Eye verses Ears

@thuhuong (828)
United States
February 3, 2010 9:56am CST
For the past couple of years I have used less of my sense of seeing in understanding that my sense of listening is more significant than my eyes. As it is a choice and my eyes are perfectly fine but exercising the option to listen has caused many if not the few I have met, to misunderstand me. In that respect, when I am speaking to someone, they would see that I'm using my ears more to listen than my eyes. As I know the majority is used to eye contact, what if eye contact is not necessary in our life? What are some advantages and disadvantages you can think of? Would you implement it?
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@ab48726 (156)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I know what you mean. Growing up I never really gave people eye contact when talked to, I'm not sure why, that's just how I was. I later realized that people become annoyed, even offended when you don't give them direct eye contact when speaking to them. I think this is merely a customary thing and one that most people are so used to that they don't think about it. My daughter was born partially deaf and she has to use much more of her sight when talking to people than most people do.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
6 Feb 10
It is pretty common in Asians but I think now that the world is communicating more, there is a surge of wanting to understand who and what it is we want to get ourselves into. Of course being scammed is the last thing on our minds but with the internet our sense of seeing seems to place a pertinent role than hearing. In that case, it is better to see.
@23uday (2998)
• India
4 Feb 10
hi friend, First i listen with my ears and watch with my eyes. When talking i sense either a ear or eye but not both at a time.For this we have to practice more so we can understand easily.Now I try with both eyes and ears. have a have day.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Yes, I believe I practice my ears more as I am more intune with music as well. I tend to listen to the composition style and analyze them. That could be from classical training but voice is more of a variation as at times, it's hard to differentiate what is the real meaning. Thus, in that sense, seeing is confirmation.
@MrKennedy (1993)
4 Feb 10
This is such a difficult choice of which sense I would rather lose. Eyesight would be hard because then I'd be living in constant darkness, and I would never be able to enjoy the things I love, like watching movies or even surfing the net. However, with hearing, I would never be able to listen to music or have a proper conversation again
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Yes, I guess either sense has their advantages as well as disadvantages. With so much out there nowadays, being able to choose can be a hard decision. Why not take them both huh? :) As I feel I live without seeing, the combination when used in balance is hard to resist.
@kaylachan (4775)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Feb 10
I use my ears a lot more then I do my eyes as well. But, I have a good reason for that, I'm blind. I have a little light and color preception, but that's really not much of anything. But, my vision at one time was somewhat fuctional to a point I have memories of objects. That and using my hands to expand on shapes helps my brain remember all the more. But one can't survive on that alone. When people seem to think eye contact is important, is they are trying to read one's emotions. The saying the eyes are the window to the soul rings so true in this regaurd. So often people feel if you don't make eye contact you've got something to hide.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
3 Feb 10
You use your hands as well in a tactile sense. I did forget to mention that which helps wonders. Yes, using the variation of seeing and hearing as well as touching can help you communicate effectively without being misrepresented. As I do agree that the eyes are also the window to the soul, that is one reason why I prefer the sense of hearing as sometimes I don't want to be seen. :)
• India
3 Feb 10
Hi I once read a book which described BODY LANGUAGE. Human mind is set on programs to feel and understand the body language of other human being and act accordingly. Some are set as standards. The behavior is regulated most of the time by subconscious mind but not all. Most people feel comfortable when having eye to eye contact while conversation. So i guess for others who dont know u would feel that awkward of course. Socially it is bad. But if u think this has helped to improve ur senses it is good personally. I would rather be and behave in a way others also feel comfortable with me.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Yes, comfort is great. Whenever there's discomfort of course questions arises. I do find that most of the time there is discomfort in lack of eye contact and as you have mention, socially eye contact is a must.
@Hatley (164221)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Feb 10
thuhuong hi for people who are mot blind, some eye contact is essential just to let the other person know we are listening and paying attention. for the blind the other senses must take over and I am told that they really do. Some use eye contact to cower you or try to overtake you and thats not right, but some eye contact must come in play for use to make contact and stay on the subject with each other. But listening is so vital too and I cannot see how you can carry on a conversation with anyone without both eye contact and perfect listening also. they go together.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I agree, that there should be a balance of both eye contact and listening. Great point on the disadvantage of eye contact. It can be uncomfortable when you know that you're trying to be friendly but instantly are being judged from the eyes.