Dont believe in every thing a man says..because its mostly lies...

Sorry but I beg to disagree. I know some of them cheats, but not all of them. Its not also fair to generalize every men to be cheaters. If you think this way, how are you suppose to meet the right one? That from the start of a relationship you already think negative against them. I think you should change your views and make your self interesting. Try not to be too clingy, men hates girls who are too dependent. And stop being too nosey, they're still individuals and wish to have a private life. Learn to compromise, because its not all about you... Plus pay a visit to the salon once in a while, because boys really like what they see specially if we're beautiful.. Men lose interest in their relationships because we women make wrong moves too, these are the things I've learned from my boyfriend and we're 3 years now.. Good Luck! May the Lord bless you another relationship that will last..

TRUST is very important, hence it should not be given out without like menu flyers and coupons. Trust someone you really know, not someone you meet 3 hours a week or talk to the phone once in while or chat on the internet every once in a while. Get to know the person before "trusting" someone. Knowing someone means you know his flaws not just how good or how great he is. This also mean you know where he can fail you, and where you must forgive him. If you really trust someone, you'll know when they are sincere and when they are not and that is part of the rapor. If he tells you he will give you the moon, you know that no matter how much you trust him it is impossible literally and if you take it to heart and lose your trust? Then you are a fool. If you know that he is a womanizer and expect him to change JUST for YOU, I will tell you flat out YOU are a FOOL. I am a man and I admit that men are weak. That is why we need strong women to make us strong. Keep us on the path. That is why you should be strong and wise. Choose who you will trust, don't give it out like coupons. Make sure that you do not ask the impossible of him and learn to forgive.

Jhaszy you have been very unfortunate with your men and your friend also. I have had just one husband and he was one of the most honest, trustworthy men I had ever known. He would never ever have betrayed me in any way. He always told others that not only was I his wife but his best friend, and I did always try to be both his lover and his best friend. we did always confide in each other every thing and we did not hold things back between us.'this made for a happy life together as we backed each other up in spite of hardships and bad times.We were always there for each other and knowing that made it so much happier and easier no matter what life threw our way.So I have always had a positive outlook on men myself. I do know a lot of men are very callous in the way they treat women they profess to love. I feel so sad for women who have fallen in love for these bozos.

some women are worse though.... But the more you are burned, the harder it is to trust!

No one is prefect my dear, so for in love the affection that matters not the perfection. For other matters than love, you can adopt any way trust guys or don't trust them. But regarding love, you should put trust.

Hey Jhaszy.. it seems like you're becoming a man hater.. as for me I am already afraid to trust mens.. because of the experiences of my mom and my best friends .. I convinced myself that out of 100 mens only one of them can be trusted... so now I am already afraid to get into a relationship.. as for me.. mens are better friend than a lover...! take care and happy mylotting

i think its not fair to collectively say men are mostly liars.if only women has the capability to psyche what men are saying im sure you wont get a liar man.the problem with women is they can be easily hooked on mens flowery words.if only you try to use your mind you wont be getting the wrong man.always be cautious about what men are saying try to trap them by their own words and keep track on everything they say im sure you will find something useful for you to know what his real intension are.besides you can easily detect a lie if you just pay attention in every detail a person is uttering.chances are we men get small mistakes when we try lie or hide something from a woman and that should be the one you should look out for. i hope you good luck in finding your right person im sure there is one for everybody.good luck!

I can say the same thing for myself. I've been cheated a couple of times, but still, that hasn't made me lose hope on finding some real honest man. Loyal and trustworthy. I guess I also have to change some of my ways to be considered loyal and/or trustworthy, and that would be only fair if I want men to behave like that to me.

That is just a shame. You have to wipe the slate clean and trust all men are not the same. The problem is so many women just jump right into the first relationship they find. Slow down. Take your time. Get to know the next man you get serious about.

I am so sorry to hear that you have had 2 very bad experiences with men. I can well understand why you are finding it hard to trust again but if you don't take the risk then you won't ever be able to find someone who will treat you right. There are many good men out there so try not to judge them all by the 2 bad experiences you've had. What I would add is that to me trust is something that has to be earned. When you next meet someone that you think might be special, take your time and really take things slow. Get to meet his friends and family if possible. One can tell alot about a man by the company he keeps! Not all men are cheaters just like not all women are faithful. There are those who are worthy of our love, trust and devotion. Take care!

