What do you think of modern families, with separate bedrooms with separate livin

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
February 18, 2010 3:47pm CST
You accept that your partner can have separate living and you too? To be more friends and less husband and wife? Many times it is dangerous to let your partner too much freedom? Did you want to have freedom in marriage, or believe that both partners must know that life in a marriage should be together and not separately?
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@Allie_xoxo (1063)
• Canada
18 Feb 10
My man and I plan to do this when we live together and we plan to make it work. We will each have a seperate room with a bathroom in the middle. Then we can sleep in whoever's room we choose that night, and also be able to maintain a space of our own.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
18 Feb 10
Thank you!! This is how my life was for a very long time!! My ex was a clutter nut, a night owl insomniac, and a slob. I myself love things neatly organized, slept usually from 11pm til 7am, and can't stand mess. In having my own space, we each got our sleep, the freedom of keeping our rooms as neat or dirty as we pleased, decorated as we individually pleased. If we wanted together time, there was an entire house for that. If we wanted to sleep together, we just went with whoever's room felt right at the moment.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
For that are people interesting, because they have separate opinions, all depends on how you choose those two feel better ;
• Canada
18 Feb 10
I guess it depends on how strongly they feel for each other. I can tell you that If I had a choice I would definitely choose to live with my woman. I presently in love with my girlfriend and we share an apartment. So again, it really depends on how much you love each other because it would kill me if I had separate bedrooms.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
you got my point, depend how they feel, but i am sure that if i am in love, i will choice to be toghether, no matter what
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
19 Feb 10
well my hubby and i sleep in seperate bedrooms and although he minds some, i dont mind a bit! i am a horrible sleeper and the least little amount of noise really bothers me when i sleep. we have been married for 22 years!
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
i don t know how others think, but in my opinion, even i am single now, 2 persons must to be toghether;maybe i am wrong, but this is my opinion
@thuhuong (823)
• United States
19 Feb 10
I wouldn't call that marriage then, that's living together without being together. Every single day that you don't hold each other is a moment lost. At least for my husband and myself. I think he has made an initiative in which his effort is totally focused on me and when I don't have that, I guess there's some questions involved. That's how it is, however with free love nowadays, I can be off topic as that's a different matter. There are more open relationships than ever and I cannot say how they live.
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@thuhuong (823)
• United States
19 Feb 10
LOL, all world freedom, that's quite vast, I would think he'll want to come right back in the end
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
you are very right, i have same opinion, if my partner want freedom and his own space..he is free to have, but not with me, he can have all world freedom
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
It's ridiculous!couples should be together and not sleep in a separate bedroom. If I get married that's the last thing I wanna happen in my married life. As a couple you should be together otherwise the romance and emotion will soon fade and before you know it, you will be living like complete strangers and the relationships will die down.
@pandaeyes (2065)
19 Feb 10
you need to be friends first and lovers second. Otherwise how will you manage when you are very old and in each others company 24 hours a day?
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@pandaeyes (2065)
19 Feb 10
My husband and I share a bed in the same bedroom. I wouldn't mind if we slept in separate rooms but we don't have space with my kids still being home every holiday. I like my own time and space but it isn't a terrible hardship to share.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
you know better of course, important is to be good friends, but i ll choice to be toghether, this is my idea to be a couple..
• Canada
19 Feb 10
Some people prefer to sleep together, others prefer separate rooms, it's up to each individual couple. My husband and I sleep separately not because we want to, but because the bedroom in our apartment is not large enough for a double bed, so he sleeps on the sofa in the living room. We are as close as ever. There are also couples that we know who sleep separately voluntarily, and have wonderful marriages. Lots of people we know slept together in marriage, and then got divorced. It's different for everyone.
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
19 Feb 10
you are right, are people who are more or less toghether, even they are married
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
not my style. it works for others but i dont like that style. it looks like ou are in college that you see each other everyday but you dont stay in the same room. that is weird, for me. if they want freedom they should not get married in the first place. freedom are for singles onl. of course there are certain things that are personal but to have different rooms and things like that i dont see that you will grow together. we are only three in the family. me, my wife and our son, we all sleep in the same room. we will let our son sleep in a seperate room when he is ready already.... kids grow fast so we cherish every moment that we can spend with him.
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