my friend stole my own stuff !!

@ridwan08 (1183)
Indonesia
February 4, 2010 4:48am CST
Hi Mylotter, I need your help.i have friend very kind,one time he was playing to my House.after he go back to his Home.Im Shock.my mobile phone was lost !!.OMG.. what can i do?im very confused now.i wanted to ask him but im afraid he angry and can break our friendship.please help me...
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33 responses
• China
4 Feb 10
Take it easy,man.you may talk to him first,if he doesnot admit it,just be careful next time or just leave away.Remember that conscience is the most serious punishment.If he really took your phone,he won't feel any better.
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@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
Hi Yanqiang thanks for your oppinion,i'll carrefully now Good Luck
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• China
4 Feb 10
You sure it is your friend that took your cellphone away? What kind of relationship is between you guys ? You can give him a hint like "It seems that I've lost my cellphone at my home, have you seen that? It's really of importance to me. The numbers in it do value a lot!" Anyway, GOOD LUCK!!
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@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hi qijikibum,thanks for your oppinion.now i thinkink carefully about this case Good Luck
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@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
5 Feb 10
First, talk to your friend and ask if they happened to see where you set down your phone. Then the next thing you might want to try is to call your cell phone number and see who answers. If it is your friend, try the good old out for the friend of "gee you must have picked up the wrong phone when you left the last time you visited". I wouldn't really want to have a "friend" in my home who lacks respect for me that they would steal something that is important to me, like my cell phone. Realize too that maybe he wants to feel important by having a cell phone. Is your's a prepaid or a contract phone? If it's contract you need to report the loss as soon as possible. If it's a prepaid you might also want to report the loss. But I would call my mobile phone number and find out who answers, and work from there.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
5 Feb 10
It's your phone, you should know the number of it. Call and see if it rings in your house or if he answers. If your phone and his look alike, it may be an honest mistake. My husband and I have identical phones. We could easily take each others.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
4 Feb 10
i would ask him if he saw it, but if you know he did in fact stolen it to me i cant be friends with anyone who steals from me. i had this happen a lot to me, where we had friends and even family stole from us and i have nothing to do with them anymore. because of friends and family we had over $2,000 over the years. now my cousin i beat him for two hours for stealing
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@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hi syankee525,i agree if i did fact stolen it to me i cant be friend.say good bye to my friend
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• United States
5 Feb 10
Are you certain he stole it? If so, he is no friend and is well worth losing. He obviously isn't worried about your feelings.
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@reichiru (748)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
Wow that would really suck if he did steal your phone, you wouldn't really want to call him as a friend anymore if he did. But if he is kind like you said, I still think you should ask him if he's seen your phone, or else just straight up ask him if he took it. Especially if you know you had the phone before he came to your house. If he's kind and truly your friend, he won't get extremely offended and just end your friendship like that, since you have a legitimate reason for suspecting him.
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@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
How are you sure he stole your cellphone? Before you ask him, make sure that you have evidence that he has your cellphone or maybe you saw he took it. If he did not steal your cellphone, he would of course be offended, hurt, and angry because of your accusations. If indeed he stole your cellphone, then maybe you should end your friendship because no friend will ever steal from another friend. Or maybe you can talk to him first why he stole in the first place.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
You can ask him if he noticed your phone around, and it's up to you to interpret his reactions to your questions. Maybe your friend has this type of disorder where he cant control himself in getting things that wasn't for him. Because if he does not, he wont get your stuff that he will know make you think that he is the one who stole it from you.
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@bianca89 (129)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
you have any update there? have you seen it already?
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• United States
5 Feb 10
I have had these problems with so called friends stealing things from you, it is very frustrating when it is one of your closest friends also.
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• United States
4 Feb 10
Well that is a very serious accusation, you have to really be sure that he was the one who stole your phone, if you are, i think the best option is to talk to him and explain him how he doesn't have the right to take anything that is not his, and especially yours because you guys have been friends forever. Let him know how wrong is to betray a friend, and how hard it is to recuperate that trust. Ask him why he did, if he didn't realize how that was going to hurt you, it is not only about the material things, it is also about break a friendhsip.
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• Jamaica
4 Feb 10
well if you have really searched your house and cannot find your phone i honestly suggest that you confront your friend. only an immature friend would really get upset with you about the matter. if he is not guilty then there is no reason for him to get upset about you asking him if he has you phone. also when asking you must ask in a gentle way so that you do not show that you are really upset about missing your phone.
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@davidshin (143)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Well you don't know for sure that he took it unless you saw him doing it. I'm sure that he didn't go to your house just to steal it. Try back-tracking and see if you can remember where you might have placed it. I've had many experiences when I excused someone of doing something wrong, in which I was wrong, I regretted and I've learned that if you think it out, you can solve a lot of problems by yourself.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
iam sorry for hear that. ridwan, why you must be afraid? if he did not steal your cellphone, he would`nt be angry but maybe he was angry because he is wrong. my suggestion, just ask him. it`s your stuff and you deserve to ask him.
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• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
Well just casually asking him, don't tell him that you think he took it, just asking if he see it when he came to your house. If he said he don't see it, and he seem telling the truth, then you cannot do anything if you don't have proof. Well i hope you found your mobile phone soon.
@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
oke thanks for your opinion my friend.i'll se for next day
@sirknight (118)
4 Feb 10
hello first off all how do you know it was your friend do you have positive proof of this if so ,have known eybody that both of you know and maybe that person can talk to your friend and also how much was that phone worth was it an expensive phone or a cheap one ?
@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hi sirk night,now i want to think carrefully.about price of my mobile phone is expensive or cheap that not the point
@asanlee (408)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
Hallo...friend, since you post the topic " my friend stole" that means you already have evidence or very sure that he stole it. Or you just guess? Wild guess is not fair to your friend! Please make sure is there anyone else other then both of you in the house at that moment, better check whether you misplace the handphone. Because if you ask him directly and he didnt do it , then it will affect your friendship, as you accuse your friend, you dont believe in him. Anyway you still have to be careful, if he is not your best friend or just a new friend you havent known for long, maybe he cant be trusted. So the most important is evidence, strong evidence, not just wild guessing.
@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hi asanlee,thanks for your advise that i must search strong evidence . but how can i do it?
@asanlee (408)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
Hallo...I dont know exactly what should do, but "being a thief" will become habit, maybe he'll stole for second time, will you risk your another mobile phone missing for second time? If you think that one handphone is worth to clarify the whole matter, to makesure your friendship not being cheated, then make a trap....see whether it will be dissapeared for another time. But you have to be prepared to lose a friend and a phone. Anyway I hope that it wont be happened just like what we guess...I hope it is just a misunderstanding!!! Wish you all the best!!!
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@hawwisu (63)
• Nigeria
4 Feb 10
If there is people leaving in the with you ask them if they see your mobile and if there is none, just cal him and ask him (in a good manner)then if he says he's not the one you forget about the mobile but if your mind keeping on telling you that he is the one holding your mobile just break the friendship with him.
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@pakonis (79)
• Bulgaria
4 Feb 10
that's phone afterall ( your contacts was there ) if someone do this to me i think i will kill him , sorry for bad lang but i can not afford it . I think you don't need that type of friends . today one mobile , tomorrow may be some favorite game ,some expensive staff . Do you think you can afford it?
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