He stood me up again!

....sounds to me like you already wasted your breath.... If he even, ever DOES call again, give him an ultimatum if he says he's going to drop by. "You either you show up this time, or don't ever bother to darken my door. Do I make myself clear?" cdrxo

I sure wouldn't fool w/someone like that. I hate a liar & it sounds like to me that's just what he is. My goodness, they are usually on their best behavior at first & he is not even that. I would think he's trouble waiting to happen.

I would tell him that you waited for him both days and had not made any other plans because of that. Tell him that if he can't be more considerate and call to cancel then that gives you the assumption that he isn't interested, so you will not make any more plans to meet him and waste more of your time. Seems like this is a game to him.

i would find out why he isn't calling you when he says he will,and why is he saying he will see you when he dosen't show up. i would then decide from his answer if i should continue this relationship with him.

It sounds like this guy is at best unreliable and at worst just messing with your head to see how much you are willing to take. I would not put up with it, but that is just me. You say that he is an old friend. What has your relationship been like over the years? Does he have a habit of doing things like this? On the other hand, you seem surprised at his behavior, so maybe he has not been like this the whole time you have been friends? Maybe I am just being judgmental, and he has good reasons for his inconsiderate behavior, such as he is going through some really difficult times mentally and emotionally. Perhaps when he makes the plans, he really intends to keep them, but then is unable to follow through with it. You know him much better than we do. What do you think is making him act like this? Has he said or done anything that might give you a clue as to what is going on?

When he calls again, tell him he has the wrong number. Once is not really ecceptable, but maybe something came up, you'll never know. But AGAIN, i don,t think so. Tell him goodbye and let him be on his own merry way. Luck. TATA.

I don't think I would go out of my way for him. It sounds like he is just leading you on, to see if you will wait around on him. I would not waste my time.

He would be fired at most jobs for a no call, no show...why should relationships (friendships) be any different...FIRE HIM!

I wouldn't bother with this person. He has shown that he is inconsiderate and doesn't care much about you. After all if he did he would have contacted you somehow or apologizing as to why he didn't show or call the first time. You received neither of those which goes to show that your feelings were never considered about or pondered about afterward. Why have people in your life who don't care about you?

Unreliable and inconsiderate or just absent minded? The fact that he did a no call, no show and then called and didn't even mention it, leaves me to believe that he's inconsiderate. If I valued the friendship, I'd let him know how I feel about being treated that way and then see how he reacts.

Hi macdingolinger. No, you should not bother with him. If you have to talk to him, your conversation should specify how you don't appreciate him standing you up and pushing you to the side like he does. He needs to value your friendship more than he does. He us taking you for granted and that is not cool at all. Get on him about this, don't let him take advantage of you anymore like this.

I know he is very disappointing u but before u judge him, u should ask him for explanation once more why he did it and tell him what would be then if he repeats his fault.

Say him that you can't bear his repeated absence wihout calls anymore and if the next time he stood you again, you will definitively breack your friendship. We will see if he really wants to keep you as a friend.

if you feel that there is no need to talk to him then don`t. he needs to fully understand that he must learn to live up to his expectations and even give an apology when it is needed.