Would you give up career for family?
By m310684
@m310684 (35)
February 14, 2010 11:58pm CST
would you give up your career so you can raise a family?
Would you resign from your job so you can focus on taking care of your husband and kids?
Would you be willing to stay at home (for a while) and run the house while your husband works?
6 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I already gave up my career for my husband and do not regret it in the least. He had heart surgery six years ago and couldn't work anymore. His brother, who lived 1,000 miles away was diagnosed with throat cancer and we didn't know how long he had. My husband wanted to move down to Florida to be close to his sick younger and his family so I agreed that we should go. Fortunately, both my husband and his brother are still with us.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Hi, Spalladino. Love your post. It is a classic example of unselfish love. That move probably saved your husband's and your brother-in-law's lives just because it took a lot of stress off both of them by their being close to each other and providing love and support at a critical time in both their lives.@spalladino (17891)
• United States
18 Feb 10
Thanks to the both of you. I had a career that I loved up north but, at the end of the day, I love my husband more and, starbright, you are 100% correct...being here has helped both my husband and his brother. The original chemo and radiation he had five years ago didn't last and his cancer returned, forcing him to undergo an operation that took most of his throat. He can eat and breath just fine but he's no longer able to talk...or run his business which is a custom cabinet shop because of the dust. So, if we were still up north he wouldn't be able to talk to my husband since he now has to communicate by writing on a whiteboard he carries everywhere. Since we're here, they can see each other every day...laugh together and complain about the things that bug them. They have quality time that they wouldn't have had if we hadn't moved. Every time I see them together I'm once again glad we moved here.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Had that ever been an option, I would have done it in a heartbeat. For me, the job became a career simply because the better I did my job, the more money I made. The more money I made, the higher the standard of living for my family. I never lost sight of why I worked. Any wife or mother who thinks her career is the most important thing in her life should take a step back and think which one will she miss the most if it is gone. The husband and children or the career?
Life does not end because you go home to care for a family. There are a lot of careers (I use the term loosely because some so-called careers are merely jobs) that can be pursued and even improved upon from home if a woman really wants to do something apart from cooking and cleaning and laundry. Many great businesses start at home - and by people without college degrees. Ask Bill Gates.
There are times when the best choice is for one, be it husband or wife - whichever is in the best position at the time, to go home and take care of the family. This single act can sometimes save a lot of heartache down the road. Money is not always a solution. Your house must be in order, first.
@m310684 (35)
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17 Feb 10
I agree with the idea that aside from being a housewife, a woman should also do some small business while at home. that's what I want when I get married should have to give up working while the children grow up. Having a business at home takes boredom away and still provides some self-empowerment to women.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
..Hi.. that was actually my dream.. I really want to stay at home and take care of my child and husband, however, this is not possible right now.. I already have a stable job and it would be hard for us to meet our daily needs if I stop working.. this is why I'm planning of putting up my own business where I own my time.. so that I can spend enough time with my child as she grow up..
@m310684 (35)
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15 Feb 10
I like to stay at home and manage my own business when I get married. I want to be there always for my family especially for my children as they grow up. I was raised in a home where my father works away from home all the time and my mother opted to become a full time housewife to take care of us. And I'm proud to say that we grew up to be nice people.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
If I were to choose between my family and my career, I am going to choose my family of course. As long as my husband will be able to provide for our needs and his earnings are enough for my family then I choose to stay at home and become a full time mom and a full time wife.
@Nirishasol (879)
• India
15 Feb 10
No never i will never give up my career for my family and my parents also never allow this to me they are happy if i go with my career.
@sassyjazz (48)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
i just did. when i gave birth to my baby boy i gave up my career to personally take care of him. its hard at first especially that i've been working for so many years and i'm at the peak of my career but t has to be that way rather than having a nanny to take care of him.
