Have you ever had a pen-pal and is it safe?

@apples99 (6561)
United States
February 4, 2010 12:56am CST
I'm always open to finding new and safe ways of meeting people and some people say that being a pen-pale is a nice way to meet new people, though I never had a pen-pal and I often wounder just how safe it is, especially if its someone your getting to know for the first time and you never saw them before. have you ever had a pen-pale if so was it just an old friend from years past or was your pen-pal someone completely new, and just how safe can it be?
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12 responses
• Tianjin, China
4 Feb 10
I had no pen-pal. i think it is safer than net-friend.
@dantakum (404)
• Nigeria
6 Feb 10
i had mysterious pen pal ,when u talk about safer hmmm i don't think any is safe all is safe if u stick to the plan no money issues,address,personal security issues etc then we can talk of safety.
@flagella08 (5067)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
a pen pal is a someone whom you have exchanged letters with since way back then there was no internet connection. i remembered sending postcards too with her. until we finished college we still continue to write each other. we became friends for years. now that we have the NET we exchange emails and sometimes we joined forums just to chat or use the YM to see other in videos. it is safe as long as the intention is clear and by heart.
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
wow really?? you became friends for years? sadly, i wish that would have happened to me. i wonder what happened to those penpal of mine. you're right, but good intentions and clear by heart is very very rare now a days.
@mandybeau (279)
• New Zealand
5 Feb 10
I think that these type of Sites are usually inhabited by alot of cool people that we, would never meet, as we all live around the World. So its Great, Some Sites I don't think are safe, (that being said weirdos are everywher) As a Kid I had a Russian penpal and one from the United Kingdom, I was grounded from replying to the U.K. one because some of her content was a bit unusual, she was overtly heterosexual, so O.K. in that way, just only had one subject Young Males. The Russian Girl came from Vladivostok, she was cool, but I had to get my friends Mum to translate everything. You kind of wonder what they are doing now. I also think its goodto be able to chat to people with similiar interests as your own. Nice meeting you by the way.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Hi Apples, When I was a kid I used to have pen pals. That was long before the internet. I don't think it could be any less safe than the internet. If you are to meet someone in person that you have never met before then you have to be safe about it. Meet in a public place and don't meet alone. I never met any of my pen pals but it was all safe enough.
@bianca89 (129)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
yes i've been..but we're both girls, we're friends 'til now.we don't mail each other anymore.but we communicate through facebook.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
4 Feb 10
I have had pen pals since I was a teenager, and I find very fun and amusing an an interesting way to meet new people and know about other areas of the world, of course, you must be carefull, and NEVER give any personal information about yourself, or family habits, with someone who you just have known, but it also applies to people you know in the street, so, I think you donĀ“t need to have any concern about getting penpals, If you want, I could advise you about some serious and reliable site in the internet to meet people with you same interest. Just, be careful.
@nonersays (3268)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I've had lots of pen-pals. I love getting fun mail in the mail box and not just bills. I wrote random people who'se addresses I found in Friendship Books given to me by my aunt. I even wrote some people in prision. I've never had any trouble from my pen pals, never had any danger. I don't see how it can be dangerous. There are a lot of groups on Yahoo that are for finding pen-pals. There are women only groups, and other "specility" pen pal groups to help you find JUST the right person to write.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I had a pen pal when I was a child. It was an assignment in school for writing. We were assigned a pen pal from another school in a different state. I don't remember a lot about them because I was so young but I do remember how much I looked forward to their letters.
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I have few before and even like to marry me but i do no fall to their charm even they fall on me, with many promises and for giving me a good life. but, I would not bite it as i am a hopelessly romantic i believe in the old fashion way of courtship and that is a face to face interaction. Since having long distance affair like online, penpal writing and so on are all like pastime to me i see it as nothing so serious. eventually some guys become so serious but have fun receiving lots of letter and calls but i could not lie to myself i tell them frankly I have no feeling for them and i do not like to live in comfort and yet my mind and heart say NO. I could not lie for a longer time and eventually instead of loving and i would just develop hatred which i do not like to happen being force it any relationship which i do not like. I think of it as a waste of time full of illusion and some wait for nothing, some do it for desperation and some believe it works for them. i think it only depend on the person if it works for other it does not mean it would also works for you. Nothing beat a personal conversation and getting to meet the real person and know her/his good and bad sides as it really risky to fall in love into someone you only met through those method, it hard to trust.
@sirknight (118)
4 Feb 10
yes i have had a internet pen pal and it did not turn out to good because ,some time when you talk to poeple like thaat they can lie and decieve you about there true intensions and this person who i was corresponding with turn out to be a russian scammer that was trying to soften me and hit me with stupid money demands ,but i approched this with a open mind to begin with and i have had experience with internet pen pals before,in the end no body was hurt the scammer did not recieve a penny from me and i kept it move in!!!!!!!!!!!!
@dianmelydia (2271)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
I never really have a pen pal since i'm not a good letter writer. But i think having a pen pal and a cyber friend is just a same thing which only using different method of contact. I think we need to make sure that we have a good friend before we trusting our friends. Safe or not is depend on our own communication skills. However, we should tell them everything about our secret since no matter how are they, they are still common human who are same with our real friends. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
@kenraku (241)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
What's the different of pen-pal and net-friend? you can just find a friend from internet and contact with email. No address, no phone, no money relation. Just simply communication, that won't hurt you in any circumstances.