is love the way to a happy marriage ?

India
February 13, 2010 10:22pm CST
when it comes to making a decision about the life partner no one wants to make a mistake but the divorce rates going on increasing i think obviously we are getting wrong ? do you think that that marrying for love is a wrong approach ? shold it be done on any other basis ? i all always hear love conquers all is that true ? i think that its nothing wrong to marry our love . but its thing after the marriage . we should be able to give up certain things for our love if it is right .
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• India
14 Feb 10
Love is good until its pure.. once its impure or changes with account to time it cannot lead to a happy marriage or a life.. on the other had if its true it ll lead to a very happy life...
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• India
14 Feb 10
what do you mean by telling pure or impure
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Feb 10
Love with a strong foundation of friendship and a lot of dose of understanding will lead to a happy marriage.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 10
love is a way to a happy marriage. when we love, everything will follow. every thing we do, we do it out of love. how will the marriage survive without it? that is why divorce rates are high because they did not sustain and cultivate love. think about it as a plant, water it, give sunshine, good soil, and love. the plant will bloom into something amazing.
• India
15 Feb 10
Love, trust, Mutual understanding and emotions are must to make a marriage successful and yes it is true that if your love is true then you never see any boundaries and just love them and get them. One should not change after marriage as happens most of time that people changes in love after marriage. It seems that there love has diminished but this should not be like it. They should treat each as well and should understand their value. No doubt true lovers will never give up in any circumstances and can cross all hurdles of life without any tear in their eyes being hand in hand of each other. I am in deep love as well and i am looking forward to get married my lover this year. We have not even met each other yet but we are sure about our feeling in this long distance relation that we are born for each other on this earth.
• United States
15 Feb 10
I think no one should get married without love, love is the foundation of any relationship, but it is just the basic part, but, as a friend of mine say, love is not enough to make a marriage works, it is important that the couple have trust between each other, and a lot of understanding, also they both realize that even when they are marriage that doesn't mean that both persons loose all their freedom, the other person can have friends and spend time with them. Also many people married with the idea that they can change their partner, and that is wrong, if you love someone, you should accept it the way it is, if you can't, leave the relationship. Also both people in the couple should be very mature before marriage, for me, immaturity is one of the biggest enemy of any marriage.
@meldred (94)
18 Feb 10
ofcourse we should...marrying the one you love is not easy because it's all about giving all you have to someone else. That's why think millions times before getting married...be sure that you love the person..& you will do everything for that person.UNDERSTANDING & RESPECT IS VERY IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP because marriage wihout these will not prosper
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
when people decide to get married mostly it is because of love others may not as the same with other reasons but for sure most of them wanted the marriage to work forever. no one wants to get broken after they got the vow but i guess reality speaks that sometimes we are just people who make decisions or actions not right for our partner, there are quarrels over things then eventually lead into divorce or separation. it is really sad to heard people got separated after a happy marriage despite you knew they loved each other from the very beginning. there is no guarantee that you you get married because you and you wont get separated in the future, the only thing that is certain is that when you choose your partner and decide to get married is take the responsibility and put in your heart and mind that you are not alone anymore in making decisions in life. it might not easy but i guess for constant practice it will be work. we encounter problems in the process but whats good in having a partner in life is you have someone to talk and share with those problem and find some solutions. and i guess also one of the most important aspect that everyone should not miss is learn to appreciate your partner even in a simple ways that he/she gives to you. what matters most is that we had love and being loved with someone. happy mylotting!!!!!
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
14 Feb 10
I dont think love is the end all but I think it is the most vital component because it will bring with it all the other components.Characteristics such as commitment ,loyalty,kindness are all important prerequisites for a succesfull marriage .Most persons tend to think that once they love each other then that will suffice and then problems come along and the love doesnt seem to be enough
@coolsudan (313)
• India
14 Feb 10
i think u shuld marry someone who better understands u.and it is the lover who always know what is gud for u and what is not. the basic principle of life is that if we dont get what we want then we are not happy .and the happiness come from being close to ur loved ones . so i think while marrying someone we shuld always ask ourself if we really that person or not . if we dont love our partner we are ruining two lives .
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Love is one form of ingredients on good marriage.Commitment & good provider must have in a relationship.Love is love but if you can't provide financially it will went on divorce.
@jho2010 (155)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
hi, when we got married, of course we want to marry the person we love and i can say that its not wrong.I believe that Love is not the only thing needed to a have a happy marriage, but it should be the basis for every needs of both husband and wife. Husband and wife have different personalities that they both need to accept and understand to have a harmonious relationship.An open communication is also needed to have a happy marriage.Learning to listen is an excellent form of communication. Building a happy marriage takes a lot of hard work, patience, sacrifices, energy and a lot of TIME.And do not forget that money is also needed to helps us support all the financial needs of a starting family.There should also be respect, trust and faithfulness to each other.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
It could be. When I saw the movie Princess and the Frog last week, it taught me a lesson on how love can be so powerful. The prince in the movie was so spoiled because he was rich but meeting the girl made him change his mind about work when he said he needed to work to make the girls dream come true because even though he was a prince, he was broke because his family cuthim off. I believe that love is really powerful because it wil also change ones attitude.