Hiya jhasy, This could be applied to both Men and Women in general because there are always double edged swords and double sided stories too. No one is better than the other while it is true that Men can be notorious Don Juans or Casanovas so can Women too you only have to do a bit of research to realise that there have even been Women Pirates besides other things. A glass can be broken yes but so can a Mirror a Mirror that probably both of them have both looked into many times that surely must be heartbreaking. How much heartbreak no one can ever know but themselves. Again this description can be applied to so many happenings not only falling in love, in Families for example. We can only sweep up the shattered glass and mirrors and start all over again.

Not all men are liars, everyone lies a little I think. Women lie and cheat also. If you have had bad experiences, try not to be bitter and maybe you will meet someone who won't lie and cheat. It is going to take you awhile to be able to trust again and that might be a good thing. Maybe if you get into a new relationship and are a little leary of trusting the man at first, it would be good. I know myself, when I start a new relationship, I go overboard at the start.

Well everybody is capable of telling lies... regardless of gender. Trust and loyalty is really hard to earn, it takes a lot of heart and hardship... I cannot blame you ar anybody, if you think like that now for I know your bad experiences made you like that. I also agree with you Jhaszy that once trust is broken, winning it back would be hard but it is still not impossible--- it is possible but the person must really prove himself. He must do something good and stay good-- TIME heals all wound... Bringing back trust needs lots of time. I think it is somehow wrong to generalize men (though most of them are liars). Well still, it depends on ones personality... I still believe that accusing other men for what they haven't done yet is wrong... Have a nice day Jhaszy! Opps! I forgot there are other men who would try to twist the situations just to escape on their wrong doings... They will try hard to make you look like wrong... And feel sorry in the end???

Yeah, once trust is broken, it's almost impossible to earn it back, I agree. And sometimes, there's just one chance too many. But it is entirely up to us, our judgment and feelings towards a guy when it comes to believing in his words. I also think that when we listen to them, we should still have some reservations to ourselves and not expect much on the talk. That's what I usually do, stay on the safe side...hehe. Sorry to hear about your bad relationships in the past.

I'm lucky to have found a man who really is honest (or seems like it!) Well for what it's worth he looks convincingly honest. I am the one who ends up spinning lies to him especially when sometimes I just want him to get off my back sometimes. The thing about him is that he may not really lie but he doesn't divulge anything unless he's being asked first. How I knew about his exes, I had to ask first. How I knew a lot of stuffs about his past, I had to ask first.

Although I would tend to agree, the problem I have is, women are not much better. I've seen women lie, manipulate, deceive, ditch their husbands for other men, sleep around with whomever, and then act all indignation when men do the same. One of the reasons I remain single, and happily single, is because I simply can't trust women. Let us even say that I met you specifically. How do I know you are truthful? How do I know you won't become bossy and controlling? How do I know you won't find me boring after we marry, and run off with someone else? Because you say so? Have you met a girl yet who said "I'm going to run away with another guy after we marry"? Nope. Right, so how can I trust you? So honestly, I don't find that saying very true. Women are no better than men, from what I've seen. Women are about a loyal as rats. They invade your home just long enough to steal whatever they can, and then they leave. Women will stick around so long as you keep giving them whatever they want, and keep them entertained. As soon as they get bored, or you don't submit to their every demand *poof* their gone.

although i have this experience.but i dont think that what men's speaking are lying.it only depend on my intuition to think about that.i find that they would not alwayse speak lie.it make them tired to do like that.although this man lie me.but i find that he have some moral.because he can talk me about his history,it is true.why did he treat me?because he cheat my money.it is his aim.so what he done have hurt my heart.i think that if i have no value for him,he could not cheat me.

being a man, i must oppose your statement but being a true judger for the most obivious situation, i agree with you a most. actually this is not only man's nature but also a women nature. so you cannot continue or gamin m uch in life without trusting anyone....so i think you sholud take care of every careful steps that one takes for his own benefits, but you should be socially active and communicative.

what can we believe? what shall we trust then? is not it gonna be too difficult...I have been longing for a stable and constant relationship...however, only because I dare not to trust the guys I have met,, I have been single all these time...does that worth?

They lied because they choose to cheat,i never been cheated by any man but some of my friends tell me so,I have encountered some man lies in a relationship but not regards to my relationship with him, I consider myself lucky in love because of the man i get involved with are willing reveal themselves just to earn my trust,loyalty is another word i don't know much about your feeling because i never been to it, but i think not all man similar to what they think they are. I hope you can find a man who will be true to you and you may able to see how what is loyalty and what is all about them(man)..God bless you !