can you go to the movies ALONE??

@diyonzi (116)
Philippines
February 5, 2010 10:17am CST
My bestfriend has just flew for a greener pasture and left her boyfriend for the meantime. The other day her bf, who is also my friend, asked me if I can come with him to watch the movies because he didn't want to go out alone. I feel pity for him because this is the first time that the two of them got separated from each other. Of course I agreed and asked our other friends to join us so that it would be a lot more fun and hopefully we can cheer him up. Anyways I totally understand if he cant go to the movies by himself because I feel the same way. I get paranoid that someone might sit beside me and hurt me or do something offensive. I also feel a little sad whenever I would see people going to the movies in pairs or in groups so I'd rather that I have someone with me too. Im independent and can do a lot of things on my own, but watching movies is just one of my exceptions. Let me know what you think. ;D
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@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
since the AIDS phenomenon i'm scared to watch alone. since there was a trend that people with AIDS leaves needles in the chairs with their blood in it to spread the disease. i was so scared at that time because if i'm alone what if the person seating beside me is also with AIDS and would just stab me with the needle... and im scared as well with maniacs who seat beside you and do nasty stuff... so yeah im pretty scared
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
that's exactly what am thinking because i heard of this rumor before. and what the hell are those idiots thinking too endangering our normal life simply because they want to infect us with aids? cray morons"? have we seen some these in youtube videos as real evidence? for me it's still scary because needles are too small for security checks
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
oh yeah!! I remember those days! I think that's one of the reasons why I don't want to go to the movies alone. Imagine something like that happening to you.. that's just scary! I don't know if there's some truth in it but better be sure and secured if you have friends with you, right? ;D thanks! ;D
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
yap. their are a lot crazy people now. they don't think of others. as long as they can fulfill their needs they'll do anything. even to hurt others.
@Tallygirl09 (1384)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I'm with ya! I have never gone to the movies by myself and really don't think I ever would. What a kind friend you are!! He is missing her and it was a great idea to invite others to join you. That way as you said, everyone can try and cheer him up somewhat. AND your best friend will have no reason to wonder why just the 2 of you are going out to the movies together. Even tho it would have been innocent, just 2 friends going to enjoy a movie for fun together, some folks might talk and it could lead to issues. And I can also understand why you might feel vulnerable sitting in the dark on your own in a movie theatre. Even if no one directly bothered you, you might be nervous that someone would try and steal your purse or something. And it can be very annoying at the movies if you get the "talkers" behind or in front of you that distract from the movie. If you were on your own, you'd likely feel like you had to put up with it rather than try to shshh them if you were with others. I can easily eat by myself at a casual restaurant but wouldnt' go to a more formal fine dining, multi course meal by myself since I'd be lonely and feel out of place. Interesting Topic!!! Take care!!
• United States
6 Feb 10
LOL...one thing I've learned about people in general is that they love to gossip. If there isn't anything obvious to gossip about then they will still find something to make into something.. And I agree the more the merrier! When I was in High School I had a tight group of friends, 9 of us, 5 girls and 4 guyes. Nothing romantic between any of us, we just all liked the same things. And going to the movies en masse was so much fun!! We didn't have problems usually deciding on what movie to see. Then we'd go out to a Diner, have a snack and chat and chat. So much fun!! I've never had a large group of friends that hung out like that one. AND I think it's great that he reached out to you as a friend to help him adjust to being without her for now. Maybe in time, they'll get back together, maybe not. But your friendship with her will be safe since you are being so considerate! The world could really use more people like you! Be Well!!
