why do our parents always relate us with somebody else??

India
February 17, 2010 11:34am CST
well i had a family full of engineers...so my relative cousin is also studying engineering like me....recently in the entrance exam he has scored better than me and got chance in a better colege....well whenever our paths cross my parents tell me that he is better in studies than and and you should be like him,ask him how he studies and all those stuffs....why dont they understand that everybody cant be same..well i am a better sportsman than him..nobody sees that
7 responses
@saphrina (31650)
• South Africa
17 Feb 10
I have to agree. That is not nice at all. You cannot compare people like that. Everybody has their own strong points in life and they should be measured accordingly. But whatever you do, just keep up your good work, that is the best you can do. TATA.
• India
17 Feb 10
i feel very down when things like these happen..i feel as if i am inferior....they always do this.....
@saphrina (31650)
• South Africa
17 Feb 10
Are we going to have a fight about one of your chosen words? I think not. You are who and what you are. No one can be like you and you cannot be like someone else. Just eccept that. It will make your life easier. TATA.
@dorannmwin (36634)
• United States
20 Feb 10
I don't think that it is right that the older members of our families are always comparing the younger generation to each other, but it is something that has been going on as long as I can remember in my life and as much as I hate to admit it, it is also something that I am guilty of. What we have to remember is that there are no two people that are the same. Each individual has certain things that they are good at and certain things that they aren't all that good at.
@anjoism (35)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Most parents do this. I feel for you~ I, too have a family of engineers and architects. But the difference is that, I chose to be on my own path. I chose the course for myself. At least, they don't have to compare me with our relatives.[tho they still compare with other people.] The pressure sucks.
@qamarep (4447)
• Pakistan
19 Feb 10
may be its in genes thats why your cousins are in engineering. if you can be a good sports man and can make it a career then give it a shot but if you cannot make a big thing out of it then its a waste of time for you
@Moavan (13)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 10
I do believe that each person has different talent. So, what your parents did, describe what their expectation to you. Fortunately, my parents never asked me to get a good score because they always talking to me if i have to understand the lesson rather than better score! Sometimes it makes you sick right?
@yresh12 (3217)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
I think parents are always like that. Before I always see them comparing me with someone as a very discouraging to do. Then, I realized they are doing this for us to become better. This would motivate us to become better and not be compared to anyone and they would be proud of what we did..
• India
17 Feb 10
parents should not do this . In the definition of better parenting ,these are not mentioned. And if we see in the favour of parents , they do this, because they always want their children to be good and better as compared to others .