how old are you when you got married or plan to get married

@dorothy09 (1520)
Philippines
February 9, 2010 11:53pm CST
I am now on my middle 20's and Single. Should I say that I am still enjoying single life that's why I am still single up to this time. Yes it is a good feeling to have someone when from work would be there for you, you eat together, sleep and planning for the future together. Me and my partner have been together for 7 years. So glad and thankful we still enjoy each other not as boyfriend/girlfriend but as friends also. We decided not to marry even if we are in our marrying age. Because we still have a lot of responsibilities to our family. I hope time comes and hopefully sooner we can decide. How old are you when you got married and when do you plan to get married
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@ajmclaw (22)
• United States
11 Feb 10
I was 28 when I married my husband. It has been 15 years and, thankfully, we are still together. If I got married before I was 28, I think I would have had some regrets. The single life was a lot of fun and a great time for learning. I had the time to cultivate my career and spend time with my then-boyfriend, now-husband. After marriage, I got pregnant after two months. We actually were trying because my husband was 35 when I married him. We now have two children. Motherhood is great, but I needed the time to myself up until I was 29 to have work, learning and relationship time. My children are 14 and 11, and I find that just about everything I learned up until the time they were born as well as after is useful in raising them. I finally figured out what when I am going to learn algebra -- when helping sixth graders with their homework. But, getting back to marriage, it is great that you and your boyfriend are friends as well. That is soooo important. It will help you tremendously when you do marry him. Your commitment to family will carry over to your own family. This is a great quality.
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• United States
11 Feb 10
im planning to get married when i turn 25 if i find the right person for me. if i dont then ill just wait and wait and wait for him to come to my life and marry me.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
10 Feb 10
I hope to get married by the time I'm 40. This depends on a few factors which are not as yet true. One, and most important, is finding a person with whom I want to get married. Second is that I've decided as a political decision that I won't get married to anyone (even a guy) as long as gay marriage is not legal in the entire country.
@emediloy (701)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 10
I never thought that i would married until i met a guy who proposed me to be his wife. its really unpredictable, and for me just like a joke that time. but he is very hard to convince me and i can see that he is a right man. so we decided to get married. i was 28 and his 29. its not depend on your age when you decide to get marry, but how you ready to go trough. mentality and financial are two important point to prepare the marriage. i respect your decision not to get married because of your family responsibilities. i'm sure there will be a right time and a right place for you both to get married. just don't force it. thanx, and take care always.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hi! i was 27 when we got married, so do my husband. we are married for more than one year now and we are expecting our first baby hopefully days before our second year anniversary. we have been bf/gf for 5 years before we got married and we have been friends since highschool. its not how about how old are you when you got married. as long as you are ready, emotionally, physically and financially then go on.. but if not think twice. hope you two will end up together and forever. God bless.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hi there shylade, I'm glad that you are from the Philippines also, Hopefully in God's Grace we will end up together and Forever. I lift up to God na our Relationship, other people would say the longer we will be together there will be instances that we will end up in Break up because we are used to be with each other. But we set ourselves a good example. We set to it that we will not end up in a wrong way. that's why in any arguments we listen to each others side. Well of course part of the relationship the important thing to have consider also is the loyalty of each other and trust. may God bless us when we are ready God will grant his blessing to us :) Cheers:)D09:)
@imjack (61)
• India
11 Feb 10
I totally agree with shylade
@NoSides (66)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 10
I am not thinking much about it now because I myself have not find a partner. However, I have a dream that when I am about 25-26 and I finished all my studies plus a great job, maybe I get married.
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@illfavors (590)
• United States
10 Feb 10
I think I was about 26. I think it was a good age to get married. I always said I wouldn't get married, but I met the right person and I had to marry him because he is the best.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hi there illfavors thank you so much for taking time to respond on my post. Well that is what everybody is waiting before we want to get married. The Right One. I dont know if you believe in Destiny and fate. I do, I know there is a person who is destined for me. Who will be for me through thick and thin, through happiness and difficulties, for better and for worst. But above all we before we get married we have to make sure we love each other. Not because you get married for any other reason. Because I know someone who made a quick decision , marry for the sake of others will and now living a life miserably. I pity her. I hope time will come to resolve all issues and do what is best for them.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hello dorothy, I am 23 when i got married and my husband is 29 by that time. It was unplanned,it comes unexpectedly (hahaha) And now we had 3 kids...young adult aged 16,14 and 11. I never regretted marrying too early,and with my grown up kids,we only look like brothers and sister. I like the feeling...i can relate with them much easier coz our age gap is not that far. Their fashion and passion is not far from what i used to be like when i was also a teener. Anyway,it is always good to plan before settling down. To prepare a good future for your kids too. I wish you all the luck dear
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
I wish I could also marry at your age. because I love kids. Its just that its not time for me yet to settle Down. In his time and will I will obey my fate. LOL my mother marry that early and now we are like sisters. I also like the feeling when you are still young you have kids with you that is at your age bec. I agree that that you can really relate to them. Best luck for all of us Cheers =d09:)
@BART78 (2927)
• Canada
10 Feb 10
i'm 31 when i got married, i could say it is the right time for me afte i enjoy my bachelor life..
