Could lose a good friend

When it comes to your business, it sounds like neither one of you is willing to compromise to make things work. It isn't going to get better. My suggestion to you is to sit him down and say that the disagreements you two are having has really upsets you. You value his friendship more than anything else and for that reason, you'd rather go your own way musically and stay friends. He may feel the same way. You don't have to rehash every single thing that has upset you and you absolutely don't want to get into any kind of blame game. Keep it simple. He is your friend and you are his. You never want that to end. So you are letting the music thing go. Then go out and put together the kind of act you want to do and let him do the same. And support each other and encourage each other, like friends would do.

I think that as we all get older that we all tend to grow apart from our what we would class as good friends and we move on and make other friends.I have found that if you see the same people all the time then you seem to run out of things to talk about and then you tend to sit in silence,which is also not good.I think that perhaps with all the pressures of yours and your friends buissness as well as your friend ship aswell perhaps that has pushed you both further apart rather than staying good close friends.Perhaps a break from each other will do you both good as i am sure you both have other friends.Try talking to your friend and explain that you were ill and if he was ill you would understand so why do he not understand.

i believe there is pain in losing one's good friend. for whatever reason, it is very difficult to let go of a good friend while there is a chance to continue the relationship. however, in your case, i don't see anymore of any trace of good friendship between you and him. i think it is over for him. of course, you know him better. just stay there and make him feel that there is a chance to get back. but for how long? you should know that life is short to waste into a unreciprocated friendship.

Why not have two branches of the business? You could showcase the bands you like and he could do his own thing. You would have the business together but the parts would be separate. I think that when he saw how you prospered and he struggles, he would realize he needs your business smarts or he'll quit. Either way, your friendship survives because you'll be "expanding", not quitting. Since he is in charge of his side, he can't blame you for anything.

I think that the pressure of your business has gotten in the way. People handle things very differently and I think that you and your friend are like oil and water. I don't really have any great advice...but maybe after things cool down, you could sit down with him and talk about the business responsibilities and then talk about what it is that you each can do to help the other. That's really just laying the floor for fixing the problem but it's a start.

This is an interesting matter. If he has been your good friend for 13 years, I doubt you should worry about him getting "rid" of you. You need to get a hold of him, face to face. Meet somewhere or show up where you know he will be. Sit down and tell him whats on your mind, and how this situation has grown out of control. Most of the time people don't even realize that they may be doing something wrong, or that something really bothers you... Speak your mind. Another thing to keep in mind, their may be things that he may want to express to you as well. Listen to him, and don't get angry if it is criticism, turn it around and make it positive. Thats the best thing I can advise with the information given. Hopefully this helps.

This is called incompatibility, and its not at all unusual. People never stop growing and often grow apart. This is your problem now, and to make the best of a bad situation, I'd suggest you "take the bit in your mouth, and run with it!" Your friendship has depreciated, so make the best of it! Why do you need the guy anyway? Sounds like you are a musician in your own right! Why not go it alone? Be thankful you have a talent that can sustain you! Good luck, and go for it!

lakerfanster, Just stumbled into your post and I hope you would not mind a few perception of mine here. If it is at all possible, please take care of that ear infection of yours first! Business aside, you need to really have your infection taken care of and I just do not see any feasibility running a business in poor health, which is also causing a rift between your friend and you. How could you blame him? When you do not even want to have a professional to take a look at it and be able to know just how bad it is. To your friend, since you are not having it consulted he will just assume that it is nothing serious - which I believe is the reason for his brushing it aside. Not trying to teach you or tell you how to run your business, but I am wondering if the both of you have done the necessary to ensure the smooth running of the business. 1. Business plan 2. Weekly business meetings 3. Monthly budget meetings Friendship and personal issues aside, a business partnership needs the above to stay focus, viable, mutual and most of all survive. A lot of times, I see partnerships of friends or close relations going awry when they forget the basics and ethics of running a business. The biggest sin being taking for granted in almost everything and at the end the misunderstandings just keep on accumulating till unbearable mass levels. Seriously, you sound like the both of you really need to organize yourselves personally, come forward and be more forthcoming with the company's direction in the next one to two years. Get a consensus on what the both of you would want to do, iron out the differences and come to an amicable compromise. If other companies and MNC can do it, I just do not see how impossible it is, between the both of you. All's work and no play will make the both of you dull and contemptuous - so amidst all those boardroom thrashings, remember that the both of you are friends - get out and have a ball of a time when it is time to unwind. There are lots of money to be earned and you just cannot be doing it everyday! I hope that my $0.02 worth would be of help and wish you all the best for the year. Have a nice day.