right of a child
@churchill1980 (764)
Philippines
February 16, 2010 11:05pm CST
i got a daughter from my previous relationship but because i found my partner very irresponsible,i refuse his offer of marrying me although i was already pregnant.it was a decision that i never regret because at present,i am already married to a very responsible and loving husband.my daughter is already 5 years old and very smart.i ask her sometimes if she's ok with her situation not having to live with her biological father,and she would answer that it's not a big deal to her and she's completely alright,and that there are a lot of people who loves her.i am touched with her answers although somehow i felt a little guilty,thinking that it is still her right to know and meet her ather.do you think i am depriving her from this right?
4 responses
@kaylachan (84834)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Feb 10
People do grow and change. And, she has the right to know who her father is. And, he too has rights. I understand that as a mother you want to do what's best for your child. And, at age five she doesn't understand what she's missing. Since you were pregnant at the time it means she never got to know him. She deserves the option to meet him and get to know him. In a close setting. Marage to him may not be right for you, but that doesn't mean that he'd be a bad father to his daughter.
You need to give them an opertunity. Because at five it wouldn't matter, but later down the road it could get difficult.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
actually she knows and meet her father before.he would borrow my daughter and they go to mall together. i was just upset when there was a time,he called and said that he's going to borrow my daughter and they would go shopping.my daughter waited for hours and very excited only to know that he's not coming.it disappoint my daughter and i was hurt.from that time on,i would ignore his calls already and ask my child if she wants to go out with her father again and she would answer "no".
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It's not your responsibility to get your daughter, in front of her father. Because this is the responsibility of his father to see her.
Don't rush the time if your daughter, is not asking her father. It is your daughter, right to see her father. It is also her, right to ask her father, assistant if she need it...
Have a great day!
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
i guess i can relate to you. im pregnant right now and the guy left me without any words. i tried to contact him and look for him and eat my pride inspite of all the insult he said to me. the reason is i want my child to grow up knowing that his the father and i know its the child right. but then. now, i become so tired of looking for him. you think it will be best if i just forget about him and let the child grow without him. besides i can say that his very irresponsible by leaving us. im just thinking about my child welfare in the future. though i know someday i can still look for someone to marry me besides im not that ugly. a lot says im pretty and young so i can still found one.
@jongskie721 (45)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
she can meet her father on the right time.. when she is old enough to understand what really happened.. if its okay with your new husband, he can act as the father for the moment..