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
yah I would love to say that when I am married that I am ready and happy because I have enjoy my bachelors life.. hmmmmmmmm :) I'm just waiting for my resources to get ready because honestly I think I'm ready LOL thanks to all your responses folks:) cheers =d09:)
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
I get married at the age of 23 because I am afraid that I will run out of men LOL! We just plan it for 2 months all the preparation & everything.
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hi there happy, your a Filipina also right..wow early age 23 you got married. But sometimes I would think, I can have a baby first before I get married. LOL I just love babies. But unfortunately we are not rewarded with one also. Maybe its still not time for us pa :) Hopefully soon :) =d09:)
@myzire72 (1154)
• Singapore
12 Feb 10
I got married when I was 28, and my wife 27. It's really time for us to tie the knot after knowing each other for 5 years. Since I wanted to start my own family, I think it's better to marry early than, say, after 30.
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Whoa wo wo wo wait a minute? after thirty years old? no kidding? so, thismeans i have four years, and a month to get a girl friend and marry me before thirty! Ahhh some how i feel that am not getting any younger again. well, congratulations to you.
• India
10 Feb 10
Hi dorothy, I think you both are best friends. But you are not attend the marriage age. so you have to wait till the time came. If you are marrying at the age of 24 or more then you will be very happy. Because In that age only you will be mature.
• United States
17 Feb 10
i was 18 years old when i 1st got married. i got divorced 2 years later. im not 26 years old, and i have been engaged for 6 years now. i don't plan on getting married any time soon. other than the fact of being engaged for a while longer
• United States
10 Feb 10
Hi Dorothy, Its good to be single as long as possible till u are 30. You can get married any time but enjoying bachelorhood once u get married is impossible. We have a belief of getting married while you are single but u dont have a single hope of becoming bachelor again once u r married. I got married when i was 23 and i think it was too early. Bye KS
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
hi there kiran , I am also confused with some of my friends, others would say don't get married yet because you are still young and you will regret, for the reason that you can never enjoy life as what a single person can do. others would say get married as early as you can so that you can start a family earlier and you can have kids when you are still young. you know if only I am capable financially, I will have a kid on as early as 20 years old and will not marry heheheheheh e:0 but still it is best to have a partner in life LOL nothing beats still having a single life because we can do watever we wanted to do and when we are married to someone there are a lot of limitation and responsibility.
• Canada
11 Feb 10
I was 25 when we got married, and my husband was 62. His fourth married, my first, and OUR final marriage! LOL We found what we had been looking for whhen we found eachother, and we are going to stay married forever.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
10 Feb 10
i had just turned 26 when my hubby and i got married (that was 25 years ago!) we dated for 6 months and were engaged for two then got married. i am glad i waited and enjoyed being single for those years.
• United States
14 Feb 10
I was 24 and my husband was 31 when we were married. It has been exactly 17 years and one day since we got married and it was in a snow storm just like what happened here a few days ago. Anyway, we were friends before we got married. We don't believe in dating but more like courting. We enjoyed the same things. Still do. We were both born in the same month but 7 years apart, we both became born-again Christians at a young age, are both left-handed and can sing! We still complete each others sentences and can sometimes read each others' thoughts it seems.:) We have seven children: six girls and one boy and enjoy being parents. We believe that people should not live together before marriage or get divorced because it becomes too hard. We take our marriage vows seriously. What I think makes our marriage work is that we work on our marriage everyday and ask the Lord for His help in the bad times and thank Him for His blessings in the good times. Sincerely in Christ, Leesa C. Eph.2:8,9
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
I'm in the same situation. My boyfriend and I can't get married yet because we have lots of obligations. But I'm hoping that in 3 years' time we'll be ready to get married. When I was younger I planned to get married at 25 years old, but I don't think that it will happen anymore.
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Hello dorothy, Marriage takes time only when you are maturely,financially and mentally ready for it. it's really good that you two still haven't thought about it, there's always counseling before marriage and it is required i think, am not sure about your religion though. As for me, i have no idea, am still single chances of getting honet friends are slim, what more more in getting a girl friend or having some one to get married. i am happy being single because i am still "free"
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
10 Feb 10
Well my friend, you and your partner have plenty of time as I didn't get married to John until I was 42, that was in April 2008! I have known him since 2003 and I moved in with him in July 2005. Neither of us had been married before. If we had not got married I'm convinced we would still be together so I say, if you are happy after your 7 years (which you clearly are) then I feel there is no rush for you to get married. However, if you can afford it then I would go for it now before you have the chance to change your mind! Good luck either way!