process so many lives are broken and especially children who feel their parents could have worked things out but were too selfish to do so.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Before I got married, I was given a counsel that marrying somebody is one of the most important decisions that you have to make in you're entire life. And once you chose somebody, you have to do everything and make your relationship work out. What are the reasons why we dont like our husbands anymore? Maybe if we focus on their weaknesses and not see the good things in them, it would be very easy to say that we dont like them anymore. For me, if things like this happen,I try to focus on the good things that he has done for me. So if you feel like you dont like him anymore, tell yourself you like him and think of the reasons why you like him and not of the reason why you dont like him.
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
2 Feb 10
That's great! I'm glad to see you did not suggest divorce. These days people jump to make their lives happier and forget to consider the effects their decisions have on the rest of the people around them. In marriage there are many ups and downs and you don't just get up and leave. You work through them. Maybe that is why divorce is on such a high because the only conclusion people think of is divorce. A quick fix.
@p3ks626 (6548)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
I just dont think that divorce is the best solution for problems like that.
• United States
2 Feb 10
No one should stay with anyone if they are not in love with them anymore. Whether it is you or your friend get out now. If you stay you will only be hurting yourself with the dissappointment and frustrating by just staying.
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
2 Feb 10
It's not not me. This was a general question to see how many people would suggest divorce even in situations in which divorce is not necessary. Since divorce is on a high these days I was just wondering how many people actually would attempt to solve their problems rather than turn to the simple solution. Thanks for your response.
@rsa101 (24135)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Well what is the reason behind why you don't like him anymore? I think once in a while we do get annoyed with your husbands and we feel we do not like him anymore. In the first place why did you marry that person. I guess we should think twice or more about what are our real feelings there. Is there an abuse on his part? Or just a behavioral problem?
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
2 Feb 10
This was merely a question and not a personal situation. But I'm glad to see that you did not suggest divorce as the first option. I'm curious to see how people view happiness. Just for themselves or for everyone around them or just for others. Since divorce is on a high these days I want to see what exactly is the driving point to it. If a woman doesn't like her husband anymore it could just be a temporary dislike. She has the obligation to work throught it.
• United States
2 Feb 10
No one should stay with someone...man or woman, if they aren't in love with their spouse anymore, I think it's time to move on. It isn't fair to anyone in those situations, and if they live in a 'fake life' then they are both are losing out on opportunities.
@ElsaElsa (327)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Is love the only driving force to stay in a marriage? Isn't it possible to just have had too much of somebody and all you really need is activities to do yourself for a while work things out in your mind. Find that spark again. Isn't divorce a harsh step to take in this situation?
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
2 Feb 10
That, I would term as a relationship conundrum. Living together and leaving? I find this really a tough question to answer. I have answered so many discussions here in 'relationship', but this one is a sort of question I have never faced before and I am running out of ideas as to what I would have done had I found myself in such a situation. This would be like standing at crossroads and not knowing where to go inspite of having so many options at disposal. Before being married? Yes, you can say that you would not like to marry that guy. But after marriage you have to get along with your lifemate. It is really an issue as to what you would do at such a stage? Trying to change your hubby? Well, it is difficult to change our own self, how can one expect to see a change in other person? Had changes been so easy and had I been lady of some man, I would have first of all changed myself so that I would never ever face such a situation again where I would have to make a choice between living or leaving my man. I find it really hard to say that 'leave him' is one of the options.