Living In Before Marriage? An Option or A Pre-requisite?

Although it is not an acceptable practice in my place, I can see many are doing it already and sometimes it is the most practical way to be with someone. You won't have to spend so much and no paper works because you will just live in together. There is no commitment or anything and you can easily go away with it when you two can get out of agreement over something. While being married you'll have to undergo many legal talks and papers to process before you can be freely off the hook. But I guess the only disadvantage about this arrangement lies with the woman because out of this arrangement the woman might get impregnated and the guy can always get out of the relationship if he wants to and the girl would be stuck with the child in the end which means more responsibility lies within her and the guy can easily get away from it since there are no legal bond that would tie the child with him. Unless you would file in court and ask him to support your child. So I guess you can always choose that as an option. I am open with this arrangement since I am a guy in real life and it is really pretty convenient for me in that arrangement too. But I am a traditional kind of a guy that is why I chose to marry a girl. I know we are having problems every now and then but we are able to get over the issue in no time. If in case we reach that point that we will need to separate then I think we can talk on that matter when it comes. Hopefully it would not come to that point at all.

My husband and I lived together for around a year before we got married. We decided to get engaged and proceeded to move in together while we planned the wedding. At the time it was a practical thing for us to do because my husband had to move out from the shared house he was living in and it made sense he move in with me as we were both trying to save money. I am glad that we got to know each at another level during that year because it was long enough to learn what we would be in for and short enough for us to still be excited about becoming man and wife. I would recommend living together for a while before marriage, there is a difference being together 24/7 versus dating and spending weekends together. I do think that, regardless of whether a couple has co-habited before marriage or not, people do give up too easily before working issues out. I always say that, in my opinion, one should not walk away until one knows in one’s heart that absolutely all has been done in order to reconcile, only then it wise to cut one’s losses. I say this as a woman who is now in her second marriage. Marriage means hard work too and that is part of the commitment.

My wife and I lived together for 4 years before we got married. This was our choice and we came to know each other very well during this time and we are now happily married and I could have never asked or prayed for a better soul mate

I'm not married yet but I have had roomates and I think it might be a prerequisite. There are a host of annoying things one notices when sharing such close space.

..hi.. marriage is not a joke, hence it must be thoroughly pondered upon.. Before getting married, it is important to ask yourself if you are really ready to take responsibility and ready to tackle misunderstandings.. you have to learn to accept the guy as he is and not look for something that he can't give.. Not all marriage end in divorce or annulment because there are those who survive because of their great love to each other.. If both partners has the same goal of preserving the relationship then the marriage will work no matter what happens.. the most crucial period of marriage is from 1 - 5 years of being married.. this is the stage where you are still trying to know each otehr deeper so you would need more understanding and have a broad mind.. there's no perfect marriage.. there will always be ups and downs.. so don't be dismayed because of what you observe.. with your question, I would still say that living in is not good.. I would prefer being married first..