Should you go to bed angry with your spouse?

United States
February 19, 2010 10:38am CST
One of the things I never do is go to bed angry with my spouse, because I dont want to wake the next day with the same anger. I decided a long time ago that I loved waking up next to him every morning and seeing his beautiful face, and I did not want anger to mar the beauty I saw in him everyday, so I take the time to discuss my anger and concerns when I have them, that way as I sleep I dream and think good thoughts about him and our relationship, and when I wake I see his beautiful face and fall in love all over again. What do you think about this? Do you ever go to bed angry with your spouse/partner?
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5 responses
• Canada
21 Feb 10
Great discussion. My husband and I are in a second marriage. You think we would know better then to go to bed angry but we sometimes do. On the other hand it was my husband who pointed out to me that although we should never go to bed angry there are times we have to agree to disagree until morning when we can discuss the matter further. It doesn't do either one us any good to be so tired we can not function for whatever the day as in store for us. I agreed!
• United States
21 Feb 10
If this works for you stick with it, because marriage is about what you agree to do together and it works for your marriage. With me if I fall asleep and wake up angry, it doesnt go away and I stay angry all day, however my husband means every single thing to me. He is good and a great man, one of the few genuinely good men, so I try to explain to him what I did wrong or what he did to bother me, once we discuss it I usually find the error in my ways or he gets insight into what I do not like, we appologize and I fall asleep happy, and wake up thinking again how very beautiful both physically and mentally he is and feeling great about his choosing me.
• Canada
22 Feb 10
I love hearing that you have a good man. I call my husband Mr Wonderful as I think he is so amazing. Not perfect but amazing. I came from the view that most men were jerks. I saw few marriages growing up in which I admired the men in how they cared for there wives and family. After my divorce I vowed to stay single in a prayer to God. Eventually I would say okay God I am open to a new marriage but not if I can't have a Mr Wonderful like some women have. I was single for 9 years when I met my husband. I can't believe it sometimes that I am one of the women with one of the good guys. I can't help but believe that if we all wait on God we would all find a good guy. I believe it because if we all waited and held a standard for ourselves that many of the untamed men out there would be changed because they would have to in order to get the good women that they want. Wow this is a deep complicated subject isn't it? So much to say on this one. I just pray that all find love Gods way.
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
its really hard for me..to go to bed with her if i feel angry, it would be better if we get talk things under the sun and make sure that all question had been answered and all doubt had been removed so that on the next.. day.. a new beginning awaits for both of you together..
• United States
25 Feb 10
I agree...
@Chevee (5914)
• United States
19 Feb 10
It is never good to go to bed angry and that includes anger with your spouse too. You should face every conflict right away or as soon as possible. Not facing these conflicts will and can lead to resentment. In Ephesians 4:26 Paul writes "Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. The Amplified Bible says: When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. The scripture is telling you to let go of the anger even if the problem isn't solve. Because in the flesh some problems aren't solved overnight. You are wise to think good thoughts about your spouse. By doing this you are guarding your heart. Your thoughts determine your attitude and your feelings. Be Blessed and have a Blessed Day !
• United States
19 Feb 10
Outstanding answer thank you
• United States
20 Feb 10
wow yeah i think thats awsome, yah i think when i go to slepe mad i wake up and iam even madder so i relized i we resolve are problems before we go to slepe i do feel better and are love seems to grow stronger as the days go by.
@samson1967 (7422)
• India
19 Feb 10
Whatever anger or hatredness might couple have, but it will last only till they go to bed, after going to bed all the differences will vanish and the couple will become single, meaning they merge with each other!!!!