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
Yeah! I am happy and thankful to have found friends like them! They're really cool and fun to be with. We're 8 all in all, 4 girls and 4 guys. None are romantically linked except for my bestfriend and her boyfirend. But we all have partners from outside our circle. Well actually we were originally just 4 girls and we were friends since college. While the boys were already friends since high school. When my bestfriend hooked up with her now boyfriend, the two groups sort of joined together into one big happy group! =) I am sure in due time they'll be together. As a matter of fact all of us are planning to migrate to where my bestfriend is now. Anyways, let's hope for the best. Thanks again. I really enjoyed our exchange of views about this. Take care! ;D
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Actually, I have thought about that too.. just me and my friend's bf going to the movies. That even if we're not really doing anything wrong, you'll never know what people would make of seeing just the two of us together. So yeah, I invited the rest of the gang to make things less complicated. It's much better to cheer him up too because the more, the merrier. lol I didn't think anyone would notice that about my discussion. lol Thanks for sharing! ;D
@derek_a (10881)
6 Feb 10
When I was a kid, a good few years ago now! I used to always go to the movies on my own. I didn't even give it a thought that anything bad would happen, but I guess things were so much different in those days. I used to go with friends also, but if there was something I wanted to see and they didn't, I would simply go alone and enjoy it. _Derek
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Yup, things are very much different now and I think you're more at risk when you go by yourself, not just in the movies but anywhere. That's just sad because we are being limited to things we can actually enjoy doing even if we're alone.
@verabear (797)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I personally have not but know at least two people who sometimes do. Both of them are girls. they recommend trying it at least once but of course you should choose the cinema. I would feel weird too, but I guess you're there to see the movie anyway and don't really talk to your companions when you see a movie with a boyfriend or with friends so it's just the same. I just don't know when I'll muster the courage to go see a movie on my own.
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I have other friends who can do that.. their courage amaze me. Not that it's such a hard thing to do, just scary. And I've never really tried going to the movies by myself. Thanks for your thoughts about this. :D
@verabear (797)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
We went to see a movie this afternoon and I was thinking of this discussion. At first we were at odds as to what to see, I haven't seen Sherlock and wanted to see it but the boyfriend preferred the Legion. When we got to the cinemas I was prepared to suggest that we experiment seeing movies apart, but Sherlock was no longer showing :( We saw that Where the Wild Things Are was up and that's what we watched :)
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
that sounds cool! hmmm maybe me and my friends can try that.. watch a movie together but not sit beside each other.lol In that way if something crazy or weird comes up you can always run to where your friends are seated. ;D
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Feb 10
I can but I won't. It won't be as much fun as going with somebody you love to the movies. Besides, I had 2 awful encounters before while watching movies with my friends. Since there was no one seated on my right side (my friend was on my left), a guy approached me and sat beside me. At first, it was ok but by the middle of the movie, he was slightly touching my leg every now and then. After about 30 seconds, I stood up and left. My friends were surprised that I left suddenly. When I explained to them what happened, they did notice that the guy beside me left right after I stood up. Gosh! This happened twice in two separate occasions. So you say alone? I can but I won't.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Gosh! If I'm in your situation I will really slap his face so hard and call a security for him to send out in the cinema.
• China
6 Feb 10
Thank you for sharing you piont with us.Let me begin by asking myself why there are movies and why do people go to theater watching movies.It is acknowledge known that most time movies are produred for entertainment so that people can find humors and relax themselves while watching them,sometimes,it may also be used to educate people and worn the problems.Who goes to the theater?We may go their with our lovers,but go there alone maybe also a wise choice.
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
I agree that the main purpose of movies is to provide entertainment for everyone. It's a form of relaxation during times when people are so worn out with their daily routines. I just hope that we can maintain the security and safety inside movie theatres so that we can still watch by ourselves without having any fear of being harmed. Thank you for sharing! ;D
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Sames as you, I don't go in the cinema alone. I would rather stay at home alone for the entire day or more than going out alone. I will feel very sad going out alone. Actually, I don't like also going to the mall alone aside from I really need to buy something important. Its not because I feel paranoid or unsafe but I just don't feel comfortable going out without companion. I feel pity on myself since I can see others hanging out with someone else. Don't worry your not the only person in this world who do not go to cinema alone. For sure, many of us are in the same perception.
@abhaijith (2963)
• India
6 Feb 10
Definitely i can't friend. I usually watch movies with my friends and i am really enjoy each moment to be with them. I can't imagine watching a film alone, especially in theaters. Its really difficult for me, even if the movie is very very nice one. There would be atleast a 4 people, friends with me to watch a movie, i think.
