She is not sure

i think abortion is not the solution to her problems.im sure her baby will be born normal like no other.did she tried getting some second opinion from other doctors.she should try that also just to make sure if her baby has had some problems.i think its better for her to wait for the baby to come into this world and hope that there is no problem when he is born.try praying and seeking guidance on what she really should do about it.but for me abortion is not a part of the options.

Since I'm anti-abortion, I don't think she should abort her baby even if the doctors only give the baby a 50% chance of survival. The way the babies are killed during an abortion is so barbaric that I don't see how anyone can be so heartless to anyone so tiny and helpless. Besides that, doctors aren't always right. Perhaps if she prayed fervently to God and got her family, friends and the church to do the same, He would give her a healthy baby.

She is in a very tough situation. I am thinking that she should go on with her pregnancy and give birth to the baby and hope and pray that the baby survives. But then, again, it would be very difficult for her, if the baby doesn't make it. Both emotionally and financially, she must realy prepare for it, so as not to get devastated. On the other hand, if she chooses to go with the abortion, she would be eliminating the risks of putting herself and her partner in that emotional test of seeing the baby then losing it. But though, she has been told by the doctors to have the abortion, i think she should give it a deep deep discerning. I wish her good luck, what ever her decision will be, i hope that it is the best for all of them.

I am sorry about your friends baby. Her baby needs lots of prayers. There is nothing that is imposable for God. I couldn't have an abortion I don't believe in them. But I can understand that is must be very hard on her. I don't no how she believes but if it was me I would be on my hands and knees praying for a miracle. I send lots of prayers out over her and her baby.

I think that this is a very tough question to answer. I have had two children myself and I know the kind of bond that a mother shares with her unborn child. It would be really hard to just give up just because the chances were small. Then again I can also see how some might say that the chances aren't fair and that the child doesn't need to suffer. I just don't know. I am very unsure of what I would do so honestly I can't really tell you what I think. I can tell you that I am very sorry that your friend is in this position and that I hope that whatever she decides, she lives a long and happy life.

Like the doctor said, the baby still has that 50% chance to live and that is a very huge percentage. I hope they stay on the possitive side. A baby is always a blessing. See what he has done to his parents even now that he hasnt even born yet? The unborn baby reunited his family. I hope they give the child a chance to live. No matter how short it may be, at least the child would have a chance to experience how it is like to live in this world and to spend his life with his family. Having the baby aborted is disregarding the baby's chance of living. It's letting go of that 50% chance of being alive which is very unfair. I wish your friend all the best.

Hey max, what a tradgic story. Your friend has an almost impossible choice to make, and pray the one she makes is the correct one. I can't even imagine what I would do.

sorry to hear about it, really only your friend and her partner can make the decision on what they do. what did the doctor suggest? i didn't think they would suggest an abortion unless things were real bad. it's then also the after care of the child as well, that needs to be thought about.

sometimes they can do surgery on the baby even before he is born so she should get more than one opinion as they can do marvels now on babys needing heart surgery even in the womb. he surely is not the only doctor, she needs a specialist for unborn baby surgery and no no do not abort as the baby could be saved and the marriage also. think positive.

Ya it is a real problem for any mother. I think at this moment she should go for the abortion and should follow the doctor's instruction. I know she loves her child very much but it is not the right time of taking decision emotionally. She have to more practical. I know how much it is easy to say that much it is hard to do. But she have to do it. If he is born and if he has a heart problem and go through several surgeries then she can't forgive herself...........

This has to be a very hard decision to make but the questions you need to ask yourself is do you really want to put a baby thru all these health issues being so young. After all this the baby still doesn't survive? I believe if the doctors are recommending to abort I would probably go in that direction. Its not like she can't have another child. Why put an infant thru so much when just being born. I understand the love of an unborn child having two girls too. However, I think you have to not think about your personal connection to the unborn child and do what is best for the infant that will be born with so many problems and then maybe still not survive. Good luck in whatever their decision is. May God Bless them all.

All you have told us, Maxine, is very sad. Not only his unboern baby is so sick, but also she has problems with hr partner. I don´t think a partner who has not enough love for her in normal times will have enough now to give her the support she needs. She is facing a very terrible dilemma that no one but her can solve. Whatever she choses, let´s hope it´s for the best. I´ll send her possitive energy.

I think the baby deserves his 50/50 chance. But then I'm 100% against abortion. She is already feeling love for this baby. The psychological damage she will do to herself if she kills the baby is great. It would be good talk to her clergyman or an unbiased counselor. This decision will stay with the young lady for the rest of her life.

Hi maximax In my opinion 20 weeks is too late to even consider doing it(i wouldnt recommend abortion even if it was 1 day, but just wanna make a point). Did you know there are babys that were borned around the 20th weeks, and they were able to survive(after intese caring). If there is a 50% chance to the baby to survive then she should hold on to that 50%. Abortion is the same as killing, and as i said a 20th week baby is already able to survive on this world, so it would be the same as killing him after. The difference, she dont see the baby, in my opinion that is a coward thing to do.

Hi..maximax In my opinion, it is better to abort if the law permiits in your country. If the baby survive after the birth with all these ailments, it will be very painful.May be her partner will give an emotional support for sometime and later he will go off. A mother will be always affectionalte to her kids.In my opinion it is better to abort even if I am against the act

I think that only she can make that decision. How would she handle the abortion? How would she handle multiple operations? If the child lives, will the child be limited all the days of his life? How would she handle having a seriously handicapped child for the rest of her life? She's around 5 months. If the baby had self-aborted by now, she wouldn't have to make this decision. I don't know what to tell you. If it was just one operation and it could be done in utero ( before the child is even born), that would be different. But several operations, that could leave her broke (unless you have common medical insurance there). I don't know. I had a tubal ligation so I can't have children because most kids in our family have disabilities and people are very mean to people with disabilities here. So I prevented the problem from the onset. She needs to consider everything and make her own decision. She has to live with whatever she decides.