Do you blurt out other people's business by accident?

@thuhuong (828)
United States
February 19, 2010 1:12pm CST
My co-worker went home early so another one asked me if she left. I accidentally blurt out that she had an appointment with the doctor for her children. Thinking it over, I don't think that was a good idea. As confidentiality is important, it's none of anyone's business to know the whereabouts of another. Well, I would stop myself before I say something next time before the whole world knows what's going on just so that I won't get into trouble. Have you gotten into trouble from blurting out another's business even though you didn't mean it?
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• United States
19 Feb 10
Sometimes I do. I feel very guilty as I like being open about things. But as you said it was her childs dr appt and that's technically the stuff you are supposed to keep at home persay. But if you are like me and don't have alot of friends you talk alot to your co-workers sometimes more than you should & vice versa about their affairs outside of work.
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@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
Yes, it does tend to happen a lot more frequently than we think. If we at least backtrack a bit, we'll realize that sometimes, in a large group it's traveling gossip at lightning speed.
• Jamaica
19 Feb 10
well i do not blurt out other people1s business by accident. i try to be on point at all times but if some one do me wrong and it is burning within me to state their business then i just state it without no apology.
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@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
LOL, I have that tendency as well as I feel it happens just in time for you to pay back!
@dawnald (84787)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 10
Yeah once in a long while, I'll say something, not knowing if it was OK with the other person. Then I whack myself and decide not to do it again!
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
LOL that happens and then you just kind of run away for a bit.
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@dawnald (84787)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Feb 10
yup
@wolfie34 (26773)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 10
Sometimes the question may be an innocent one when a colleague asks you where someone has gone, it's difficult to know what to do at times, I mean is the information private, has the other colleague told you this in secrecy or have they been pretty open about it? I think it's a lot to do with office politics. Confidentiality is important but think of it this way what if you responded with I don't know where she is, and later the one who asked you found out that you actually knew? Then you'd be a liar. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer, it depends on the individual and who is asking.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
23 Feb 10
That's very true, as it can get contradictory, no one really wants to be caught up in a lie so either way, it's do or die. A sacrifice perhaps at times and others better to not know at all. Thanks!
@verabear (797)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
I guess when we know some things, we automatically blurt them out too. It has happened to me and sometimes I feel like taking them back but of course once said you can't take your words back right?
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I find that as long as your genuinely sorry, that's ok, however apologies aren't always so pleasant, that's the thing. Nobody wants to be sorry for what they do but in time, we just move on.
@sid556 (30980)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Hi thuhuong, Yes, I've things that I should not have to the wrong person and then realized it as soon as I've said it. It's not a good feeling, is it? I've learned to really think before speaking.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Well in this regard, it's unintentional and then when you really think about, it might actually hurt someone so I guess, being aware of what we say sometimes is healthy but all the time, might as well be a mute.
@much2say (53977)
• Los Angeles, California
19 Feb 10
I never blurt out stuff I know I'm not supposed to blurt - or at least I try not to. But your discussion reminds me of something that happened a few years ago. A bunch of us were in a car on a long drive . . . and we were talking about something "explicit". Well, my big mouth friend blurted out something about one of our friends who was also in the car . . . she said "Well, you're gay so what do you care?!". No one said anything for a moment. No one knew our friend was gay - and she blurted out this personal information without realizing that none of us knew. It's not that we cared that he was gay (we're all open minded and of course we still love him) . . . it's just that this part of him was something he was not ready to share with the world just yet. Believe me it was a real awkward moment.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
That's what I mean, I felt already that there was going to be a moment where my big mouth was going to put someone on the spot whether it be directly or indirectly. It just doesn't chime in at the moment but it does hit you for awhile and then you continue on.
@savypat (20217)
• United States
19 Feb 10
I have been known to do this, open mouth and insert foot. I always beat myself up for not thinking before I speak. So don't tell me anything you don't want others to know or if that is the case tell me clearly so I understand.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
LOL. thanks for the tip, but here, nothing's hidden so you're alright.
@Hatley (164014)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 10
thuhuong I think that depends on the group involved and how close they are as the group I worked with for years were all so close, and we just told each other when we were going to the doctor or whatever and it was no big deal, but if yours is not a close group then lest said the better of course. I have never gotten into trouble saying that one of my co workers had an appointment with the doctor.as we all knew it any how it was not anything to get upset over.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
19 Feb 10
You're right. The group I am with is fairly new so I don't want to stir up anything that hasn't been yet. I'm just aware that I don't want to be the first to initiate a misunderstanding.