Have you ever met someone and not liked them right off for no reason?
February 3, 2010 9:50pm CST
I usually don't have those kinds of reactions, but I've learned to listen to them when I have them. Today I met one of my assistant's boyfriends and they gave me the creeps. I don't know why but I kept thinking to myself "This poor person is going to end up being a '48 Hour' TV special." Do you know the show where they always profile the unsolved murders? I don't know how to being this up, but I don't want anything to happen. If he does something and I didn't say anything I'll feel guilty forever. On the other hand, I know this person can handle herself. Woe be upon the guy who tries to put his hands anywhere she doesn't want. He won't survive with his parts intact. Secondly, it's none of my business. I'm her employer and kind of her friend. What she does with herself is her own affair. Advice please?
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4 Feb 10
..hi.. I had my own experience of meeting someone whom i never liked the frist time I saw him.. I don't know and I can't explain why but my instincts are very strong.. I don't like the person.. I just really wonder why because my other friends like him.. Everytime, I saw him, I prefer to look at other people and not show him any sign that I saw him.. Anyhow, with regards to your situation, you can be a friend of your employee.. Being an effective employer involves having a connection with the employees.. In own view, as an employer, you can invite your employee for a dinner and indirectly ask her about the guy.. of course you can't tell her at once about how you feel because you need to get your employee's feelings first.. If that happens and she starts confiding in you about her relationship, then you can give her some advice and tell her about how you feel.. This is her life and her happiness.. And you can be an instrument for your employee's happiness..
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5 Feb 10
I have never personally met anyone that made me feel inclined to stay away from them before, but I can understand how you must feel. I think the best thing to do if you are friends with her is to express your concerns, but it is her decision to date this guy and you can't push her into doing anything just because you don't like him. Who knows, maybe the guy's just not a good "people person" and acts that way on purpose. Maybe you could try getting to know the guy a bit better before making any further judgments and see how things go. If you still feel uncomfortable though I think it's alright to express your concerns to her, but don't overdo it.
4 Feb 10
If she has a good head on her shoulders and she handles herself well then you probably have nothing to worry about and there's no reason to interject. I would definitely keep my opinion to myself for now. But if she were to mention anything to you about him seeming a little creepy or if she were to ask you what you thought then by all means tell her about your first impression. I have met a lot of people that I have instantly disliked. Every now and then my first impression is wrong and I end up really liking the person, but more often than not my gut is right and there is a good reason to dislike them. I tend to be a pretty good judge of character all in all.
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4 Feb 10
Sometimes silence is golden and this is one of those times. The reason I say this is because the girl will think it's funny and tell her boyfriend and he may get offended and take it out on you in some way. Stick to your intuition and not befriend him but be civil to him to keep on the good side of your employee. And too, she just might tell you to mind your own business. It is a treading on thin ice type of subject. If anything does happen to her, it wouldn't be because of you, that's for sure.