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Same here.. I consider movies not just a form of entertainment but a time for bonding with relatives and friends. That's why I think it's more fun than going out alone. :D
5 Feb 10
I've been to the movies on my own plenty of times and to be honest it doesn't bother me, well not anymore. The first couple of times I did it, it did feel a little weird as for some reason going to the movies is seen as a couples or group thing and it felt like people were staring at me and thinking saddo, or something similar. But these days I don't worry what people think because I go to watch a movie not to worry about other people. So for me, it was just a matter of getting use to it.
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I admire you for being able to watch movies alone.. yeah I guess you're right, we don't really have to care what others would think if we went alone. It may need a lot of getting used to though before I can do that. For now, if I can't tag anyone along with me, I would just buy DVDs or wait till I can watch them online or on TV. thanks giving me your point of view. ;D
15 Feb 10
I think to go to see a movie alone, you would have to be the type of person who doesn't really care what people think and in care of trouble knows how to stand up to a group of people. It also depends what type of area you live in and how packed the screen is likely to be. You could look at it two ways- If the cinema is quite empty then you can space yourself far enough not to be bothered, but your obvious solitude could attract the wrong attention.
@sushie93 (1358)
• France
5 Feb 10
I'm like you, independant when doing others things but go to the cinema alone, no thanks! Because i will be ashamed to go there alone while others people are with friends/family/lover and you, you're here alone in your chair watching movie alone, laught or cry alone and eat pop corn alone... X'D
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I know right?? and movies are more enjoyable if you have a friend to laugh with during a funny part of the movie or whisper questions to when there's something you don't understand. thanks for sharing! ;D
• India
24 Feb 10
I ill never go to a film alone cuz it ll be boring a lot without a companion.. i agree to what you say.. hopefully soon your life ll be colorful.. best of luck..
@binagupta (628)
• India
6 Feb 10
i always move with my friends while going any where, i have never moved alone in the road or any where else so i think i cannot go to the movie alone i like to go with my friends or family
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Cool.. however there would be times when you're gonna have to do things on your own. You're lucky to have friends and family who are there for you always. thanks for your ideas about this.. :D
@common_man (1799)
• India
24 Feb 10
When we go for a movie, our aim is to enjoy. Enjoyment is more when we are in company with the people we love/like, may be family members, friends, relatives, neighbours etc. Its not enjoyble to watch movie alone. It is said we enjoy more discussing movies with friends/family members after coming out of theaters then watching movie itself. I will also need company if i have to go to watch a movie.
@cripfemme (7702)
• United States
7 Feb 10
Of course. I don't like to go to the movies alone, but I can. I did it for "Scrooge," because the person I was supposed to go with couldn't go. I don't go to scary movies alone. That's just too creepy. But if it's a reasonably happy film, I'm okay. I saw "Brokeback Mountain" alone and that was a mistake because it was so sad. And I had no one to talk about it with to process my feelings.
@cripfemme (7702)
• United States
7 Feb 10
Of course. I don't like to go to the movies alone, but I can. I did it for "Scrooge," because the person I was supposed to go with couldn't go. I don't go to scary movies alone. That's just too creepy. But if it's a reasonably happy film, I'm okay. I saw "Brokeback Mountain" alone and that was a mistake because it was so sad. And I had no one to talk about it with to process my feelings.
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
14 Feb 10
i love watching movies even if im alone i do watch movies.but much better if i have someone with me while watching so we can talk about it and wont make boredom if the movie is not good.
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Hello diyonzi, It's dangerous now to go to movies alone with crime is also extend to movie cinemas. snatches, bag getter are really into it most specially people leaving their bags behind. next time i will seat next to the guard who is stationed in the premier seats because that's only the way for me to secure my things or better yet, don't bring bags in the cinema.
• India
6 Feb 10
yes i go to the movies alone no body with me sometimes i enjoy lonely sometimes if i have any company than go with friends otherwise if go lonely nobody with me