Get angry when a colleague use your personal belongings?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
February 19, 2010 8:14am CST
We all have to work, our personal things, a coffee cup, a towel, a soap, pens or a plant on table.
Nothing makes me nervous just to look for something that is mine, and not found, but I find things on the desk of a colleague on office.
The strongest irritates me when somebody use my one cup of coffee, or towel, dirt on others hands. What is mine is mine, do not bring cups of coffee or towels for all office colleagues.
First, it is not hygienic, I see traces of lipstick from some pal on my cup, or a colleague who was with who knows who last night that put her lips on my cup ...
You are annoyed when someone uses yours things in the office? never
learn any naughty colleague to stop using your stuff? I have several.
learn any naughty colleague to stop using your stuff? I have several.4 people like this
15 responses
@pandaeyes (2065)
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19 Feb 10
Oh yes I really dislike that.
I used to keep a sketch book behind the cupboard(to keep it flat) and I went away for a weeks holiday.
When I came back someone had used it for drawing in.
It had got some splashes on one of my drawing too which weren't there before.
Even now at home, I always ask to borrow from my husband or kids and if they say no then that is their choice, I never ever just pick things up and use them because I want that respect in return.
Some things should always be your own personal possessions
@pandaeyes (2065)
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19 Feb 10
well it should be.
My husbands family don't bother ,they are so rude just taking and using.
I had to say to my husband 'that is my thing, you must ask me not just use as I ask you when I would like to borrow something'.
He still has to be reminded sometimes.
His siblings are all the same and his parents were too.
I think they were both single children and didn't think about teaching their own children respect for property.
We had our roof rack from our car lent without our permission by the father,he just took it off our car and handed it to the brother who didn't bother giving it back.
We had to go and take it back off his car ourselves.
LOL sorry for the ranting.
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@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 10
To me sharing is okay for certain things, But there are things i reluctant to share. For cups, pens, i think its okay for me, provided they return it to me. I will get annoyed if someone used my things and keep it until i ask for it. its just i hate asking for my things back.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
I hate it when I am not around they use my fan without my permission. I mean, its okay for me if they would use my fan as long as they would tell me. The other day I found my fan sitting on a desk and I didnt know who used it. They could have just put it back on my table after they used it but they didnt. Grrr..
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@dilipmiester (932)
• India
19 Feb 10
no most of the situations i wont fell anything if they are using my belongings . but if i am too personal with a thing and they use it in not a good manner which i dont like i may get tensed . but i mostly done worry about my personal things used by others .
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@christinawise87 (856)
• United States
20 Feb 10
I agree I would be upset because this is how flu and things spread. You can also spread things that aren't so great. I have never had this problem, I work from home so I don't have any colleagues but if I did and had the same problems I would be mad. Put Vaseline on the rim of your cup so when they go to use it they will learn there lesson.
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@universe2o6 (356)
• Brazil
20 Feb 10
As long as it's not a personal hygene object like a tooth brush, I really don't see the problem...
I'm not that attached to objects, I really like to share. I think it's just the polite thing to do.
And if someone does eventually break something of mine or harm it in any way, I think it's their duty to replace it or at least fix it...
If they don't, well, what goes around, comes around!
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
23 Feb 10
If they use things without asking me first, i will be plenty upset. However, if they ask me if they can borrow things, I know what they need, why they need it, how they will be using it, who they are, and when I will get the item back, and that it will come back to me in good condition, then I will be more than happy to lend them something.
My step-father worked on the road, and had a special coffee cup that we gave him. He caught a co-worker using it, and told him to get his own coffee cup because "my girls gave that to me" (his girls being my mother, sister and I) and it was special to him.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
I hate it when people use my things and they don't even tell me about it. Specially if I have to look for it, and they'll say, that oh I borrowed it yesterday, I forgot to give it back... I mean, isn't borrowing means that you have to ask for it and not just take it?! Before I had officemates that are like that, always taking things that are not theirs. But now, all of them have already changed jobs, so I don't have any more problems like that.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
hello ice,
i guess respect is the word before anyone uses my things. 
she should ask my permission prior to using it and then it would be fine. i would surely be upset and angry if it is used without my knowledge first before it is used.
ann
she should ask my permission prior to using it and then it would be fine. i would surely be upset and angry if it is used without my knowledge first before it is used.
ann
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
of course i will get angry because that is my personal belongings, and for hygiene reasons that is not really proper to get things especially without permission. or returning it dirty. i will really get irritated those kind of persons.
@brymel25 (285)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Hi there! Well, it really depends. If that colleague asked my permission prior to borrowing something that I own, then it would be fine. But if he/she got it without me knowing or without asking my permission first, then i'd be really pissed. I'd tell her that what she did was wrong. I have the right to be respected too.
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@dragonangel (551)
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20 Feb 10
I could say that I am in most times having a patient attitude towards my friends. And usually when they use my personal things then I could be patient and allow them too do such.Not everything though,probably I could bear seeing them things handy like a face powder or something which they use as long as it won't be like having a contact on my skin and theirs like lipstick, clothes, hairbrush.I can't tolerate a friend once they use things like that.If ever they do I would let them know that I'm not at home with it and probably I could give it to them or rid of the thing after they use it.I'm very particular with hygiene.
@Egocentric (63)
• Romania
20 Feb 10
Well, i used to have the same problem back in high school, alot of people wanted to use my mobile phone because it was a rare release of sony ericsson at that time, and well i was finding myself withouth it many times because they just loved the games and stuff that it had (NOM), but i got used to it and tried not to put too personal things in it and i went along, i dont really used my cell phone either. One thing i wouldnt want someone to look in, is my browser (opera) i have many business tabs open and if someone mess them up its really bad.
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@sxrxnrr45601 (1171)
• United States
19 Feb 10
I would for sure be upset! Upset is an understatement to be honest! I don't even want to think about it lol lol. Is there a way that you could keep your stuff in like say a desk drawer or something. I am sure they are not aloud in your desk drawers, are they? That way if someone does us it your could be like, look it was gottne out of my desk drawer. That's what I would do anyway. That way you can do something about it. Since they seem to be so hard headed they don't want to listen to you.
